Hi Sudha,
I totally agree with your views. Something changes when people land here. Hopefully i have not changed that much. My in laws cant belive that i am so casual( i make it a point not to take anything special from here for my kids). both my little ones grew up licking the flour, biting the doormat etc ( we were in India when they were 8 months and just crawling and teething), and believe me they did not fall sick!!.
I strongly believe in yours views of not overpampering the children , and yes all my trips back home are very pleasant, free of worries and illnesses ( both of them now have strong constitutions). They love our food more than the pasta and pizza etc..... . I do not take medicines from here, i buy the local medicines when there.
I think of late, the views are changing though and more of us Indian wives coming back home are not so paranoid anymore. But with the kids dads, thats a different story altogether!!!
Vandhana