Loving Mom Vs Rich Dad

I recently read a news item in the paper. It left me shaken and i want to share it with all of you.

a couple divorced. they have an 11 year old son. after living with his mother for a year, the boy wanted to live with his father. reason given - mom leads a humble modest life. whereas dad is rich. lives in a plush house, drives a swank car and can afford numerous foreign holidays in a year. the son says that he wants all that and doesn't want to live his mom who is struggling to make ends meet. indian divorce laws like not like the those in the West, which gives the separating wife a sizeable chunk of her husband's wealth.

the mother couldn't do anything but watch helplessly as her only son drove away with the father in his latest luxe car. the Court agreed to the boy's demands as it thought "the boy is matured and level headed enough to decide what he wants in his life"???

the news item left me shocked and shaken. yes the kid has the right to choose how he should live. but to blatantly say that he prefers a life of luxury than being with his mother who is loving and caring. the father is obviously rich and money doesn't fly through the window. who will take care of the boy? who will help him with his studies, school and and help him sort numerous other issues he would need to address as he grows up?

expensive toys, gameboys, branded clothes and international holidays don't make for good parenting. the mother may not be able to afford riches but she has boundless love to offer. a mother is a child's companion and guide.

is our next generation growing up to be so materialistic that they can only see the benefits of money. love doesn't matter for them. my heart goes out to the mother.

Kanchana

hi kanchana,
this is indeed a disturbing issue.
the other side is always green!!!
so i am sure this boy will understand his mother's love soon!
regards
pavi

Hi Kanchana
This is really a shocking news...........yes now a days kids want all fancy things and least bothered about the love of the mother.........See in the western world as soon as the kids grow up they just leave the parents and go off as they want to live a life of they choice.
As this kid is going to grow up with all these things around him even after he grows up he will never know the love of a mother in his life. As the father is only interested in fulfilling all the kids demands, but is not teaching the kid the value of life.

Kanchana,
It is really sad to read the court's verdict in this case ( is a 11 year old mature enough to take decision regarding his life.let alone the right decision?) , where the boy has clearly stated his stand and why he chose to live with his father...
after sometime do you think the father is going to pamper him...he will be telling his son, 'you came to live with me only for the money and not for me...'...
Today not only kids but even the elders are running behind the materialistic comfort leaving behind the 'real comfort'...

Poor mother, has no say in this...what a pity...

sriniketan

Hi Kanchana(sweet name),

I tottally disagree with the Courts judgement,how can they give such an senseless way of their decision.Being a 11 yr child he is attracted with the Fathers world ,so in this we have to ignore childs immaturity.If I were the judge I would ask the kid to be with both of them at different timing,so that he can taste both worlds.When he crosses some 16 or so thn I think he is mature enough to judge his life.But its saddest thing that nowadays everyone wants to get everyhting with out pain..

Hugs,
dg.

Todays world is so materialistic...its brushing off on the kids too.

And unfortunately there is no one to hammer the truth or rather make them understand the difference between the two.