Need advice.upset again- New match

ivlakshmi · Feb 17, 2013

Hi friends,
My parents are searching for remarriage. Ever match that comes is upsetting me in one way or the other. Now i got this guy. Guy in good position, earns well , divorcee and age gap is less say 1 yr. Only problem is guy is too short, too thin where as i am bit fat, good height and attractive.
After seeing his picture, i am no way attracted to him in any direction. My mother on the other hand is saying like since I am divorced I need to adjust. Same is the case with father. This guy is 5'4 or 5'5 may be same height of mine.
In my opinion physical compatibility plays a major role in marriage. My parents are saying that i will not get remarried if i draw such lines. This guys parents updated that our horoscopes are superly matching. I am in great confusion. Please advice.

ssm014 · Feb 17, 2013

Hi Lakshmi

Rather than saying outright NO suggest meet up/ chat / speak to the guy.

If he is of same height or even shorter i dont see an issue. my Dad's BIL is shorter than his wife..and that was an arranged match 36 years ago..!

you never know you may have more in common like hobbies, interests, outlook, future plans etc

physical compatibility is imp, but that shouldnt rule over everything else

an ideal partner is one with whom you can visualise growing old with....

fencesitter · Feb 17, 2013

Photos can be misleading. no harm in meeting him at least once!

TheSahil · Feb 17, 2013

I too would say, meet him.

AJ2k13 · Feb 17, 2013

I just thought I would chip in and say 'Meet him'. Once you meet a person, their looks generally take a back seat and their personality takes over.

flowerlady · Feb 17, 2013

Dear IVL,
Please do not lay too much stress on looks , but do meet him . Your parents are right,don't reject outright.
One can see several apparently mis-matched couples happily married because they get along well.
All that glitters is not gold, also never judge a book by its cover.

getstrngth · Feb 17, 2013

I feel you should meet. Look when other factors are meeting ur requirements like job, age , family etc u should let go this. My cousin recently got married. My SIL is slightly taller than him but that didnt matter (it was arranged). Myself and my ex were of same height... Let me give best example Surya Jothika are of same height, infact surya is slightly shorter if u look close. More eg: ARR and his wife, Sachin and his wife.