Women demanding level-playing field

Hi IL'ites,

Today our Indian girls are demanding level-playing field with men as a result of their education and social standards.

By the term level playing field, many interpret it as one or more of the following according to their values and beliefs:

1. Equality - Girls/ women no longer inferior to Boys/Men
2. Independence - Freedom to do what they want without any social taboo/stigma
3. Career - Working couple norms, individual rising in respective careers...
4. Security - Financial independence Vs Interdependence
5. Decision making -- Before and after marriage,childbirth etc

Now, you can add your interpretation to the term "LEVEL- PLAYING" field and the benefits / issues resulting from any or all of the above.

Let's be on the level and generate a healthy chat!

Thanks
Krithika (Jithiks)

Hi IL'ites

Penny for all your thoughts!!

Busy weekend....??!!

Eagerly awaiting all your ideas for a lively discussion.

Cheers
Krithika (Jithiks)

Hi Jithiks,

Lemme pen down point by point

1. Equality - Girls/ women no longer inferior to Boys/Men

Of course women or girls are not inferior to men / boys. We can keep
talking about all these until we are girls but when we get married, it all
depends on the men we are married to. If the man is understanding, we
are lucky.


2. Independence - Freedom to do what they want without any social taboo/stigma

We would keep saying that we have the freedom to do things and would'nt mind what others think if we feel its correct. But how many of them follow this? Individually they don't wish to take the responsibility. They are afraid of the community thinking what others will think. If i live my own way i would loose friends etc. We are forced to live this way cos life is like this now and people are being more practical.

3. Career - Working couple norms, individual rising in respective careers...

Individual rising is in their respective careers has increased these days and men welcome this. Some men support women cos they are understanding and some men cos they would have an additional income to support and raise the family together.


4. Security - Financial independence Vs Interdependence

Many women take independent decisions. For small expenditures, a wife can take individual decisions but when it comes to major expenditure like buying a house or investing in shares etc decision should be taken after discussion with the better half to avoid any misunderstanding. Mainly husband / wife should not think that they are not given importance. Moreover both may have better ideas which comes out only after discussion. Better to discuss and decide to avoid any misunderstanding.

5. Decision making -- Before and after marriage,childbirth etc

Before marriage, when it comes to studies, girl / boy decides on what to study and most of the parents agree to this. Nowadays they decide on whom to marry and this has been successful in most cases. Its always better to discuss with family members be in father, mother or husband before taking any major decision in our life.

Regarding childbirth, Its a must that both husband and wife take a unanimous decision. Recently i came across one of my friend stating that she wanted to have a second child but her husband is not interested. What can she do when her husband is not interested? Can she force him? Either she has to convince her husband or abide by what he says.

What do u say jithiks?

Hi Sharadha,

Thanks for your reply.

Wow....you have really dissected it in all aspects. AWESOME!!

You are right ! To a certain extent...or should I say mostly..women/men live for the society ( atleast in India)

If the men are understanding after marriage and have no issues in giving their wife equal partnership in finance/ major decision making , then it is a boon.

Otherwise, when they think they are answerable to the society/other family members/friends etc, then comes the conflict.

Today, there is a remarkable change even in India and to a certain extent, men are accepting the fact that women are a force to reckon with and need to be respected and given importance in all areas.

But there is also a flip side to this...meaning some women misuse/misunderstand this concept and twist it to their advantage.

My thoughts will continue.....

Waiting for all your inputs...IL'ites!!

Cheers
Krithika ( Jithiks)

Hi IL'ites,

Come on...! Your comments on this topic would be enlightening for all of us.

Since we have diverse opinions and look at things differently, this would be a great platform for a lively discussion.

Awaiting all your inputs...

Cheers
Krithika ( Jithiks)

Dear Krithika, Sorry for delay in reply as I just read this post ... Well, what can I say ... ? Still Women do not have Freedom from Husband eventhough now we are in 21st century ...

1. Equality - Girls/ women no longer inferior to Boys/Men : Ofcourse I accept that we are equal to Men / Boys ... Not only in Education, Politics, Sports, Entertainment, everywhere u can see women/girls foot now a days ...

But this exists only if you are still UNMARRIED .... rarely we get guys who are understand and helpful for supporting ....

2. Independence - Freedom to do what they want without any social taboo/stigma ... : Yes, only now, especially for girls who has freedom which we didn't have before ...

3. Career - Working couple norms, individual rising in respective careers... : Hmmm... As sharadha said, some husbands do understand and support their wives in career and some support to run the family but many still wants their wives to look after kids, house, etc ...

4. Security - Financial independence Vs Interdependence : No dear, this independence comes only when both are earning otherwise ....

5. Decision making -- Before and after marriage: Decision making can be done ???

I don't think so Krithika ... B'coz we women got to be dependent always with some men ie. Father, Brother, Husband & Son ... But it depends on the family situation and the men we are getting married ...

Before marriage, my parents were taking decision and there was no discussion between me and my parents for deciding / sharing anything ...
After marriage, yes, he does discuss with me and explains the situation and we both plan accordingly ...

Regards, Suni ...

Hi Jithiks,

let me introduce iam ananthi,a housewife...taking course on transcription now

Equality-
The women of our age have a greater equality.The equality is somehow decreased in home and raised in work place.

Indepedence:
Indepedence and interdepedence cannot coexist after u married.U may have some how to compermise between the two.You cant decide even were to go on a holiday.

Career

I was married when i was studying...and my MIl did not allo me to continue mine..
now only i am able to join Mt after 7 years of marriage...