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Highly Stressed Out with Kid not Eating and Loosing Weight & Work.

Discussion in 'Infants' started by sanjuruby3, Aug 24, 2015.

  1. Laks09

    Laks09 Moderator Staff Member IL Hall of Fame

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    Sanju - I personally feel a one year old is just too young for day care if a nanny is available. We send toddlers to day care to socialise but a one year old cannot and definitely will not play with her peers. If you already had a nanny, did you have any issues with the nanny to switch to a day care now? If you can wait until she is 2.5 and eating, potty trained and talking well etc, you will feel more comfortable sending her to a day care. Even she will adjust sooner. With a lot of peers of her age she will enjoy playing with kids there and want to go.
    If she absolutely must go to a day care, I suggest you find out the routine from the daycare staff and take a few days off and get her on that routine. Maybe she isn't hungry at the day care set lunch time and can't ask for food later. Like everyone said, if she is hungry she will eat but you have to ensure she is hungry when the daycare says she should be. One year olds are too young to really self feed an entire meal. Is she with a bunch of older kids? I don't remember either of my kids eating by themselves until they were closer to 18 months. Until then, they snacked on things like Cheerios etc but they can't eat an entire meal all by themselves even with supervision. They have to be fed.

    Hth.
     
  2. preesmiles

    preesmiles Silver IL'ite

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    I second what Laks09 said about day care vs nanny. A child that young will benefit from more personal attention with the added bonus of not getting sick from other kids at day care.
    Toddlers go through phases where they might refuse to eat. They might also lose a bit of weight because they are growing taller. If your pediatrician is not worried, I suggest you take a step back and stop trying to force good on the baby, that might back fire later and can create good aversions. A stressful feeding situation won't help the baby eat any better.
    Also look up baby led weaning, (search for it on Facebook as well and you can join support groups). I guess the day care expects her to self feed and doing baby led weaning can be a start in that direction. I have been doing that with my son since he was 6 months old. He is 11 months old now, has no teeth but he eats by himself :) I try hard not to coax him to take an extra bite or anything like that and to trust that he will eat as much as he needs. Here is an article with some ideas that you could probably adapt to Indian tastes. They mention an important point there that as parents, our job is to provide good food, at the right time, how much of that to eat is up to the kids.
    Feeding the Picky Eater | Ask Dr Sears
    Another article to help calm some of your fears
    Toddlers May Be Picky Eaters - Feeding the Picky Eating Toddler, Why Toddlers are picky eaters!
    Don't stress out too much, it's a phase and it will pass.
     
  3. KashmirFlower

    KashmirFlower IL Hall of Fame

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    Between 1 to 2 years baby does lot of progress from walking to running to jumping and understanding words to talking. Lot of growth happens.

    Their separation anxiety also reduces gradually. Baby gets stamina in this period.

    my son got fever, cold and cough several times, and stomach upset now and then because of lot of milk in take, it got fixed when i started diluting milk with some water. Now at 2.5 years still I mix some water to his milk.

    What I want to say is in this 1-2 years phase baby gets sick often like colds , fever and stomach upsets as they start eating new foods now, some may give trouble. so she needs lot of attention by a care taker (to observe when she is hungry, when her stomach is upset in the first day itself, etc) when u r not with her.

    So I too think nanny at ur home and u working from home when she is sick or she not eating well , so u can watch her every few hours.
     
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    She is resisting changes happened in her life like going to new place like day care and facing new people. They don't believe new people. it takes time for babies.

    try cheerios, multi grain , whole grain crackers, Ritz crackers.

    Yea , forcing to take medicine my son too vomited quite few times,

    What I do is I don't give medicine after his eating or drinking milk but before I give (not on fully empty stomach), wait for 10 min then give food or milk.

    If more than 1 type medicine is there, I give break between each medicine, otherwise he will vomit.

    Keep finger food or some fruit like banana, crackers or her fav food visible and arm reachable to her at home when she is playing or she is with you, see if takes it into hand and will eat.
    (Now my son does eat fruit when i give, but later comes and takes from table, he is 2.5 though)

    processed food kills hunger and kids get used to maggie etc foods very easily and don't eat real food.



    When they reach 2, they play with other kids and they know that mother will be there to come and pick up or at home, now as she too young to understand how many hours etc, she is not understanding that how soon u will come to pick u. so confusing to her.

    Yes if you can do part time now (half day) or join after 1 year it is great to ur baby.
    Or nanny at home , for first 1 week u and nanny both at home so she gets used to it.



     
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    If your manager is supporting you by giving work from home and some early going home to attend sick kid etc, that is all you needed now.

    You go with your pace in your work, if you can't meet dead line talk to manager so that they can share your work with other team members.

    If phone calls are unnecessarily killing your time in the morning, ask manager to assign somebody to phone call thing, the meeting summary can be emailed to u and manager, so you can do your project based on that summary.

    Or take some low priority project and keep working on your pace, put less hours in time sheet. now for 1 year you can do something like this. in your life so precious things are happening like baby birth and her she growing as a toddler,

    "Please Don't think u need to compete with other team members at this time", as more important is happening now in your life. Soon you can pick-up in your career.

    I think you are already working for long time with this mgr, so they know u and support u till ur kid settles down. Her health is imp and they are also parents faced it some time,
     
  6. ramyaramani

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    When a baby reaches 1 year of age, there is a drop in appetite. They will not eat the same quantity as they did earlier. This is also the prime age for molar and canine teething. Both of them are painful and quite a few babies stop eating during this phase. Just imaging someone forcing you to eat when you have a toothache.

    Keep offering her food. Let her decide what and when she wants to eat. No kid will go hungry. They will always eat when they are hungry. It is upto to the caregivers to provide healthy choices.

    Also there is no good girl/bad girl with respect to eating.
     

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