North Indian Wedding

Hi everyone

Lets share our traditions here...

well in our north indian wedding, there is one very emotinal ritual during the "Pheras"... the pundit wud put some flour on a Chakla (the one on which we make rotis), then ask the girl to put her foot on it and then both parents touch the foot and pundit says some mantras... this actually means that parents are saying sorry to the girl, as she has stayed with them for a considerable period of time and while this, if they scolded her or shouted at her or said anything unpleasant... they are saying sorry for all the unpleasant things, she should forgive them for that as she is leaving their house now...

mostly this is the point when girls burst into tears... me too cried a lot at this point ...

i'll share some more, in the meanwhile u keep coming up with some

Cheers !

Hi!!

Abha, that's an interesting thread you've started.

After reading about the emotional ritual that you mentioned, one of the rituals in our kannada madhwa wedding came to mind.

After the marriage ceremony, the groom & his parents are made to sit & given presents by the bride's family. Then the pundit says some mantras which has to be repeated by the bride's father. The mantras which the father says, means that till now he brought up his daughter will a lot of love & affection & now they're giving away their daughter to the groom's family & ask them to take care of her.

While saying this, the father has to take the bride's hand & give it to the groom's parents & the bride has to sit on the groom's lap!!

This a very touching & emotional moment....to hear the father say those words & also embarrassing as the bride has to sit on the groom's lap & not to mention about a whole lot of relatives around just waiting for this moment to pull the bride's leg!!

Cheers!
Ragini

ohh that is a touching one

and sitting on the groom's lap is a funny one...

and there are other things in our wedding like, on the day of wedding, in the morning the bride is made to worn "chooda" these are red and white bangles made of ivory, which i'm wearing rite now also (i'm supposed to wear it for a year or so after marriage)... this chooda is given by the girl's mother's brother... the girl is not supposed to see the chooda before she enter the wedding place for "Jaimala"... it is said that the chooda is soo beautiful (it definitely is) that if the bride sees it, she'll think wow i'm looking so beautiful and she'll have a bad eye on herself only... as soon as the chooda is worn it is covered with pink colored cloth so that the girl cannot look at it...

after the chooda ceremony the bride is made to sit in front of 2 diyas and she is supposed to look at those Diyas, it is said that it makes the bride even more beautiful, also the bride is asked to speak slowly and even speak less, as this will enhance her beauty....

ohh there are so many more beautiful things in our weddings... except for the dancing and singing loudly with "dholkis"

let more of these keep coming ladies...

hi
i am from punjab(pakka north indian),got married 3 yrs back,we have a tradition which is kind of optional,people from bride's side can prapare 'shiksha' to be read at the time of 'pheras'and from groom's side their is 'sehra'.
'shiksha' includes basically the feelings of bride's parents as if their daughter is ready to go her 'real' home,and they have given her the best of values which will help in her future life,that now IL-LAWS are her 'real' parents,the flower which they had sown in their garden is ready to give fragrance to her IN-LAWS and ask forgiveness as if they have done any wrongs to her and so on.....
i wanted 'shiksha' on my wedding thinking it will be a different thing,as i had only heard of it,not seen in particular,but even today if see that bit,tears start rolling from my eyes,to be honest, i m very emotinal as i putting it into words,i m almost choked.....
manisha

hey manisha

this shiksha is i guess almost the same thing that i have explained earlier...

when parents ask for forgiveness from their daughter, for scolding her or saying anything to her while she was with them... that moment is really very emotional... but in our case there is no written stuff as such...

but north indian wedding is just great FUN... dancing, singing all the time...

what say ?

Originally Posted by Abha

hey manisha

this shiksha is i guess almost the same thing that i have explained earlier...

when parents ask for forgiveness from their daughter, for scolding her or saying anything to her while she was with them... that moment is really very emotional... but in our case there is no written stuff as such...

but north indian wedding is just great FUN... dancing, singing all the time...

what say ?

hi abha
yes it(shiksha) is same thing i guess,but in our families it is one of family members who read it out like,sister,aunt.....in my case it was my uncle(chachaji),i still remember almost everyone was in tears,not only my family but groom's family as well(specially ladies).
well said north indian weddings are so exotic,so much fun,a lot of dance ....
manisha

In north Indian weddings, there is also a ritual during "Vidai" (when girl is leaving the house and going with the groom), she has to take some rice or something, and throw from above her head backwards. and her mother or sister will collect it in a chunni or sari pallu. I actually dont know the exact meaning of it but it is so very emotional moment. I was not crying when the process of my Vidai started but as soon as I did this... all the tears in the world flew down my eyes
Anyways, if any of you know the correct meaning of this ritual, pls write.
The north indian weddings surely are so exotic and with full of josh, fun and energy. The mehendi, ladies sangeet, baraat dancing ... jussssst love all of it

Hey Monsi

i'll tell you the significance of throwing rice and grains behind while the girl is leaving...

Many times whatever good things the house has is because of the Destiny if the girl, as it is said when the girl is born that lakshmi has arrived in our house... Many times it happens that when the girl gets married and leaves the house, the family will become poor, cos whatever they had or they were having was with the destiny of that girl. When the girl left she probably took everything with her...

So at the time of Vidayi this ritual is performed, where the girl throws rice and other grains and her brothers and everybody in the house catches it in some cloth... and girl wishes at that time that even if I leave the house my house should be FULL with food and prosperity should always remain... It is indeed very emotional moment...

Take care
~Abha

Thanks Abha

Hi,
All of you have posted some good and nice memories of yours. I too felt choked on reading about the siksha and Vidai. Though I am a pucca typical south Indian, I feel that most of the rituals of north and south are one and the same