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Dear Op....Congratulations on getting back into the game.
You got divorced....it is not a crime...nor is it your fault.

Don't bother about what people say.Be strong,be calm and confident.You are good with your job ...that is why you are back with a bang.

If someone asks....Just say you had a bad marriage and you have put it all behind you and are ready to move on. If someone continues to dig...just say....I want to look ahead and move on...say it confidently.Practice doing this in front of the mirror.

You survived a bad marriage and divorce. You are a winner...don't let a few colleagues put you down.Don't over think.You never know....you might not have to deal with any awkward situation...or you may find people are good and understanding.

As for the location.Go with what you feel good about and what is convenient.

Good Luck Barbie for a fresh and new beginning .:thumbsup

 

Hi barbie,
Congrats for your courage and staring a new life!!!
Show the same courage in meeting people. People will talk wherever you go. They need something to chew and news like these gives them excitement to chew more. So dont care about them.
You got the job for your hard work and talent. Just see which place will gives you the comfort of travel and other things and choose. If you start to run away from gossiping people there is no end to that. Start to answer them back, in a way they dont ask you again. How long they are going to dig the past, till they get some other more interesting thing to gossip.
Start the new life without any guilty feel. Choose the place which is more convenient for you and where you will get the opportunity to reach good positions in job.

 

Being there, done that . Don't worry about what people will think. If I were you, I'd choose the branch that is better for projects/ commute etc and not worry about other people. If someone asks you, simply tell them that you had a bad marriage and decided to get out of it and move on. No need to give details. If you keep it a secret, people will be more curious.
Congratulations on a new start and good luck!

 

Dear Barbie,

God has been very kind to you and you got the job in the same company. You are in a position to start a new life despite the errors in your judgement in the past. Go ahead happily and with confidence.

This means you are valued and wanted by your company Management. It is a very ideal situation. Do not worry about colleagues who just poke their nose in your privacy. Neither be afraid of these guys nor be rude to them. Just ignore them politely and don't bother.

Do not ignore that odd good person/friend who has a kind and genuine interest in you.

You should choose a place of work between the two options, taking in to account--
1) Your safety as a single working women in transport and accommodation.
2) Your convenience in transport.
3) Your performance in the job and career progression.
4) The total time you will spend in transport.
5) Your finances and social support.
6) Your accommodation conveniences.

Beyond the basic needs of food and safety, peace and happiness comes from inside, not from outside.

Be Master of your own affairs. Let not irrelevant others influence your decisions.

Meditate. Live happily. Be a performer.

Best of luck for your future.

 

Congrats, dear. Choose the place which is most convienient and would give you better career progression. As for people who ask questions, remember they mightn't be curious; just clueless. If anyone asks you could say, "the marriage,sadly,didn't work out; moving on..." Any pressing questions, you should sweetly smile and say, "I'd rather not talk about it." And repeat the same line over and over again. Patiently. good-naturedly
In time, the questions will certainly cease.

 

Dear OP,

If the new location will give you more confidence, go ahed and join in the new location. Also being in a new location will give people time to know you before knowing your past ( not that theres anything to be embarrassed about). So you will get time to make new friends, social circle and tell your story your way instead of the gossipy way. It will also provide a change of scenery for yourself.

And real friends will stick with you anyways old or new location. Good luck to you.

 

congrats and best of luck with your job. people love to gossip but it depends on us what we feed them. Never show that their questions upset you. Try practicing the answers to questions that might be asked and repeat it like a tape recorder. They will get bored if they don't get any fodder from you. Be friendly but impersonal. Hopefully you will find the right people to interact with and make good friends. If you respect yourself you will be respected so don't ever think low of yourself.