Do You Think, What We are Doing WRONG?

Lini,
I don't see any reason for you to quit. There is bound to be opposition and criticism for any subject, espcially for such ones. I feel that you should consider those who were following this discussion, will you?
People who disagree or have different opinion should express that in a good manner and you should also be ready to aceept positive and negative responses. Even if people accept or not, there are many things which happen in this world.

First and foremost, IndusLadies is a dignified web portal for people to interact.There is a yellow line that needs to be maintained when such delicate and sensitive issues are being discussed. Unfortunately this thread is too judgmental to begin with and the important line is very blurry. That's why this thread is questionable.

Being in a virtual world, the mods have the responsibility to maintain the image of this portal as well, let's not forget that. Today we think, why not talk about sex - When to do it, who can do it, etc.. Tomorrow there will be justification as to why not I discuss the different postures of having pleasure, talk about kinky stuff and whatnot. So where do we draw the line? Do you get the fix these mods go through?

It's not positive or negative responses to the thread, but the wide analysis of how this thread can be interpreted.

Also, one cannot bring all the stuff happening in this world under one roof - thread. Natpudan had mentioned how crazy this thread was to go about discussing everything under the sun? How can a reader follow up with that? A Thread is supposed to have one main theme to go about so members can understand and give their inputs, no?

This thread talks about Kerala, the freaky kerela men, economy, education, rape-bad things happening, location, the history of kerela, India, society, freedom struggle, ethics, what is right, what is wrong and above all the desire to SEX.It's not bad to talk about SEX, but being in a forum like IndusLadies, it needs some polishing which is obviously missing here.

For those who feel they need to express their feelings towards SEX, I suggest there are many forums especially for that. Please feel free to venture out. IndusLadies is not one of them.

i am not sure if there is a referral system to a panel of IL moderators & senior members, exists in IL.

if it is not then i believe this thread has created enough hype to form one at the earliest.

the panel can decide on the course of action:

1. a friendly advise followed by

2. a guideline on how to express abiding by the forum etiquette followed by

3. a warning and

4. finally deleting the thread and

5. bar the member if repeating similar offence on other threads / posts

the forum moderators & senior members have to play a bigger role than just read, edit offensive content, contact details, etc.

there are lots of young members on this forum who look forward to recceive valuable suggestions from other members on various day to day issues.

hence IL has to commit to the community by guiding those who lose track while vehemently expressing themselves and not just bar the thread / member.

Dear IL’ites,

I am closing this thread because it violates our forum etiquette on multiple angles.

1. Gross generalizations of any state, culture, religion or belief system is just immature. Talk meaningful specifics, not wandering generalities. Else, we won’t progress a discussion.
2. Sex is not a forbidden subject in IL. However, we need to talk about it with a level of maturity & sensitivity that is clearly missing in this thread. Threads like these that talk about sex in a crass and explicit manner isn’t inline with this site’s character and can’t be allowed. There is a much more polished way to discuss the guts of this topic without resorting to the language used in this thread.
3. No one (except a moderator) has the right to ask another person to stay away from a thread.
4. Since the thread didn’t have a central discussion point with boundaries, it got lost along the way. Hard to see a coherence here and that is why everyone got befuddled and stopped contributing.
5. The thread has multiple instances of personal attacks, which are detrimental to the open and friendly atmosphere we want to build in this site.

All of above are part of our forum etiquette so the expectation was already set. Lets learn from this thread and avoid the above in future threads. Thank you.