Problem with Husband..........

hi, i couldn't understand why you want to be with HIM...if your daughter is the reasond she will understand later, you can convience her,......go for divorce..if you cant

try to consult phychologist/marriage councillor...give a try....will change his attitude.....

but my suggestion is go for divorce ...kids shouldn't grow in this type of environment...

 

not psychiatrist ..psychologist...both are different...first one is for mad..sort of..includes medication in that
second one is just councilling...about attitudes...nd personality... but professionals are there like pattabhiram..tell your husband that we both are not happy in this marriage so we both will go..thay will suggest who needs....then he will take...

 

Hi,


@shree123,



what???????

I can just say dhanya ho.......!!!!!

What is this???

Why you wanna be with him???

Psychologist cant change anything in this......

You H is a lying , coniving, lowlife, but i will restrain myself from calling him a PIG.

PIGS also have self respect........

What is the reason???

What makes you think he will have any sensivity towards you or the child.........

I need help in replying........
Please monita,smriti. Satchi, riyagan please make her see light..........

Sorry if anything i said hurt you.......


Sorry.....


Take care
chow

 

how fast you areeee....really laughed by seeing last post...sorry..but you should search one good psychologist then take appointment..then u have to conveince him.....very long process..how can u ask very suddenly ?who will accept that easily....deal everything with patience....n intelligence..ok then bi for now

 

again am telling kid will suffer in this type of environment...go away from him

 

this is a bit complicated issue

i dont think he will come with you to a phsycologist
no man feels he is wrong

and one thing i would like to say is he is not intersted in you
as he is already married with kids
may he married you because of his parents force

he doesnt want to change himself or accept you and your family
may be hes feeling guilty as he is already married and unable to face your family
so you think yourself what to do
being with him or not

kids growing in families like this is not correct
you have to be strong before taking any action

take care

 

Dear Shree,

Now I am going to put some facts in front of you. You may not be happy knowing those, but you cannot ignore them. My intention is not to hurt you, it is to make you aware of your legal situation.

You have mentioned that you were not aware of this man's first marriage before you got married. Fair enough. It is sad that you have been cheated by him.

However, you found out that he is already married and has a kid. I don't know when you came to know that - before or after the birth of your kid. Either way, it is not fair on your part to continue to live with him - you are breaking up his family. Put yourself in the place of that lady and see how you would have felt.

Feelings, rights and wrongs apart, the legal fact is that your marriage does not have any legal standing. He cannot get "legally married" without having obtained a divorce from the first wife. As such, there is no question of you getting a "divorce" from him. Without a marriage, there cannot be a divorce.

We don't know if he plans to get a divorce from his wife or not. If he is not, he is just messing your life about. The best thing for you to do now is to somehow get on your own two feet and separate from him.

As for your daughter, it is a very sad situation. You will have to think what you can do to ensure a secure future for her. The best solution in this case would be to consult a lawyer.

However, if you are 100% sure that he is going to divorce her, then you will have to marry him legally after his divorce is granted.

It is not difficult to answer why he wants to live with you - he wants to two time, have a good time and get your money. He won't allow you to use your money as you like. As for his "relationship with the other lady" continuing, she is not another lady. She is his legitimate wife and they are married. It is very evident from what you say that he has no intentions of divorcing her. He wants money from you to get a divorce from her????? WTH?

This is the state of affairs. It is now upto you to decide how you want to live - would you like to move out, stand on your own two feet and live a life of dignity or would you like to continue to live with a married man who abuses you and has cheated you and whose family subjects you to violence, has no respect for you. On top of that he tries to cut you off from your family. He is taking you for a royal ride and you are going on that ride. Please, please, please sit down calmly and think whether this is how you like to live. My sincere suggestion would be to cut your losses and leave.