Let's Share Our Feelings - Part 2

Originally Posted by Aadhusmom

Must start thinking about a dog sometime next year....or am I crazy for thinking I can manage a "terrible two" and a puppy?

Yes, since you asked I tell you this - you are absolutely crazy to want a pup at this stage! I have had two puppies in my life and trust me, it's like having another baby. They need to be potty trained from day one, unlike a baby - otherwise your house will turn into one big toilet area, they need to be disciplined from day one, unlike a baby, and they will keep the family up the whole night initially as they go through separation anxiety from their mom and the other litters... basically they're a little too much work to handle. Don't get me wrong, Vanathi, I LOVE dogs, we have two at our hourse and one at my parent's house, but I don't think it's a good idea to have a puppy when you have a little one of your own - until they are trained, they can be a lot of work. It may be a good idea to get a puppy when Aadhu's a little older and is ready to take on some responsibilities of the puppy, like helping you take it for a walk, or feed the puppy etc - excellent way to teach him a thing or two on responsibilities too. Just my two cents...

Mangai, doesn't sound good what poor S is going through. What did the doctor at Urgent Care say? I hope she feels better soon.

Nila, welcome to IL.

Uma, join the club. I am not making plans for the career, but I had plans to go back to school but now I have to hold it off for a while as hubby will be traveling and studying for a while. He can't hold off as it's his job related.

Lavanya, I hope your family gets better soon too. It's good to have parents around at a time like this. Extra set of hands to take care of the baby while you catch up on some zzzs is a blessing.

Sindhu, I am glad you 'rescued' Micky. Whew! Is Micky P's 'lovey', if he is, then you may want to get another one that looks just like the one P has right now and stash it away safe in case Micky gets lost again. I read this in an article on 'loveys' in a parenting magazine. They also said that it won't be a bad idea to lay down the rule that the 'lovey' won't go anywhere outside the house. It always stays home, and instead give two other choices to the kid - for instance, choose between the red car and the bear to take with you.

Okay, lecture over. I'll stop off from my soapbox and get back to my chores. Riya just fell asleep to take her nap, after two hours of fussing and crying. We had this sleep/nap routine all under control and now the recent bout of cough and cold has messed it all up. Oh well, C'est la vie!

Raj

Vanathi, I feel I may have ranted a little too much on the puppy issue bonk but I have seen a lot of people getting pups/kittens for their kids without realizing how much exta work a pet can be. As a result, these poor little things get neglected. Hope you didn't mind me saying all that, but it was just a word of advice coming from a pet owner and an animal lover.

Raj

oh Mangai.. i wish Sakthi gets well soon.. poor thing! there were some cases of vomitting at A's pre-school too and parents that's the worst sickness.

Lav,

I agree with Raj too. A doesn't have a pet cuddly but sometimes he insists on bringing a car or toy along when we go out. Once he lost a plane and after that he says i'll not bring anything outside. So now he knows if he at all carries any of his toys with him out then it's his responsibility to keep them safe!

small one is up... bye!
Latha

Hi all, yes, Mickey is P's latest lovey. He has it only since 3 weeks, but it is with him all the time (except when he is at daycare) I really should find and get one more, just in case. (Thanks for your advice Raj & Latha, I should make it a rule that it does not leave the house but the morining grind is so tough that even Mickey has to "go to Mouse school" - anything to get him out the door happy)

Read a poster at one of the nurse's station at the doctors office and it was so funny I wanted to share it with you:

If Men got Pregnant:

1. Maternity leave would be 2 years, with full pay.
2. Men would be on bed rest during the entire pregnancy
3. Natural delivery will be obsolete

And here is the one where I just burst out laughing:
4. Newborns will be kept in the hospital until they are toilet trained

How's that for a pick-me-upper?

Originally Posted by mangaii

I'm going to take her to Pedi first thing in morning.I hope we pass this soon.I can't see her throwing up like this anymore.
Mangai

What did the pedi say? is she doing better?

Originally Posted by Riyasmommy

Yes, since you asked I tell you this - you are absolutely crazy to want a pup at this stage! I don't think it's a good idea to have a puppy when you have a little one of your own - until they are trained, they can be a lot of work. It may be a good idea to get a puppy when Aadhu's a little older and is ready to take on some responsibilities of the puppy

Raj

Originally Posted by Riyasmommy

Vanathi, I feel I may have ranted a little too much on the puppy issue bonk
Raj

No problem Raj I had my first dog at 6 and we have always had dogs at home (maternal home that is), still do. The ILs have a dog too, so I totally get what you are saying about them being hard work and responsibility. DH actually wanted one last year (friend of ours was giving away pug pups) and I put my foot down. Original plan was to wait until A is atleast 3 or 4. But sometimes I really miss having a dog around and I get crazy and think I can handle a toddler and a pup! Both DH and I love dogs but guess I will use my sense on this one and wait.

Originally Posted by pavarun

If Men got Pregnant:

1. Maternity leave would be 2 years, with full pay.
2. Men would be on bed rest during the entire pregnancy
3. Natural delivery will be obsolete

And here is the one where I just burst out laughing:
4. Newborns will be kept in the hospital until they are toilet trained

How's that for a pick-me-upper?

Big Laugh

V.

Raj, V,

Now that we talk about dogs i remembered a cutie we saw at DH's colleague's. They had got it when their girl was 6 months. But you know in Germany there are training professionals and they do the job like potty training etc., So atleast that part is taken care of.

My maternal grandparents' home always had 3 dogs at one time and from my first pay what i got was a puppy:) We named him Kevin (now don't ask me why...) and he was such a cutie pie. He was a tibetian terrier cross and was a very very sensible one. Right from the day he came home (he had some skin infections so no one would buy him but my brother liked him at first sight!), he was already a 5 month old puppy, he never once peed inside the home, never ever took food that wasn't in his plate. He died few months after aniish was born and even now my brother misses him.

So now coming back to the original story, that dog is like a play-mate to the girl. She pulls his tail, throws toys at him, wrestles with him but he's obliging to everything. Now the girl's brother too (he was born the same day as A) rags the dog like anything. We know of another friend too, in Germany, that got a dog when their boy was 5 months old. But as I said here the trainers are really good.

Oh now I wish we too can have a little puppy. They do bring a certain discipline. Like A's teacher said (she has 2) no matter wind, storm, rain, snow you must go on a walk with them and on particular times.

Latha

Thanks Raj I've decided to enjoy this mother solely for sometime. DH is a pet lover and i'm totally against it for sometime, atleast till Kriti is old enough to handle. For sure we'll have(not sure how many) when we settle in some other Country, as we also have migration plans.....It's for sure kids will learn to be more responsible. Now we have an aquarium and she's so caring about the fishes-Every time she wants to feed them-Even now she said "Amma peas(pls) amma enthukonga chish kku tood podanum"Nice ones Sindhu but i have to say DH is of great help in potty training her. Like a PM i designed the schedule, target etc, he's the one implementing. Poor guy wakes up midnight and puts her on the potty. She's doing really well. I hope by 2 i'll completely eliminate diapers. Now we use it only when go away for hrs and even if it's 3++ hrs her diapers r clean and immediately i put her on the potty once back home. All credit goes to DH yaaay!!!!!!!!!

Originally Posted by mangaii

Hi everyone,
My little one has been sick for past 2 days with fever mostly staying at 103.I took her to Urgent Care.But she started throwing up food.Today morning she is throwing up all white liquid stuff .I'm getting worried.I'm positive we are going to cancel our trip .Usually if she has a fever and if medicated it breaks down in couple of hours.But this time its kind of not coming down and her body is always very hot.I'm going to take her to Pedi first thing in morning.I hope we pass this soon.I can't see her throwing up like this anymore.
Mangai

Mangai how is your LO now? What did the doctor say? I hope she gets well real quick.

Originally Posted by pavarun

Hi all, yes, Mickey is P's latest lovey. He has it only since 3 weeks, but it is with him all the time (except when he is at daycare) I really should find and get one more, just in case. (Thanks for your advice Raj & Latha, I should make it a rule that it does not leave the house but the morining grind is so tough that even Mickey has to "go to Mouse school" - anything to get him out the door happy)

Read a poster at one of the nurse's station at the doctors office and it was so funny I wanted to share it with you:

If Men got Pregnant:

1. Maternity leave would be 2 years, with full pay.
2. Men would be on bed rest during the entire pregnancy
3. Natural delivery will be obsolete

And here is the one where I just burst out laughing:
4. Newborns will be kept in the hospital until they are toilet trained

How's that for a pick-me-upper?

This is super fun Big Laugh.

Hey ladies,

I have been on/off from this post for sometime. To tell you the truth, I don't have internet connection at home and I am stealing somebody's wii-fii . So sometimes it gets connected real easy, other times it doesn't - and it has to match with the time when I get free time.

Both my boys are having cold/cough again. Took both of them to the ped today and Akki was to receive some vaccinations. Poor thing cried so much. I am myself having bad cough - is it Bangalore weather?

Hey my MIL called me up and told me "since the LOs are not keeping well you stay back in Bangalore. No need to come to Kerala. I will come myself to meet you". I am so happy that she understood my situation - I explained the whole situation to her. I am very happy that she has been nice to me.

19th Appu has Fancy dress day in school and I haven't decided anything about what he will wear to school that day. Any suggestions are most welcome .

What are you ladies planning for the new year? We are deciding and deciding, but we are not able to freeze on anything. Totally confused. I always thought Christmas celebration was an easy thing, but whenever I read Raj' posts I realise so much work goes into celebrating it. I think almost one month's efforts are involved in christmas celebration, isn't it Raj?

Originally Posted by Aadhusmom

No problem Raj I had my first dog at 6 and we have always had dogs at home (maternal home that is), still do. The ILs have a dog too, so I totally get what you are saying about them being hard work and responsibility.

Ah, nice to meet you dog lovers. Vanathi, I must say, one of the many things I like about you is that you don't get easily offended. I have seen a lot of ladies here in IL, who get offended by simple, little things, they take everything very personally but not you.

Originally Posted by Traveller

So now coming back to the original story, that dog is like a play-mate to the girl. She pulls his tail, throws toys at him, wrestles with him but he's obliging to everything. Now the girl's brother too (he was born the same day as A) rags the dog like anything.

No trainers here, Latha. We have taken them to obedience training, and they have also gone through the 'Good Citizenship training' by the American Kennel Club. They are not always good citizens , but most of the time they are. What can I say, they are dogs after all.

Our younger dog tolerates Riya very well. Riya will pull her tail, tickle her paws, pull her hair and Leela will just lay there. Now Kuro doesn't like his paws touched or hugged too much (I call him our teenager, because he acts like one) - he acted like a total teenager when hubby and I got married, but he's getting better with Riya too. He's the protective one though. Right from day one, if Riya even whimpered in her crib, he will go running to her as if he's the one who's going to nurse her. The minute she wakes up, he will know and he'll come running to me, and run back to the room and scratch on the door to tell me that she's up. If a guest comes and holds Riya, he'll sit right next to them to make sure the baby is safe. Dogs are fun! Right now we are teaching Riya to be 'gentle' when petting them, her movements are so jerky when she's pets them.

Originally Posted by Amitha

Hey my MIL called me up and told me "since the LOs are not keeping well you stay back in Bangalore. No need to come to Kerala. I will come myself to meet you". I am so happy that she understood my situation - I explained the whole situation to her. I am very happy that she has been nice to me.

What are you ladies planning for the new year? We are deciding and deciding, but we are not able to freeze on anything. Totally confused. I always thought Christmas celebration was an easy thing, but whenever I read Raj' posts I realise so much work goes into celebrating it. I think almost one month's efforts are involved in christmas celebration, isn't it Raj?

What an understanding MIL you have! No plans for the New Year's night yet. MY ILs are going to be here for a couple days after Christmas. We will probably rent a movie and watch it on the 31st night. Before Riya we used to go to friends' houses but it's not possible to do that anymore.

Yes, Christmas is the busiest season of all for Christians. Lots of get togethers, church services, potluck dinners so lot of baking and cooking, shopping, gift giving. And now with Riya it's busier with playgroup parties, children's events etc. We still have to go get a picture taken with Santa. We may do that this weekend.

We had couple inches of snow two nights ago and now it's all icy and mush. Yuck!! I have to go and get our car's windshield replaced. Not looking forward to that at all.

Raj