Let's Share Our Feelings - Part 2

All,

Been busy so haven't had much time to post except one liners.

Mangai, glad that S is getting better. Stick to whatever she will take. If it is juice, so be it. You must be so worried with the India trip also coming up, right. Hang in there.

Meeta, it is tough to be inside all the time. Can you go to the library for story times? Also check your county community centers - some have indoor playgrounds/gyms at minimal prices. Also like Raj said if you go to meetup.com you can search for a local meetup (by zipcode) and join. You can also take her to a nearby grocery store or pet store and walk all the aisles - works for younger ages. If I take P now, he will want to buy many things!

Raj, Hope you can find something that works. Furnished apts are generally expensive since they cater to corporate travellers on short term assignments - have you checked out craigslist? They sometimes have good sublet/temp stuff.

Amitha, nice of your MIL to be understanding. Maybe you have made peace with her

Lavanya hope you are doing better.

Latha I admire your energy to bake and stuff - it is incredible! Let me at least drool at the pictures!

Originally Posted by Amitha

Raj,
We were living in Ellicott city in Maryland which is about 45 minutes from Virginia. How far is Virginia (the place where your DH has to move) from Ellicott city - find out that.

Amitha, the area we are looking at is 40 minutes south of Richmond. I think Ellicott city would be way too north for us. About renting furniture, where did you rent it from?

Originally Posted by pavarun

Raj, Hope you can find something that works. Furnished apts are generally expensive since they cater to corporate travellers on short term assignments - have you checked out craigslist? They sometimes have good sublet/temp stuff.

No, haven't checked Craigslist. I will have to do that. Thanks!

Meeta, I forgot to mention libraries, and also Barnes & Noble have story hours once a week. The other thing I found out recently is that most elementary schools have Family centers and they have weekly baby playgroups (atleast in our area, I am sure you can call and ask) . YOu can find them in your phone book. Make some phone calls, you'll definitely find some things to do.

Hey, it's getting so cold here, a trip to Bahamas sounds so tempting. How are the plans coming up for the cruise?

Latha, looking forward to see the photos of your goodies.

Vanathi, sounds like you're getting the 'baby fever'

Raj

Hi Raj,

Just wanted to caution you on the listings in Craigslist ; most of them are scam ones ! The photos on the listings can also be extremely misleading . We had experienced the same while hunting for furnished short-term rentals, both in Montreal and in Alberta. The one in Montreal was so dirty and tiny in a seedy looking building, with an awful , smelly , shared laundry[which we didn't dare use for the whole of our stay] and a very very scary elevator !!! We bore it for the 2 weeks it took us to get a more decent albeit more pricey one in a better, family neighbourhood ; forfeited the remaining 2 weeks rent + deposit & literally rushed out of there.

If at all you find some place you like on Craigslist, do see that the phone number is given -- so that you can directly call & check. Most of the promising ones give only email contact & the reply you get will be on the lines of .." I'm in Africa/Nigeria --- doing charity work/nursing/caring for AIDS patients --- I want God fearing, people who will keep flat clean etc. --- send money thro' DHL will send you the keys etc. etc. "

Better to go thro' reliable, real-estate agents ; though pricier, you can be assured of safer and quality apartments.

Good Luck Dear.

Hi ladies,
Atlast got some time to update.Still she has fever.I'm going to see her ped tomorrow.Planning to do a strep and check for uti.I'm not sure what we will do if she everything turns -ve and she still has fever.She has become so thin .I'm thinking of starting anti-biotics anyway.
Mangai

Mangai be strong and take care, it's stressful when kids are sick. She'll be alright soon.....Raj all the good luck hope u find a good place and enjoy with your DH.......Latha how's Lil A doing on solids....u must be having a great time. So what r u guys planning for the weekend.......We're planning to shop school bag, lunch box, water bottle...for kriti , she'll be going to play group from 2nd Jan.....vow i'm so excited. I love shopping for her from sippers, spoons etc to even snacks...There's so much joy in buying new things for her...........And here's LIL Kriti.........

Originally Posted by Traveller

Oh I was so upset y'day and my boy drew a sun for me and sang a nice song
Latha

That was so sweet of him! Did you find a place for your holiday?

Originally Posted by mangaii

She has become so thin .I'm thinking of starting anti-biotics anyway.
Mangai

Hope you find out why she is still continuing to have fever. Try not to worry about the weight loss - it will all come back as soon as she starts eating.

Originally Posted by booboo

We're planning to shop school bag, lunch box, water bottle...for kriti , she'll be going to play group from 2nd Jan.....vow i'm so excited. I love shopping for her from sippers, spoons etc to even snacks.........

Hvae fun Uma! Thats an adorable pic - a big to krihi - she looks so cute!

Raj - if you are totally unable to go with Dh a couple of "radical" ideas - could your mom/dad/both come for a couple of months? Or better still lock up the house, put the dogs in a kennel and take a long trip to India with Riya! Think about it....

I'm leaing for Madras tomorrow night - a whole 10 days! Wanted to get one last long visit in before starting work. I'll still keep logging in here so you wont miss me

V.

Thanks Sindhu. I made a rich festive almond cake, an italian fruit cake (this was made on Sunday), a cookie, a stollen (yeasted fruit cake-german traditional) and y'day tried my hands at praline. Actually making chocolate wasn't difficult. It only needs some time in the fridge and as always in my case when that should be attended to so are the other family members. Everytime i bake/make a dessert i'm so much waiting for that right stretch of time without disturbance and it's always after 11pm. And with 2 kids i can't make any noise or the oven must not release smell so late... these are my husband's theories.

y'day i thought to myself why i should have such interests at all in life. My DH thinks i'm being 'selfish' and doing things only that i want to doRant. Well the reason was i wanted to wrap whatever things i made (mornings are strictly not for that purpose), finish making the chocolate while he can engage elder A. He was giving me lots of time-out (at one point i counted till 150) since the time i picked him up from school. Sometimes DH thinks because he leaves him at school i have all the time on earth and i'm wasting my time. So i asked him to come home early, not only because i had these projects but also because i was mentally exhausted handling our boy.

And you know after dinner only i have to put things away. Our kitchen is way too small. I must clear up if i should do other work in there. I was trying to take the baking pan from the cupboard, these 2 men were in and out of the kitchen constantly (now that's how daddy engages the boy... always in MY WAY!) i bumped badly on my head. And that's it the monster in me woke up.

This morning too i felt like this is the age i can try things; baking is my passion now and i really want to do something once in a while and even that's seen as something minor by DH. Whereas i should accomodate and 'co-operate' to all his interests. I didn't want to rant but i want to get this feeling out of my mind.

actually right now i feel i should throw away my baking pans, cook books, knitting stuff and see if that brings some peace.

sorry for the ranting girls i feel so low right now. i'm trying to understand how much we should put aside our hobbies, interests, passions. DH is never able to say to himself 'okay whatever happens i'll come home by 6 or 7' and that is accepted. But if one day i want to 'work' extra hours to bake or knit etc., then i'm being selfish...

Latha

Hey V,

I've zeroed in on 2 places. Both are kids-hotels, have child-care facilities (hurray!) and things like bobby car, indoor activities and wellness therapies for the parents. But i should make sure they have something really interesting happening for the kid during christmas too. Here everything shuts down and we can be in for a surprise. I'm going to call them today. One place is close to Czech border and may be then we can even drive through.

My plants are really weepy. Should we water plants in winter?

i'm going to get ready and just step out. I need fresh air (it's snowing huge huge flakes outside) and not get this negative energy of mine accumulate inside the home.

Latha

Raj,
We never rented any furnitures, but our neighbours did. It costed them $100 for furnishing the whole house for a month. It is called Aaron furnitures. There are so many places who give furnitures on rent - browse.

Originally Posted by Riyasmommy

Amitha, the area we are looking at is 40 minutes south of Richmond. I think Ellicott city would be way too north for us. About renting furniture, where did you rent it from?



No, haven't checked Craigslist. I will have to do that. Thanks!

Meeta, I forgot to mention libraries, and also Barnes & Noble have story hours once a week. The other thing I found out recently is that most elementary schools have Family centers and they have weekly baby playgroups (atleast in our area, I am sure you can call and ask) . YOu can find them in your phone book. Make some phone calls, you'll definitely find some things to do.

Hey, it's getting so cold here, a trip to Bahamas sounds so tempting. How are the plans coming up for the cruise?

Latha, looking forward to see the photos of your goodies.

Vanathi, sounds like you're getting the 'baby fever'

Raj

Latha, don't know what to tell you about your hubby's inability to put your (emotional) needs first. Every now and then is all you ask - and that's not asking too much!

My dad can be like that with my mom, and I hate it. I have talked and discussed it with him many, many times, but it has not helped at all - some men just fail to understand. My dad is a wonderful man, a good father, a good husband - like your husband - but when it comes to some important things in life that really matter, he totally fails to get it.

Originally Posted by mangaii

Hi ladies,
Atlast got some time to update.Still she has fever.I'm going to see her ped tomorrow.Planning to do a strep and check for uti.I'm not sure what we will do if she everything turns -ve and she still has fever.She has become so thin .I'm thinking of starting anti-biotics anyway.
Mangai

Mangaii, hopefully the fever goes away, and the test results come out negative too. Praying for your little girl.

Uma, thanks! Your little angel is adorable!

Grace, thanks for the info on Craigslist. I'll keep it in mind.

Originally Posted by Aadhusmom

Raj - if you are totally unable to go with Dh a couple of "radical" ideas - could your mom/dad/both come for a couple of months? Or better still lock up the house, put the dogs in a kennel and take a long trip to India with Riya! Think about it....

I'm leaing for Madras tomorrow night - a whole 10 days!

Vanathi, have fun in Madras. Are you going to visit your dad? My parents can't come for a long stretch of time as they are planning to make a visit to my dad's Kuladeivi temple in the south for Pongal in Feb. It doesn't make sense to fly all the way here just for a couple weeks. As for me flying to Delhi, I wish I could. I shudder to even think of 16 hours of travel with a toddler. Hubby and I did discuss about this possibility though, but I don't have the courage to manage Riya on my own while traveling.
Another issue is that my ILs are asking me to come and stay with them in Colorado while hubby's gone. In fact, my MIL has plans that doesn't even include asking us first!!! (I'll save that story for another time). I told her I have things planned here, and that I want to prove myself that I can manage on my own for a while. So, you see, another reason why I can't ask my parents to come here, or fly to Delhi.

Raj