Am i spoiling baby development with Over care?

Reesha · Nov 25, 2014

hi,

My baby completed his 9 months just 3 days ago. he is 1 month premature baby that mean he came out just next day of my 8 month+. So he weighs just 2 kg when we're out from hospital. so i cared him too much from starting onwards. he gained 3KG by 3rd month. when i gone to checkup, pediatrician said baby development will be 2 months late compare to other babies. so don't panic with comparisons. later at 5 month age, doctor says that baby had healthy weight. at 7th month doctor says that every baby have weight in between particular range that is min to max. so my baby is at max level for that age . by that age he didn't crawl & didn't try to roll out at least. all of my relatives & parents commenting like because of over weight he will do things slowly compare to other childrens.

it's true i care my baby very much. i feeded him sevaral times during his first 6 months with out his demand, just based on 2 hours tim gap bases. later also...i feed him solids & did Breast feeding as well as to make him sleep. so he weighs more. but now he weighs correct weight(9.2kg) from 2 months onwards because he is using walker.

baby able to sit on his own if i help him to sit. but he can't change himself from lying down position to sitting position on his own. i need to put pillow on his back for safety purpose because he may fall down back.

baby able to walk in walker if i keep him in it. but didn't try to stand on his own by holding some support.

if i left him on lying down position, he is not trying to any other moments like rolling out & crawling. he will cry for someones help to make him sit.

from 1 week onwards, when he is sitting position, he is trying to grab toys with hands which are far from him. but in this trail, he fell down on his tummy & not able to roll over or crawl forward/backward.

he is not yet mobile with out walker help. am i doing wrong by taking over care which made him weighs more? he is at correct weight now. but he crossed his past months which he has to learn some steps.

Sorry for long post. just i want to explain his position from starting.so...

rose8282 · Nov 25, 2014

Different children will cross their milestones at different ages. It's wrong to compare. Also try to avoid using the walker. Your baby will eventually learn to move/walk without it. Sometimes walker actually delays walking. Here in US, they advise against it. If you are giving healthy food, it's ok if he weighs more. It's better as he has good appetite and can eat well. So keep doing what you do.

pantu · Nov 25, 2014

My children never used walker. Baby fat is okay. His appetite is good that is a good thing. Your sofas are soft ? Then take him there practice him some standing there. He
will grab the sofa don't worry . Just sit there watch him so he does not fall. Some
babies do fast , some are little slow. I think he is doing fine.

shari2003 · Nov 27, 2014

I think its better not to use walker. Children start moving on their own using a walker, but, they dont learn to walk using it (its my opinion, though). Instead, try continuously to make your baby sit, lay him on his tummy and help him to gently roll over while he lies on his back. He might be a little slow, but don't worry. He might cover his sitting, crawling, standing and walking milestones within a week.

sumanrathi · Nov 27, 2014

yes you are feeding too much

we have to provide food at right time and correct quantity.

Most of the young couples now a days having one child and whole attention will fall on this small baby because of curiosity they provide more food during this stage this will affect the baby very much and end up with obesity.

next stage is education of course if you pressure the kid more they will read and reach good marks but when they come to work they could not be able to perform well because of obesity and most of the time they spend time in Gym when he / she realized this defect finally their mind is completely thinking about his or her body and end up with poor performance in work. end result is zero. ( practically i come across many youngsters in this range )

Rakhii · Nov 27, 2014

OP, for the first few months, I also fed the baby on-demand. However, as the baby starts to take solids, we need to slowly regularize how much we are feeding and what we are feeding. Don't worry about not crawling yet. The silly guy is just being lazy
Dont get worried. Since he is at his perfect weight now, dont worry too much. Just keep encouraging him to crawl. In all honesty, my baby also rolled over late and walked late, but she did get there.

tashidelek2002 · Nov 27, 2014

For infants it's better to be on the fat side than to be skinny. Years ago doctors here in the USA were advocating skinny babies and moms put the babies on low fat and they ended up with irreversible stunted brain development. Baby requirements and adult requirements are different.

Don't be force feeding.....let your baby want food and also refuse food in order to learn hunger based eating instead of forced eating.

Let your baby be a little stressed to get stuff...don't be running in and helping every time (use your judgment) so that he tries hard to get active. When he is more active that weight will fall off naturally.

Visasri · Nov 27, 2014

OP,
dont panic. One thing you need to do is feed the kid when he asks for. Otherwise I think everything is fine. My DD never walked till nearly 2 years. Docs said about lack of calcium and other probs and asked to take her to speicialists. From next day she started walking. Different kids start at different times. As long weight is right, and the baby is trying out things, do not panic. It is not wrong to know how long it would take and other things. But do not get negative ideas or panic. Let your child be active.

shari2003 · Nov 28, 2014

Don't worry; different babies achieve milestones at different times. My baby is 7 months, yet has not started to sit up on her own though I see that several other babies start that by 5-6 months. But, as long as the baby is active and is trying I dont think we need to worry. That being said, do keep encouraging.

Regarding feeds, feed him when he demands to be fed, rather than feeding him forcefully. If you watch the baby intently for 2-3 days you would be able to chalk up a routine inclusive of how much to feed and when based on his demands, expressions and rejections.