Kids school issues

Hi,

I live in Sydney. I have a 6 year old who has started school this year and is already finished her 3rd term.

When my child started school, she had a friend whom she knew from childcare and was possessive about the other girl (Harini). So my child was being a bit rough and was not allowing the other girl(Harini) from playing with anybody else. I and Harini's mum are or were family friends too. She teacher probably told Harini's mum about this and also me about the same. My child accepted that she did this to Harini because she did not know how to handle this issue.At this stage, the teacher said that my child was being agressive.

When the teacher told this, I explained to my child that it is best for her to let Harini go. If it is a true friendship it will come back and that I explained to her so that so she could tackle her feelings emotionally. And things settled down.

Now, suddenly another girls mum( courtney) has mixed with Harini's mum.

Courtney's mum wrote an email to the teacher that courtney was getting unwanted attention from my child and that it was affecting her child's learning outcomes.. And told two instances that had happened on two days.
1. when they were lining up, my child pushed courtney and the other child pushed my child back. In response my child pushed her harder.
2. My child dragged ( I have understood that 'dragged' was just pulling by hand courtney's hand to come to play) courtney even when courtney said no. Then when courtney decided to go to a teacher, my child stopped her from doing this.

All this happened during lunch time it seems and the mum has written the email on the basis of what courtney has said. Courtney mum has told me before that she wanted to isolate all the stronger personality kids from her kid whom she believes has a weaker personality.

I spoke to my child and she has denied doing this. She said that they were lining up and by mistake she hit the girl in the front and courtney pushed back. And she denies doing it back again.

I don't understand why should my child give unwanted attention to courtney. Also, even if my child pushed courtney, courtney also pushed her once. Even if it is once or twice, a push is a push.


I am at a loss to understand how a parent can put such allegations on a child.

I also got back to the principal saying that they should not be labelling a child as agressive. The child can have social behaviour issues which can be tackled.

Please give me your suggestion on this issue.