Love Marriage Vs. Arranged Marriage

No other second thought, if any one asks me abt this..
I strongly beleive in arranged marriage...
And also i advice Arranged Marriage..

I belive both the marriages has its own pros and cons..Mine being an Love marriage i tell you the difficulites to be faced are more..i mean its purly compramising and only compramising..

mine's love marriage, iam really happy not b'cos of its being luv marriage, its b'cos of my DH. i have seen my friends who suffer luv marriage and some who had arraged marriage ended up divocing . so i wud say only the person we end up with can bring happiness in life. as some said here already, both has its own pros and cons.

i have had an arranged marriage and have been blessed with a very good husband...but the idea of falling in love enjoyng the courtship etc in a LM sounds very romantic..so u miss this fun in an
AM ...
but u have more expectations from your partner in a LM as u think u know him very well before marriage but in an AM u can walk in with no preconceived ideas about the person...
so both have its adv and disadv i think.....

mindi

Hi Ladies,

Mine is a love marriage and I don't complain much about anything in life. Love or arranged, Men are men. Just bcos a guy love and married his partner doesn't mean that he is going to be extraordinarily sensitive towards her feelings. It is just that I had problems too(inlaws), but much less problems when compared to others who have had arranged marriage, In love marriage, there is a bit of understanding before marriage and how it turns out after marriage depends on who choose as partner like..same financial and education background/language/same cultural background etc., helps in compatibility and makes it easy to compromise and live peacefully.

Though love happens /strikes like lightning, I strongly feel that the compatibility factor is more important to have a happy/peaceful life. Thats what my hubby and I looked for in partners and also discussed extensively about various issues that normally arise after marriage and how to cope up... well.. to a great extent thank god,we live upto our expectations and so the level of frustration is much less and the love still exists

So head over heels is ok in love, but to marry.. back off and think long and hard about everything and then decide..NEVER try to be adventurous in selecting a partner for marriage!!!!!!!!!!!

Regards,
GPriya

I'm lazy by nature when it comes to this sphere of life- so Arranged marriage.
If someone else could do all the leg work I'd happily just turn up to the wedding

If I were to say which is easier in the long run, it'll be love marriages - you don't have to worry about loving the old soul
But any marriage is a lot of hard work, and I'd rather not have to make the initial effort of finding a decent man, then go through the whole "courtship" thing where you worry about him liking you or not...

In an arranged marriage you may not love the person, but at least you know where you stand...

According to me marriage is a gamble...be it LM or AM.

It depends on the 2 individuals to make it happen and mind you initially you really have to put in a lot of efforts to make your marriage work. If the 2 of you can be compatible then there is no looking back. also need to compromise a lot...if both are not ready to meet half way, then one way traffic takes its toll and loses its sheen.

Mine is a AM and love happened later...but many feel ours is a LM (touchwood).

Today we see so many live-in couples after staying together for 3-4 yrs they decide to tie the knot and in a few months time you hear that they are separated....reason...he is acting like a typical husband or vice versa

Don't know whether to laugh or cry at such situations.

Roopa.

HI! Swapna,

This is a nice thread.

I really believe that both have their advantages and disadvantages. I was always ready for both. In fact I was very much on my way to an arranged marriage when I fell in love with a colleague of mine and he proposed.

The biggest advantage of love marriage I believe is that you know the person you are getting married to. What I mean is in an arranged marriage you are getting used to new (hubby, in-laws, extended family, etc.) people all at the same time. Whereas in love marriage, you are already familiar with your hubby and you share a certain level of comfort with him. So, you know you already have some support. I feel that is a huge confidence-booster.

Anyways, that's my opinion.

Regards,

Falguni

Both has its own pros and cons. Whatever type of marriage it may be, mutual understanding and sacrifice to some extent holds top priority.

In case of love marriages, people of both sexes normally tend to impress their partner by not being their usual self and by behaving differently so as to gain full confidence. But the reality comes as a shock usually after marriage which may lead to disappointments and misunderstandings subsequently. Hence my advice is to show their true love in a genuine way while courtship and to be honest and show him/her the true self.

So, be it LM or AM, both can be successful if the couple is honest to each other before and after the marriage.

The result - .......and they lived happily ever after!

Cheers,
Lakshmi

Hi everyone.

Wow, really interesting & good opinions gals.

Cheers,
Swapna.