Ways to take care of elderly parents back in India?

Hi all..
Thought provoking topic...

View point of myself :
It is not the question of having son or daughter, Whoever may be, we have to take care of our parents. It is because of them, we are in the world. We are also growing... we have to put ourselves in their shoes and think about it. According to me, calling them daily or sending mails, does not serve the purpose. Still they feel alone and will go into depression. We have to be by their side, when they need us . They don't need doctors.. but love and affection from their dear ones.

I agree with Gouri.. Though there are lot of old age homes still children should be on their side when they need us. Our parents were with us through out the life. It's not that the parents don't understand the importance of work but still we have to give them some time the way we give time to our children. They brought us up with so much efforts and now when they really need us.. we are asking them to go and stay in an old age home .. why ? just becoz our work is very imp for us and since we cannot leave the country we are staying.. COME ON that's not fair. Money is not everything. Again we still have life ahead of us. We still have time to do so many things .. to earn.. Just by giving them 2-3 of yr life .. staying with them does'nt mean that u have lost everything.
It is all becoz of the insecurity they have at this age.
Don't forget dear that we at some point in time will be in their shoes....

Vidya

Hi...

Thank you are agreeing some of my view points.. I am not blaming anybody. Hope, I am not hurting anybody here .....it is my view point only.

I equally agree - Work (Money) is important to anyone... but the on the same hand, parents too are important. this is only my view point.

If I am going to some other country, I make sure that they are with me i.e. I will take them with me, else I will go back to my country(as soon as possible) and will be there with them, when they need and keep them happy. I too agree, at the age of 60-70, they are feeling insecure. We are helpless. To me, the aspect of insecurity can be minimised by love and affection. But still, we can give a try to make them happy, by staying with them. Isn't ? To me, old aged homes are not the solution.

The best option would be to stay in "Elder's Home". Get used to live there. They provide good food .and medical comforts. It is not difficult to get used to the community life. If need be you can maintain your individuality.
gopalan