The Confessions of a Male Prostitute – A Sad Warning!

After reading heart-rending incidents posted by Meena I did not have the mind to go through your reply. I had to go back and come after a few hours to fortify myself to read your response. A great response, Ambika coming from the depths of your heart. I was moved by the truth contained in the following words:
But many women may seek gigolos out of sheer desperation to find a ‘shoulder to lean on’ to get emotional support, to get rid of complexes, to find solace- that way women try to see gigolos more as ‘friends’ than ‘prostitutes, because they are usually prepared to give ‘respect’ to women, respect their wishes- something which every woman needs. Men should understand the very concept of marriage and the many issues involved in it, before jumping into wedlock. Then they can play a major role in curbing hyper-sexual tendencies arising out of insecurity or unloved feelings of a woman.

But the following words were very strong.
No one can justify a person’s immoral behaviour…however strong the reasons are made out to be. Male prostitutes can come out and talk about the weird behaviour of their clients , female prostitutes can write epics about male perversions.
Immorality cannot be justified in any case. No one has a right to be immoral per se. But in certain circumstances these so called immoral people deserve our sympathy if not understanding. Prostitutes have always something interesting to say. Agreed. I also concede that there are people who seek out gigolos or prostitutes for raw sex. That gigolo had told in his confession that a rich woman industrialist sought him for pure sex. We cant prevent that kind of things happening in the society. We can’t condemn that rich woman either before we know the facts. If her husband is impotent or refuses to have sex with her then she has her ‘extenuvating circumstances’, as they say in criminal law to mitigate her crime. But if women (or for that matter men) were to resort to gigolos only for holding their hands or listen to their words of praise or just to make some one look at them all night long, then there is something which we have missed in all the progress we have made. Something is seriously wrong somewhere.
Agreed Soulmates are the ideal answers. But Ambika, honestly I don’t think that all these deprived women will have the luxury of seeking their soulmates all the time. There is family, children, jobs, problems, society, stigma… the list is endless. It is one thing to say that soulmate is the only answer even if it tantamounts to adultery. But is it practically possible? It is far more easier to seek a gigolo or a prostitute than to seek a soul mate. The question is not how many would meet their soulmates, but, how many are prepared to wait.

Vivekananda once said, “Politics and Philosophy cannot be spoken to empty stomaches.” I need to paraphrase that now. Morailty and even sense cannot be spoken to those who are deprived, either emotionally or biologically.

As I sign off I can’t help appreciating your beautiful reply. Only a matured mind which is a product of a balanced life can pen these lines.

Sridhar

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