Do you Support Change of Surname/Lastname after Marriage

An interesting topic indeed!
I got married 21 years back and came to tamil Nadu from Kerala. I wa sexpected to use my husband's name's first letter as initial in place of my father's. As I was working in the Railways, that could not be done. But hubby changed my initial in the bank account. I used to sign with my original initial and then had to change it every time. It was difficult.
I noticed that the women of Tamil Nadu change their initial immediately after marriage. What confuses me is- father's name is called initial, isn't it? Once could write one's husband's name after one's name, that would be best. I did not want to change, so am keeping my maiden name only. Now hubby also had relented after much grousing all these years.
My mother (who is 75) and her elder sister use their maiden name only even now. But I find that today's women and girls like to add their husband's name not only to their name but also in their mail ids and what not.
I feel that there should be breathing space in any relationship, however intimate that relationship is!

No way! I have already planned. I am not going to change my surname after marriage :) It's really sad. Its the surname that you take to your new life -and you have to end up changing even that! Its like totally washing off your entire history of your life before you were married. :(

Supporting or not supporting is completely the personal choice of an individual.Moreover I dont support and have not changed my surname either and my husband is also not dejected by this decision of mine.

hi all,
i still sign in my maiden name.i haven't changed my documents accounts etc to my husband's name.
it's just the passport in which my spouse name is added.my husband is happy with it as well.i think its just that we are used to it from birth and also the hassels of changing a name are too much.
regards
pavi

hi sudarshana,

Nice topic to be discussed. Thought about it many times. I am not against anyone or supporting someone.i would like to express what i believe.Surname or Lastname are identities for a person. We being introduced to this world by our parents, my identity is their name and not anyone else. I have not changed my intials or lastname and have no idea to do it in the future.

I havent changed my name after marriage. I feel that my name with which i have been addressed for so many years has become a part of me, my identity. So i didnt change it.

Some of my friends who have changed their surnames after marriage said that they felt a sense of loss after that and it took a long time for them to get used to the new name

In general the love for our father will never die, the love for our spouse may!! So if we have decided to keep the flame of love for our spouse burning under all conditions of the weather, we can go ahead and change the surname or lastname. What is the use of changing the surname, when the passion is over is some cases of course.

I Feel It Doesnt Make A Difference!

Let me start by saying I am an avid feminist, modern, educated working woman who believes husband and wife are equal. None of that pati-parmeshwar stuff for me!

I changed my last name immediately after marriage just because I felt that doing so will join my name with my husband's. It was important for me to have the same last name to signify the sanctity of marriage. But that is just my opinion.

Both my SIL's (husbands' sisters) did not change their last names after marriage and found it wierd that I did. But at the end of the day, it is a very personal choice and neither way is right or wrong!

I have not changed my last name after marriage and i am proud to have my fathers name as my last name. I also feel my identity is not changed with marriage, i am still the same person as before marriage and want to be identified with my individuality.

Regards
Sun