H4 Wife - Things to do?

hi
i would like to do my MBA degree online..
i checked with ASPEN university, in denver...
has any one heard about that university..?
is that a good one..

given my budget and time constaint, this is the one that looks better...

please suggest...

Hi Ladies,

Wonderful suggestions by many great ladies.
I came here on H4 and now i am on H1-B but seriously i really want to go back to H4 and live in peace.The recession has made it really really hard to find a job.I have wasted this whole year looking for a job but there is never light at the end of the tunnel.But i keep trying.During the weekdays i spend my time applying for new jobs, updating myself with new technology that are needed for the position.It is very very frustrating.So all the H4 ladies out there Go Explore Be creative and Enjoy Life.

Originally Posted by SreeSri

Let me add the male version of WORK AROUNDS for you guys
I personally work on H1B and my wife who is an Engineering Graduate in Computer Sc and Engineering, WAS H4 for the initial two years since she didnt get her H1B petition in the lottery, but she got EAD with my GC a couple of years back.
This feed back was my experience with a H4 spouse while my wife was on H4.
Since I work a longer times on my job, I want some one to help me rather then earning money with her job.
I want my wife to take my routine tasks which she can do, few things like Shopping, bills pay, scheduling the Family activities etc, thats good to start with, this gives me to do my job smoothly
If you H4 wife, can learn driving, have your own car, that helps your spouse a lot by doing many things yourself to help your family, I want my wife to take my baby to school etc, I want them to go to some fun places like Chuck-e-cheeses etc and have fun,
I am totally annoyed when I need to go to some shopping or to do some scheudling etc after coming from office

Gurls.. please please, doing a WIFE/Mother job is not an easy thing, if you take it seriously.
Dont feel that you are boared etc... There are a lot of things which you can do and makes your family like a heaven for every one.
For a working souse, its also their responsibility to keep the things cool at home.
So, H4 is not equal to WASTE, before being H4, you are women, the wonderful human in the world,
Dont feel down by being H4

Sree Sri

Thank you for sharing the male perspective. I think you have made some valid points. After all mothers of many backgrounds, India America others used to (and still do) stay at home and do a lot of work even if there are no children. I always wondered what the hubbys of H4ers had to say. However, the other side of the coin is how H4 hubbys help a wife to do all this. For instance, coming here is a culture shock...and it's not just being home jobless, but it's being disconnected from community- maybe feeling shy to go out and Talk to Americans feeling unable to relate or what to say or talk about. OR being caught up in topics they don't understand. Many hubbies may have come here to US for studies, so they would have had a full social life in US from day 1 with some semblance of a regular life and schedule- having a reason and means to get out of the house. This is not always case for h4. So, what I mean to say is if a hubby wants his new wife to be independant and do all this- he has to take initiatives up front to be sensitive to these differences and also to teach her and give her opportunities to learn to your best ability.Left alone, it's not easy to go and socialize. Even for American moms who stay home, but at least American moms know about the culture and can socialize for the most part. Teach her to drive that is #1. Maybe find opportunities for her to interact with people outside the Indian community- this is key to integrating in any foreign society. This is one reason as An American when I moved to India I went totally ALONE. I knew if I went with a group of Americans I would stay in my comfort zone. The positive side about being a homebody on h4 is feeling comfort in one's home. BUt to live comfortably in any society we should also feel comfy outside the home too. I know this part is a bit more difficult because among many Indian circles there are few opportunities to interact with non-Indians unless the desis are very outgoing. Especially once one gets married, the interaction with Americans seems to decrease more until kids are born then it's another adjustment when kids have friends and their parents come to meet. the stress level then again rises- how to communicate and relate to an American- though one lives here. many Indians are not Christians but if there are Christians then it is a bit easier if they go to Church (not an Indian Church - but one of mostly American congregation). So if you are unable to offer opportunities to socialize because of work schedule try signing her up for a class in the community college. Hopefully she can take the bus or walk home if can't drive. IF she needs to learn to take the bus- learn that with her on some weekend. If you both do it together she will feel more confident. I know even myself I am shy to take a bus alone- I drive- but ifsomething happened where I had to take the bus- I'd want to do it with someone at least the first few times cause i don't know much about that.

But again thanks for a guy's perspective.
Jennifer Kumar

Originally Posted by poornamanu

Hey AKila,
ou have really poured in all the ideas one could ever think of and possible could even think of thinking of.

Good job gal.
your piece of information would be definitely useful to me.

Thanks for the bundle of ideas.

Cheers,
Poornima

Hey Gals,

I also sail in the same boat.. Was Working @ Chennai, Now Home-maker @ H4 @ US.. I would like to share with you some useful things you could do on h4..

Here are a list of things you can do:

1. You can start creating a website/blog for free.. Its very easy.. You can go to the website weebly and do it.. If you are skilled at cooking, you can very well list your recipes in your site.. This way even if you forget some recipe, you can go to your site and chk the procedure to make it and you can share it with your friends.. You can also include all home making tips you read in books, hear about and put it in your website.. This will be useful in a long run..I run my own website on home management.. (You can find it in personal interest blogs of indusladies)..

2. Be into the breezes.. Go for a long walk..

3. Keep yourself Fit.. Know what you are eating.. Keep a food diary and count your calories.. Make sure you use less amount of oil, salt, sugar in your diet.. Replace the table spoons in all the jars with tea spoons..

4. It doesnt mean that you got to wear old clothes and look untidy with uncombed hair, if you are at home.. Never mind even if you are at home, dress up like a queen.. Dont miss to wear a deo or perfume.. A home-maker should look pleasant and smell good..

5. Home management is a great project.. It requires smartness and hard work to excel.. Do your work perfectly.. Assign time schedules for every activity you do and do it on time..Keep your home in such a way that its ready to welcome a guest any time.. Ofcourse, this is also a job.. Dont sulk.. There are so many women who crave to be at home but due to monetary reasons they are forced to work.. So you should feel lucky for what you are..

7. Everyone needs an off/leave.. Even we cant work 7 days a week.. So take a break from the regular house-hold chores for one or two days.. I take an off on saturday.. I dont cook on saturdays rather we manage to eat some ready to eat stuff (podi with rice) or go out to a restaurant..

8. Ofcourse, keep yourself updated.. You should know whatz happening around.. Make it a point to read the news everyday.. It should be a part of your task..

9. Improve your vocabulary.. There are lots of website out in the net which offer you to learn new english words and take up sat practice tests.

10. You can also learn a new language.. Like you can learn spanish or any language you wanted to.. Livemocha is a wonderful website which offers online classes for free.

11. Make it a habit to read a book.. Reading increases your knowledge and its a good pass time too.. Join your nearby library and make use of your time efficiently..

Girls, we should be happy that we have got a chance to be at home.. Even Home-making is a great job if you make use of your time wisely and do your daily jobs on time.. Though, we dont make money, we have the time to do lots of stuff which working women cant afford to do..

Akila

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Great ideas Can I reprint them in My Facebook Forum on H4ers?
Thanks Jennifer