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DIVORCE - The HARDSHIP IN RELATIONSHIP

Discussion in 'Life Without Spouse' started by nisha75, Dec 15, 2010.

  1. nisha75

    nisha75 Senior IL'ite

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    DIVORCE - The HARDSHIP IN RELATIONSHIP

    Marriage is an social institution for building relationship & building block of the family & society, when heart's are broken nothing can be done to undo it, except retaining it for rest of Life in memories that never fade.

    The rate of divorce increasingly spoken in media, India having divorces 11 out of 1000 marriage's. What? i feel now-a-days, Divorce is beyond religious or cultural perception. Thoughts and the way of life in this demanding materialistic world has pushed human relationship particularly matrimonial relationship in high stress. Even those who are not opting for divorce are under pressure in managing their matrimonial relationship.

    Let us live together.... never step forward / happen to separate, making it fate. Everyone cannot be perfect and everyone cannot expect perfection from each other, everyone is trying to be perfect in one's sense, but the world has multi-dimensional views. One may find best thing in the other that he/she likes, at same time one can find the worst thing that he/she may dislike. Cope up with it, till you can...

    Divorce is a word spoken far less but when it happens its too much to talk about it. Is it a end to a problem or beginning of problems. It may a end the problem, but may also be a new beginning regarding child custody. The problems faced by the family members in this process are unlimited including mental depression and war of words.

    Have they entered into forced marriage. Is there anything like marriage of convenience. Why not people get adjusted with one another? let them discuss & come to a conclusion. what for they want/need to separate? is it a individuals problem? is this problem raised from one's expectation? is it a problem that is faced by the society due to change cultural adaptability and financial prowess. Has the women's gender equality campaign has given different course of path to divorce? or is the male dominant society is giving way to end relationship?

    Divorce is indeed need of a partner when he/she cannot live in harmony with each other in long-term. It's not a choice but an option. Divorce is not a tool to dissolve marriage in a fashionable way. Never take divorce for everything & anything. You can make it legitimate but things happens never returns to yesterday, yesterday had gone look for the future to find solution to the problem being faced and not an end to relationship. Encourage the well-being of partners in a mutually beneficial, understanding & sharing way of life, consistent to their religion & culture.


    Islamic perspective of divorce:

    http://www.iccuk.org/media/khutbas/Divorce, the Most Hateful Permissible Thing (13-03-09).pdf
     
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  2. blackbeauty84

    blackbeauty84 IL Hall of Fame

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    Nisha,
    Sure the society & everyone is in favour of marriage. One enters marriage with the hope of living with the person for rest of the life. Noone enters with an idea, if this relation doesn't workout i will get divorce in an year or two. Yes, there are cases of divorce for silly issues & ego problems, but still most of the divorces we see are for problems which cannot be solved.

    Is there any point in staying in marriage, when you are unhappy, the relationship cannot be mended just for the heck of staying in the marriage. Unless & until you put in the other person shoe you can't understand why they went for divorce. Talking about sanity of the marriage becomes pointless in mnay cases, where someone is not treated like a human, let alone partner.
     
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