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Dear All,

Please solve my problem. I am in love. We both have informed to our parents. Here the problem is in my horoscope i have dhosam(sevvai or mangaliya dhosam) in 7th place which is very bad. His horoscope has no problem. His parents showed our horoscope to 5 pundits but all the people are saying "if they get married definitely problem will happen in their life or someone will die"

We both are very critical situation. we can't live without each other. I love him so badly, but if i think about the pundits words, feeling very scared.

Please help me. Everyday every minute we are thinking about same thing.

I really would require your help and advice.

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Anitha,

Don't feel scared. It is all what you believe. Why are you letting this horoscope stuff dictate such a big life decision? Horoscopes are a crap shoot. Sometimes the predictions are true, sometimes they are not.

In life, some marriages fail and some work, but I feel it has nothing to do with horoscope and everything to do with the couple's attitude. You will make or break your marriage, not the stars billions of miles away. If the pundits really had all the answers to life, there would be zero divorce, no death from earthquakes or tsunami, no poverty... because they would have all the answers to make the world a perfect place.

Let me tell you a quick story which I have told many times before to those asking about horoscopes. My dh had an ARRANGED marriage before he married me. The pundits said it was a PERFECT MATCH, match made in heaven, blah blah blah. In less than 2 years, my dh and his ex were divorced. So much for the accuracy of horoscopes, right?

Then me and my dh had a LOVE marriage. My inlaws had horoscopes done and what a surprise, I got the same answer you did. We were doomed, bad things would happen, it was a horrible match. We didn't care. We went ahead and got married anyways. This coming January it will be 3 years we've been married. Add in the time we spent dating, and we've been together about half a decade! Last time I checked, we are both still alive and happy.

Have faith in God, faith in this man you love, and faith in YOURSELF. That is what's most important. Good luck.
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They always advise to do some pooja to get out of those.So check with them for any remedies
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hi dont feel scred dear...

even if you not get matched do some pariharam by consulting pandit ji
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All these so called doshams, surprisingly come with remedies too Ask the same guy what can be done, I bet he would come up with a set of pooja's to make it all go away.

Is your in-laws too into this, then I suggest you guys find out this pariharams and do it, that will put them at east.
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Thanks for everyone for the reply. We have asked for pariharam also. They said there is no pariharam because the sevvai dosam in 7th place..

But still as one our friend(suitablegirl) said, I have got some hope. and
We will keep try for some pariharam.

Thanks once again to all.

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This Manglik thing or Sevvai Dosham as you are calling is just the position of Mars with respect to other planets/constellations at the time of your birth. It is sad to see people getting cornered and unnecessarily feeling upset because of horoscopes

Yes, if it assuages your parents or yourself to have found a pariharam, go with it. But remember that all these are baseless scientifically.
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Last time I checked, we are both still alive and happy.
That is neither a denial nor a confirmation on whether horoscopes work or not.

Simple fact is horoscopes are as random as any weather prediction on this day for next year. I may get lucky predicting next year on the same date as today it will rain in BLR, but will I be always? In that case is there a point in predicting.

The only reason why horoscopes are still ruling the minds of older generation is because of their shock value and threatening nature if things are not done accordingly. A human being would always want to take the better of choice, if he "knows" before hand the "outcome".
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Hi Visu,

Thank u for your reply. I really concered because my family pandit has said this. Whatever he said before, everything has happend in our family. The same thing in his family also. They went to their family pandit who really predit things. He said the same thing. But still they went 5 more pandits and all said the same thing. Dont do this marriage.
The reason they are telling are,
1. Someone will die or hurt badly
2. The marriage will end up soon.
3. Pothira(kids) dosam will be there.

if i dont get kids also no problem, but other 2 reasons are really scaring me and hurting me.
But we are very strong to marry. But above things are scaring me like anything. If something happen to him i cannt live.
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Hi Visu,

Thank u for your reply. I really concered because my family pandit has said this. Whatever he said before, everything has happend in our family. The same thing in his family also. They went to their family pandit who really predit things. He said the same thing. But still they went 5 more pandits and all said the same thing. Dont do this marriage.
The reason they are telling are,
1. Someone will die or hurt badly
2. The marriage will end up soon.
3. Pothira(kids) dosam will be there.

if i dont get kids also no problem, but other 2 reasons are really scaring me and hurting me.
But we are very strong to marry. But above things are scaring me like anything. If something happen to him i cannt live.
Even Aishwarya Rai has a "severe Sevvai Dosham" and Abhishek's family being superstitious made her do some Pariharams. If it works for Aish why won't it work for you. See if you can use this point
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