confused on second baby

dear friends,
i have a girl of 4 1/2 age and my hubby is very much interested to have a second baby (boy or girl no problem).
a lot of things are confusing me...

1. my first was a c section, and i had not even a little pain, i don't even know what is labor pain.,

2. many say that doctors will go for c-section only if first is so.

3. i had a strong decision till now that that 1 baby is o.k for our financial status.

4. my hubby says that " u have a sister to share everything. but our kid will feel alone and u will realise this later"

Hi,

In my opinion, don't go for a second child if you don't wish to. You should be mentally prepred to have a second baby.

I am staying in uae and here docs prefer to do normal delivery even though u had a c section before..

Nowadays people without blood relation are much much better than others..So there is no point in saying that u need a sibling to share your feelings... but varies from people to people..


Be happy...

Ansu

thanks ansu for ur immediate fb

i'm trying to convince my hubby what i feel...

Each one's situation is different.So it is up to you to go for the second or not.In my opinion I would go for the second.

If your financial situation doesn't suit then don't think about the second one.
Most doctor's go for Csection for the second ,if your first one was Csection too.

well, having another child is totally individual decision. but do not go ahead of u cannot financially support them. even i hv heard ppl saying 'two for company'.. but personally.. i think its between the hubby/wife to decide.

I will agree with your husband point abt company, but again it depends upon your financial condition, so think twice before your proceed.

meerapavya,

I have seen lot of my friends who went ahead and had a second baby when the first one is 7+ years.
Reasons:The kids were feeling lonely.

Always second delivey is much easy than first one.
So you don't have to worry much on delivery part.

I have 2 daughters and I enjoy them.Especially for growing kids it's always joy if they have sleep over every day and they love it if they have sibling.

HI Meera,
As other ILs said, yes, its truly individual's decision. Dont get it done by force. Two is company but it all depends on your patience levels and financial status aswell. May be take some time and take a wise decision. . Its a point of YES or NO,Either of you need to be convinced.

thank u dear friends, for all ur valuable suggestions

i have decided to postpone this issue to one more year.

in the meanwhile i can decide what to do

I might be a bit late in my response but wanted to reply anyway. There are a lot of things for you to consider before having a second child. What your husband says is a very valid point - its always nice to have a sibling. I have a cousin who is an only child and she swears she hated growing up alone and always said she would have 2 kids when she grew up. May be you can talk to any friends/cousins you have that are only child to get their opinion.

As true as that is, that should not be the only reason to have a second child. If your financial position does not support you having a second child - then don't. It is always better to give one child a good life then to give 2 kids an average life.

I am glad you are giving yourself an year to make the decision. Good Luck!