My Lo hits herself often

1. Is she doing when she tired and hungry or all the time?

As she is constipated and passing blood in stools, she has cuts in her rectum I think, so it is painful for her and very irritating as a whole for her. Are u applying any cream for her rectum to cure this, apply it 3-4 times, I think u already doing it. (not diaper rash cream, ask doctor for which cream to apply)

So because of constant pain and irritation she is showing her anger by hitting.

2. She should feel that she loved a lot. give plenty of kisses and hugs and put ur hand on her head etc all the time when u r with her. When u come home for few weeks don;t do anything except bathroom needs. u stay with her and play with her , put her in your lap and put ur hand on her hair and talk something. sing rhymes or bedtime songs, tell story with lot smile and laughs and surprising emotions on ur face, she will love that. Till she sleeps, u do, and sleep with her only. Is she sleeping separate in her room? I feel let her sleep with you. She has to think even mommy send me out for few hours she will be with me all the time when she picks me up. Also while doing this send only half day to day care for a week and gradually increase time.

3. don't take away something or pull her towards u but talk to her 2-3 times so she can understand what u r saying and slowly take her towards you smiling. I know how tough after tiring and hectic days how tough to smile, but u will get it as a habit and u like it too, as she will smile and respond positively. Tell ur husband also to love a lot. u both Spend one-on-one time with her.

4. And don't react to her hitting by anger or hitting back, just move away and dont see towards her, let her come to you . Then teach her to say sorry for her misbehavior, and tell it is paining etc.

Try all these patiently, hire somebody to cook, (do inquiry in indian stores to get a cook), appoint cleaning lady, so that u can spend all ur time with her. she will not be angry.

5. Register ur self (ur baby's birhtdate) to babycenter.com, u will get emails for ur kid age what to focus or new in this month for baby. lot of knowledge. it is very good. U will see columns on this hitting in toddlers also.

6. Read some books also in kindle or as a book from amazon.com

I like this:
http://www.amazon.com/Happiest-Todd...sr=1-1&keywords=happiest+toddler+on+the+block

Hope her constipation got better now.

 

If she drinks "similac advanced stage 2" give it to her, little diluted than said on the tin.
It can be given till she reaches 2. It can help constipation issue.

I would suggest to give formula till 2 years, as tin itself says so. or morning on formula and night on cows milk. But at least give formula 3 times per a day.

 

@@sanjuruby3 - Hugs to you and your LO. I am sure it is just a phase and will pass. Meanwhile as others suggested, please hold her hands/distract and do not react to her hitting herself. I am telling this from my personal experience. My son (11 mo old) never hits but he loves to pull my hair. I tell him that it hurts with expression like eyes popping out. So, when I carry him on my hip, he would pull my hair, peep to see if I have any reaction. I then started to ignore and take his hands away from hair. He would try to pull harder and turn his head to look at me. I repeatedly ignored him and this behaviour drastically reduced.


Please take care of her constipation first. I know you already are. Poor baby must be in pain. I hope she gets relieved soon. Once this is taken care, I believe the tantrums will reduce. Others have given you a lot of good suggestions. Give plenty of attention and love to her.

 

I'm as her constipation is getting better.

It does worry me though that the day care hasn't changed the poor lite one's nappy. Try have to. It is what you are paying them for. Talk to them about it and ask I'd they would give her special care due to her history. If they won't you might want to start checking out other day cares in your area.

IMO, she is still too little for you to ignore her hitting. You need to engage but tell her firmly that something is not done and distract her. "Be nice." "Hitting is disrespectful." Etc. There is a phase where kids will oppose parents and back chat. There are ways and means of dealing with it. Hitting is not the solution. We as parents need to have diffevent kids of solunions in place. Check out parenting books and shows like supernanny. There is a plethora of information online. It involves moving away from what we've seen in India. It is essential for your child's wellbeing. So, do invest effort and time into it.

 

OP,

you first mentioned about your dd's bloody stools a few months ago in the summer if I recall correctly. Now it is nearly October. Maybe due to your hectic schedule you have not realized the passage of weeks. So I wanted to make you aware. Your dd's issue persisting for such a long time now, at least couple months is not good for your little baby OP. Maybe she is in so much pain she is hitting herself. If you ask me, it is high time you take this seriously now and find a solution for this problem. Please consult a doc asap and get help for your little baby.

 

sanju,

Maybe what I say will sound old fashioned to you but it is what I believe. Health is most important. If possible take leave from your job or arrange to work from home till the stools issue is resolved. If your baby is unwell you are allowed to take leave to take are of it.

As to the other issues, frankly it sounds to me like she is not ready yet for the daycare, or at least the type of daycare you are sending her to. 15 months is very small. If it is at all possible pull her out and try again when she is around 18 months. Around 18-20 months what I remember is that the kids go through a huge shift, emotionally and developmentally also they are ready for change and socialization. It could just be that you have done it a bit too early. If I were in your place I would look for other options till then. The good news is that kids grow and change very fast so even if you do make some changes like WFH or take leave it will be only for a short time till the situation corrects itself. But anyway this bloody stools is top priority now so do the suggested medicines regularly and keep doc in loop. Digestion problem now will lead to other problem later, so dont neglect. It is not correcting by itself so you have to work with the doc to make it go away.