tough to make friendship in USA??

its usa, people like to hang out only with someone who are well settled, who they think are beneficial to them,
i see people going here and there gossiping about everyone thinking they are only good once, they got nothing to regret about, lot of things happening like this, because of this kind of issues even thou there are many relatives here and there but they are not in good terms. this is all because of jealousy but nothing else. hard to make conversation with anyone cant help it but just to move on.

 

as far as my experience goes ppl here think twice before they at least smile and only ppl who hav kids do talk to each other and get along well....

 

Yes I agree with you guys, People are mean, i mean the Indian people are mean most of the time. They want to befriend only when you are do a good job and well settled. The more you earn the more people will talk you at their houses for parties n stuff. Driving is a big privilege in usa, if you are driving a car people would take undue advantage of that and you wont even know that.

 

there are very few people who look for real friendship here.All others move for some purpose and they try to take advantage of us.But its better to move with everybody to some extent and maintain distance in certain times to withstand a good relationship.Its better to say no whenever necessary.Its really lucky to get real good friends. But as janani said i find people get many friends when they have kids.
I really dont understand why people change with their attitude until they stay here. Its not the same when they are in india.

 

and only ppl who hav kids do talk to each other and get along well.... Janani, I have an answer for this...
They want a company for their kids to play along and not for them... else the kids are turning to boredom which the parents cant manage.

 

I am okay with Indians not talking but at least don't stare continuously as if you haven't seen humans

 

I think as you grow older it gets difficult to make meaningful friendships. One no longer has the patience for a lot of things and priorities change.

There are many Indian families in my condo, all of them except us have children. Here is a funny story... There was one lady whom I would always bump into the elevator and she would never smile or say a word. Then one day my sil was visiting and she took her daughter to the lobby to show her the Christmas tree. This lady met her and was very friendly and asked my sil if she lived in the condo. My sil told her she was visiting us and the lady said that she did not know us or had heard of us. My sil told her "I understand once you have children you prefer socializing with folks that have children."

A few weeks later, another friend in the apartment had a pooja. I was there and this lady was there as well, I was playing with my friend's daughter and my friend introduced me to this lady. This lady said "Are you new here, I have never seen you." I did not know what to say and just nodded my head.

I personally think that friendships that are made for a reason, don't survive longer. You have to like each other and not tolerate each other so that your children can have playmates.