Finally Its Over

HI

Dont worry about that.. It doesn't matter whether he miss/appreciate you..
Just because he dint appreciate/miss doesn't mean you weren't good/worth it.

Its just that he doesn't know your value yet, or may never know this life time.


Ignore about him/past and start a fresh life... All the best for your future...

 

Hugs to you. I know it is easier said than done, but now that you have shown tremendous courage in walking out - not everyone has the courage to do that - do try to forget him and move on. It will be difficult and take some time, but you will eventually be able to let go of him as a bad memory.

 

Dear anju ,
it's your courage which has made you to walk away from such a looser .
Think about how difficult life was with him and try to feel relieved that finally you are out of that hell.
For now just concentrate on healing . Do not think of past present or future .
Go for counseling , pray , meditate , rest and do whatever it takes to heal mentally and emotionally .
You will come out of this emotional trauma . Make efforts towards it .
You will find hope and peace .
Then only start thinking of future . It will be definitely brighter than your past . A woman's happiness should be independent even when she is in a relationship . It should not depend on her spouse or parents or children .
Take your life in your hands and live the way you feel you want to . Do not compromise your happiness for anything . It's not worth it . Your life is precious enough not to waste it on louts .

 

Anju
You are courageous and intelligent. Many women do not have support of family or a career and have got to stick with their spouses. But you have escaped from this guy, who never deserved you. Go ahead, life is vast, and you have got lot to achieve. You will certainly find one, who values relationship. Kudos to you.

 

OP:
You state that you cried daily for the last three years. Do you think this is normal or healthy? Something is going on in addition to getting a divorce. Shouldn't you be rejoicing in getting rid of an abuser instead of crying? My guess: either you have an underlying depressive disease or you are stuck in some ideas (eg I have to be married to be OK) that you need to get rid of or both. Please please go to counselling. You should be back to life now, perhaps dating, at least having a social life.

 

Honey, the worst is over. You are brave, you are smart.

Go for counselling and come out of this state. It is never too late and you can have a beautiful life like you always wanted.

 

Girl, you are strong!
You dont need that pervert in your life . Its good riddance.

NOW, you can reach for the sky and I am sure you will prosper be a strong independant and successful woman in your life.

There may be times when we doubt ourselves and want to play back all the things that happened and ask god 'Why me?'. Dont do that. This setback has made you stronger. You have a great career and maybe there is something much better awaiting you in your future. All the best!

 

Dear OP You need to believe in God and destiny. Think everything is for good and so be strong. Devote your time on God.
Keep yourself busy. Forget the past.

 

I will borrow my favorite hero's punch dialogue here:

Kanna, kadavul nallavangala sodhipaan, ana kai vida maatan.
kettavangalukku neraya kudupaan. aana kai vittuduvaan.

translates to:

god tests good people, but never gives up on them.
gives a lot to evil people, but gives up on them.




No matter if you are on a high, or a low,
Always remember, this too shall pass!!