Bright side of H4 Visa.....what you can do as H4 wife....

If we can observe closely there are many bright spots for H4 visa.being On H4 gives a life time chance to learn many things until we get work permit other wise which we don't have chance to learn if we are working at some company

1. The first thing we as Indian women have to do after coming to USA is getting out of our self built cocoon or well.Our parents have brought us up with out knowing the reality of life.try to lose all Ur inhibitions which will make you smart confident energetic matured Indian girl from shy Indian girl.try to get ur self comfortable with western wear as here there are no body to tease u. Dont be like religious psycho(Our Hinduism is the only religion in the world having 3 crore gods and many festivals per month though ours is not the oldest religion Zoroastrianism is the oldest religion. Hinduism hasn't changed according to times. so today most of the world is ruled by Christianity or Islam though they are the youngest).Success is more about optimum utilization of time for productive purposes.Always stop discussing about others and invest most of ur time and energy on yourself and Ur family.I heard many saying bad American culture etc. in the world there is nothing like bad or good .admire beauty of American culture.American culture makes you an Independent human being with out depending on anybody.Here every body cares who u are, nobody cares who ur father is unlike india.And also stop bothering,gossiping or commenting about other peoples habits( Like she is a drinker or she is having multiple relationships).Its their personal choice. We never know how powerful she/he might be either by power of position or by power of association. Because of recession many people say its end of America. Not yet, America will be powerful America for at least for next 50 years.Even for the most powerful roman empire it took 140 years to get crashing.

2. In USA networking plays an Important role than talent to find right opportunity.Dont miss any opportunity if u get a chance to meet new people they might be of help to u to find future opportunities when u get work permit or H1 visa and you will be in a better position to understand American people and American culture from them . Not only Indians try to meet different American people.

3. try to go for jogging or join Gym where u will get to know some useful contacts (Especially many Americans as they are fitness freaks) and also it helps u to maintain fitness.I cant deny the fact that In today's corporate world pleasing personality plays an Imp role for women as well as men.

4. learn or play tennis or Snooker good for health

5. If u are high ambitious girl try to learn Golf, the best networking sport in the world.You might be aware of the fact that many business deals don't end in boardroom, they end at Golf course or top restaurant or some strip club.(Its fact)

6. you can learn 2 or 4 wheeler driving if haven't yet learned.

7. Try to improve your English or public speaking skills by joining, public speaking clubs in ur area.try to get English DVDs watch as many american movies as u can so that u can improve ur listening skills .Plz forget about Bollywood and dont subscribe to any indian channels until u are good at english.

8.Try to improve ur soft skills and etiquette. the higher u go up the corporate ladder the more imp it is. at higher level success is about 30% talent & 70% soft skills. For different types of etiquette chk

http://www.priyawarrickfinishingschool.com/index1.html
http://www.etiquetteoutreach.com/

9.go to the library and try to get business books about various great companies like Google,Microsoft etc and also abt great CEOs u can find many. (the size of Indian businesses or indian companies are no match for American business. India is not abt innovation we are just body shoppers.We never invented any technology of our own) to understand the magnitude of business in USa take for eg

cash reserves of Apple $39.8 billion in cash (Its not turnover its only cash in hand)
google $30 billion in cash
So u can imagine how small our Indian companies and how small India is
we generally think that USA means Microsoft,google,GE etc but USA is more about small and medium scale enterprises these are which made USA a powerful economy.

another most important thing is many Indians here work in Software.Its nothing but a donkey work or back end work.so please dont boast as if u r ruling the world.the world is mostly ruled by people working in Investment banks(Goldman Sachs & Co, The Blackstone Group,J.P. Morgan Investment Bank,Credit Suisse etc ), hedge funds( George Soros‘ Quantum Endowment Fund, Renaissance Medallion Fund , Paulson & Co, Moore Capital etc) Private Equity(Texas Pacific Group,Kohlberg Kravis Roberts & Co. (KKR),The Carlyle Group etc) ,Venture capitalists,Sovereign wealth funds, political lobbyists,arms dealers,mafia and top consulting firms(McKinsey & Company,The Boston Consulting Group,Bain & Company etc)

We are always pawns in the hands of politicians and above people.so stop boasting. " The business of politician is business, the business of business is manging politicians"

10.Try to volunteer in some business related NGOs or Non Profit Organizations like Business Chambers of commerce so that these contacts might be of help to u in the future.

for eg
http://neworleanschamber.org/volunte...leans-chamber/

11.Enroll for some full time or part time MS/MBA or any other course of ur interest either long term or short term

12. IF u have a chance and talent try to work as faculty free of cost at some college or school.

13.Women or girls who are crazy and adventurous they can learn exotic dance taught by women for women.many housewives do attend this type of classes to make their relationship romantic. for eg chk

http://www.exoticdancecentral.com/home.html
http://divadancelessons.com
http://www.frommindtobody.com/OCschedule.html

Top Striptease Songs to those crazy women.U can search for these videos on youtube.

1. "Cream" by Prince
2. "Justify My Love" by Madonna
3. "Hot In Here" by Nelly
4. "Sex (I’m a)" by Lovage
5. "She's Always In My Hair" by D'Angelo
6. "Closer" by Nine Inch Nails
7. "Buttons" by Pussycat Dolls
8. "I'm a Slave 4 U" by Britney Spears
9. "Eyes Without a Face" by Billy Idol
10. "Pony" by Ginuwine


14.learn swimming or fishing or kickboxing or horse riding or orienteering or pursue any outdoor activity or any adventure sport.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Outdoor_activity
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Extreme_sport

15 .try to learn Gourmet cooking, preparing Various types of coffee,Non veg dishes, cooking in OTG or Microwave , Italian or Chinese cuisine ,etc.If ur DH likes drinking then u better learn preparing some cocktails.

http://www.esquire.com/drinks/
http://www.reluctantgourmet.com/

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_coffee_beverages
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Espress...o-based_drinks
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Espresso#Variations
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Coffee_preparation


16.Try to spend ur time on learning new hobby or skill set or on practicing existing hobby(It may be some musical instrument,learning a foreign language

18 .If money is not an issue travel to different places. or You can learn how to pilot Micro light aircraft or "Light-sport aircraft" .In India it use to cost 4 lakhs for 3 months to get Ultralight/microlight air craft Pilot's license.

http://www.microlight.in/
http://www.usua.org/
http://www.usua.org/flightschool/


19. God: its a controversial topic to touch . But my take this. From thousands of years people are getting fooled in the name of religion,God, country and many more. As i said earlier Dont be like religious psycho(Our Hinduism is the only religion in the world having 3 crore gods and many festivals per month though ours is not the oldest religion. Zoroastrianism is the oldest religion. Hinduism hasn't changed according to times. so today most of the world is ruled by Christianity or Islam though they are the youngest).reality is all this gods are actually kings.they were portrayed as gods or some extraordinary people with super natural powers by vipras who work under kings who praise them.I pray to only one god i.e Lord shiva( I keep only one photo frame of lord Shiva and my mother in prayer room at home .Though i am atheist at heart , i rarely go for temples & i celebrate only one festival i.e Maha Sivaratri at home in entire year. I Dont bother abt any other rituals, customs,festivals or gods etc If at all there is any god in the world it will be our responsible parents .) I dont want my children getting confused or fooled by this many gods and this many festivals so neither i bother abt all other gods nor i celebrate other festivals.Always see 3 things in life before doing any thing

1. Does that make u and ur family happy or not
2. Is it healthy or not to u
3. Is it legal or not

Atheism as Religion....

Atheism as Religion....

for eg Do u know that Makara Jyothi in keralas ayappa swamy temple is man-made.
http://www.rediff.com/news/report/m...vancore-dewaswom-board-president/20110131.htm
http://www.hindu.com/2011/01/22/stories/2011012263371300.htm

20. Reg Children : Its the time to spend valuable time with children when u r on H4 visa.Once u start working u wont have time to spend with them.Dont forcefully dump Indian culture or Ramayana or Mahabharata on this innocent minds.my take is among all religious scripts like Qua ran,Bible, Ramayana etc i fee only Iliad(greeks ancient script) comes close to reality.Some times i feel its better not to know abt them.I never teach unnecessary customs,religion or rituals to my children.I always teach them principles of nature like survival for fittest,respecting others likes or other opinions,others culture, others religion ,respecting the law of land, healthy habits,optimum utilization of time for productive purposes like learning new skillsets , value of money, and the most imp political ethics ( Principles of Chanakya, Sun Tzu,Clausewitz( he is the person who proposed The survival of the fittest theory even before Darwin) & Machiavelli etc).In this world there is nothing like maya or mantra so everything or anything has to be achieved only with the ability of humans.make children understand this.

http://classics.mit.edu/Homer/iliad.html

22.Never bother too much about ur relatives (Hope u remember the popular quote more success more relatives less success less relatives).Always give impotence to urself, ur Dh and ur children first and foremost.Never be a mommy's girl. The earlier u detach from ur parents the better ur relationship with ur DH will be.The thing that most DH hate is sharing or telling the things to our mothers wht our DH has told us.So try to understand what to & what not to tell to our mothers or parents. Even after coming to usa dont be like a dumb indian house wife. plz try to change ur attitude ,the way u dress(Say bye bye to indian wear except for special occasions try to experiment with different types of western wear (remember the popular quote “if you were in Rome, live in the Roman way; if you are elsewhere, live as they do there ".), spend some time on urself & on ur fitness to appear smart ,beautiful etc( no need to maintain 30-18-30) .If ur DH is after another girl then it might not be his fault completely.We might be part responsible for that fault..remember the popular quote of chanakya "A good wife is one who serves her husband in the morning like a mother does, loves him in the day like a sister does and pleases him like a prostitute in the night."Try to detach ur behavior & actions from the opinion of others.The earlier u do the more happier u will be.Use your assertive skillets to say NO.Plz try to invest most of ur time and energy on urself and ur family.


23. always think that world runs based on political ethics & based on constitution not on dharma and neither is run by god.In this ruthless corporate world the ability to make money for the company is regraded as the most valuable skill set irrespective of how u do it or what u do. Always balance sheet matters not mark sheets. remember the popular quote from lord of war movie "I had a flair for languages. But I soon discovered that what talks best is dollars, dinars, drachmas, rubles, rupees and pounds ****ing sterling. " Politics or favors either by money or women are norm in corporate world.In an ideal world, talent and hard work are all that’s needed to rapidly ascend the career ladder. In the real world, like it or not, moving up means aligning yourself with the organizational power brokers. The trick is to intuitively make smart political decisions so that you’re moving up and making friends in all the right places at the same time. That’s never easy to pull off. Politics is the Tool of Cooperation .
If you expect to get ahead, you must understand and respect the power of organizational politics.
There is no escaping it. Fiercely competitive industries, such as IT, are rife with politics. Refusing to play organizational politics can be career suicide. ( No place for wht our parents taught us do good,be good and see good).Politics -- the business of high-stake schmoozing and winning people over – aren’t for everyone. But, the measure of success -- how far you go on the career scale -- is directly correlated to your stomach for politics.There is no such thing as a nonpolitical career.Politics are a part of life.At their worst, organizational politics means favoritism, secrecy, resentment and deceit. At their best, they’re a game with their own special rules – very much like chess – requiring tact, diplomacy, intelligence, street smarts and cunning. The healthiest way to deal with corporate politics is to first acknowledge that they exist, and second, learn to cope with them in an ethical and professional manner. The tough part is finding a way to use politics to enhance your career so no one gets hurt in the process.

Regardless of endeavor, the power brokers of the world have learned to be masterful politicians. If you’re new to an organization, you ought to find out who they are. Who are the leaders and followers? Where are the conservative, liberal and radical forces? If you’re determined to move up the ladder, being identified with the wrong political faction is the equivalent of being sentenced to organizational purgatory.

You may deny fact but even beauty plays an imp role at top level .for example There positive correlation between abnormal physical attractiveness and sales jobs in investment banks before. Now, the hypothesis that beauty and female bankers are natural companions is leant further credence by the news that one top investment bank has employed a top model in this summer’s sales and trading intern class.

Named Xenia Tchoumitcheva, she’s from Switzerland, was runner-up to Miss Switzerland in 2006 and has been awarded ‘Best bikini body award. Xenia lives in Chelsea and is at top Investment bank in London right now. chk her stunning pics below

http://www.xeniatchoumitcheva.ch/


24. But not the least don't get frustrated for minor problems. remember that we are from a third world country named India (Plz dont say developing country ) where there's no value for human life and talent.Some times i laugh a lot when some body compares India to china(Economy $10 trillion dollars) and USA(Economy $14.6 trillion dollars ). 21 st century belongs to china unless some drastic things happen.Of the recorded Hindu history of around 2,300 years, Bharat was under the jackboots of slavery for some 1300 years—a dubious record.We as a nation lack the killer instinct. We lack the ruthlessness, the cunning, the immorality needed to become a true world power. We are lot lucky enough to get a chance to be in USA.No other country has welcomed immigrants like USA did. Many immigrants achieved their Dreams, some times even with out a single dollar in their pocket.Its time for you to get going to achieve your American dream.

"The American Dream is that dream of a land in which life should be better and richer and fuller for everyone, with opportunity for each according to ability or achievement."

We may deny, but the fact is that we are taking over the the jobs of many Americans.We are able to provide good standard of living to our family because of the opportunities provided by this country. As every country has haves & have nots so is USA(42% of children live in low-income families.Research is clear that poverty is the single greatest threat to children’s well-being.) Dont bother much about american politicians but if possible please do something or contribute some thing for the welfare of destitute children of this beautiful country.




Plz Download this useful doc which contains list of immigrants who made big in USA.

http://www.nafsa.org/_/File/_/passport_to_prosperity.pdf

Wishing you success....

 

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Thanks sojourner for ur appreciation.These are just my thoughts, of course many differ(ours is so called democracy). Your wife may not reply u permanently for the note sent along with the email if you make it conditional or compulsory. Got it?? just kidding ...haahaaa