Love Marriage Vs. Arranged Marriage

Hi Everyone,

This is Swapna. One of my main recurring discussion with my husband is whether Love marriage is good or Arranged marriage. I am always in favor of real love marriage. Maybe becoz i watch too many films . Ours was Arranged marriage so i always tease my husband on this aspect
Hey, but thats my opinion. Love to hear from you gals too...
By the way has this been discuused before? If so plz ignore this, otherwise go ahead and post your comments gals...

Cheers,
Swapna.

Hi Swapna

I prefer arranged marriage for various reasons .
First we r not hurting our parents who dream abt our lives
We will have support frm them at all times etc , etc .......

Regards
Santasekar

Originally Posted by santasekar

Hi Swapna

I prefer arranged marriage for various reasons .
First we r not hurting our parents who dream abt our lives
We will have support frm them at all times etc , etc .......

Regards
Santasekar

But end of the day.. its YOU who's going to be living with the partner they chose for you...Also you mean to say.. if you had love marriage and God forbid something happens, your family will just ignore you??? I don't think any parent would do that sweetie...

Obviously love marriages...

if it goes to a debate.. i will come with my pointers!!

Hi swapna,

I feel love marriage works out well when arranged by parents. Im the best example for this for having dated my hubby for 8 long years and then let both the sides agree to it tho having diff culturual,educational,financial backgrounds.
Like the 2 sides of a coin, even marriage has its 2 sides- good and bad and either love/arranged marriage is not an exception.
Definitely, love helps a couple to survive throught the rocky phases of life.Contrary to what shown in films, its a whole different story after marriage. " Love is blind and marriage is the eye opener"
So, my opinion is to have an open mind and make the best of whatever we have.
Just like to add, im blessed with a loving hubby tho v had our share of ups n downs from my in-laws side after marriage,
My 2 cents,
lets c what the next person has to say.....

Originally Posted by swapna1980

Hi Everyone,
This is Swapna. One of my main recurring discussion with my husband is whether Love marriage is good or Arranged marriage. I am always in favor of real love marriage. Maybe becoz i watch too many films . Ours was Arranged marriage so i always tease my husband on this aspect
Hey, but thats my opinion. Love to hear from you gals too...
By the way has this been discuused before? If so plz ignore this, otherwise go ahead and post your comments gals...
Cheers,
Swapna.

Hi Swapna,
Same here...but ours is little bit different. Am against the luv marriage and my hubby supports....Ours is arranged marriage.

Originally Posted by santasekar

Hi Swapna
I prefer arranged marriage for various reasons .
First we r not hurting our parents who dream abt our lives
We will have support frm them at all times etc , etc .......
Regards
Santasekar

Hi Santasekar,
I accept ur words...I too preferred the arranged marriage and got a luving hubby....

Originally Posted by Nandshyam

But end of the day.. its YOU who's going to be living with the partner they chose for you...Also you mean to say.. if you had love marriage and God forbid something happens, your family will just ignore you??? I don't think any parent would do that sweetie...
Obviously love marriages...
if it goes to a debate.. i will come with my pointers!!

Hi Nandu,
Though ours is a luv marriage would like to say "Arranged cum love marriage"

dear all,

Love marriage between two matured people will always succeed.It is not that there will be no defects in arranged marriages.Even arranged marriages done after seeing Jadhakams fail.
I have seen very successful couples even in intercaste marriages.
In arranged marriages if there is any problem, they will get help or support from parents and relatives.
IN love marriages( without parents consent), they cannot expect any help or support but the love and affection would give them courage to face any difficult situations.
After sometime parents will also understand and join them.That too,love marriages with the consent of their parrents will be lovely.

If the couple(in LM)cannot be successful, they cannot be successful even in AMs.

This is .

Hey Gals,

Thanks for sharing your views and i agree that Love marriage is a wonderful option when the parents also agree.


regards,
Swapna.

u r right kamala
one thing i beleive is
every person has some good & bad qualities.no one is perfect.at the same diff. people have different views & thoughts whether they may or may not coincide with their mates.wife/husband who can adjust to those small disturbances can lead a happy life.
but in luv marraiges to some extent they can know each other.unfortunately their views change according to situation.this is the reason why they r facing problems.

when we come with the arranged marriages we go mainly for the family,living in a particular area which gives a clear idea about them.
so i prefer perfectly verified arranged marraige,so that parents feel happy as we r happy too.
regards

Originally Posted by Nandshyam

But end of the day.. its YOU who's going to be living with the partner they chose for you...Also you mean to say.. if you had love marriage and God forbid something happens, your family will just ignore you??? I don't think any parent would do that sweetie...

Obviously love marriages...

if it goes to a debate.. i will come with my pointers!!

Hi Nandy ........

When u beleive that ur parents will support u at all times y cant u beleive that they will choose the right person for u ......

Regards
Santasekar

I'm in for Arranged marriages,

I had a arranged marriage, my husband and inlaws love me to death and i'm like there daughter... and my husband spoils me very much.. when we met for the first time they mentioned that there are not looking for any dowry, though he was a well settled doctor... i thought it was a good family and not money minded... it was the best decession i have every made.

I'm happy my parents picked a person like him.... because i was against arranged marriage and thought love marriage you get to know the person and bhla...bhla...bhla.. and all.... but i guess it does not make any difference to know ar not to know a person before marriage its all about how you both make it work.

Arranged marriage the USP is there are no expectations from a person you go with an open mind and know each other by the day... since on one has any expectations you would never be letdown.
Unlike love marriage you know the person for years... and after marriage you have expectations from that person since you know everything abt the person and when expectations are not met things go bad.

Only personal opinion of offence to anyone