Are women stone hearted

I was watching a picture yesterday I heard the same irritating dialogues
“ Shah Jahan built the Taj Mahal in memory of his wife Mumtaz, do any women have built atleast a brick for their husbands”
which the heroes used to speak in most of the films.

If a couple face a failure in their affair for any reasons, the boy becomes a drunker and lose his career, wastes his life always thinking about his old love. He does not marry another girl and lives alone carrying the memories of his ex-lover or even commits suicide.

But the girl will cry for some time and then will marry some men arranged by her parents. Why do all of them narrate women as a stone hearted and the one who can easily forget their old love and live happily getting married to other men.

Is this right? This is what really women are?

If a man lives alone after a love failure that will create sympathy on him. Is it same in the case of women? Can a women live alone . Will it be a bed of roses for her. Will this society leave her to live in peace.

I am not saying that men are acting or doing such things just to gain sympathy, but expecting the same from a women is ridiculous.

They are keeping such dialogues and scenes just to get whistles in theatre but why don’t they realize it may hurt us.

I don’t know whether u ladies have felt like me or not. I just want to share my feelings with u ppl. If u have any replies, do post it.

Hi Jacintha,
If oyu realised Men got to rule. except in a few cases. They have all the mony power and need not account to anybody. Women have so much to do as it is that is why they do not spend time on doing silly things. Society does not let women live in peace unless they can stand up for themselves. Cinema dialogues are gimmicks so ignore it

Hi Jcintha
I haven't seen many Devdas living life alone after failure of love affair/ affairs.
As for the women they are not stone hearted rather the reverse.
But yes they most of the time are more practical & have greater endurence than male parts & can bear such losses & continue to live for their family .
As such It is a scientific fact that women are more stronger than male gentically .
They can bear famine ,adverse circumstancec well than males.
The XX chroosome is much stronger but shedding of one leg of x chromosome in males making it Y make them vulenarable to many conditions.
Thats why a premature baby girl has more chance of surviving than a premature baby boy.
Nature made females weaker physically but stronger otherwise so they bear well.
As for the Shajahan building TAjmahal this is just a very well told story but Mumtaz was not her first Bagum ,He had a haremful of Bagums & Mumtaz dies giving birth to her 14 th child . Was that Love? Tajmahal is a monument of power & money not love.

Not at all. women are soft hearted only. we are born to sacrifice our life from the day we came to this world till the end.
to show the women's sacrifice as a mother and her love i am sending one article and read it. It is really very touching.Valentine day is round the corner and it does not mean the day is not only for lovers but also for everybody to show their love to parents also. So i feel this is the time for me to write and forward this message to all my IL friends.

After 21 years of marriage, my wife wanted me to take another woman out to dinner or refreshment. She said, "I love you, but I know this other woman loves you and would love to spend some time with you." The other woman that my wife wanted me to visit was my MOTHER, who has been a widow for 19 years, but the demands of my work and my three children had made it possible to visit her only occasionally. That night, I called to invite her to go out for dinner. "What's wrong, are you well?" she asked... I thought that it would be pleasant to spend some time with you, I responded. "Just the two of us," She thought about it for a moment, and then said, "I would like that very much." That Friday after work, as I drove over to pick her up I was a bit nervous. When I arrived at her house, I noticed that she, too, seemed to be nervous about our date. She waited in the door with her coat on. She had curled her hair and was wearing the dress that she had worn to celebrate her last wedding anniversary. She smiled from a face that was as radiant as an angel's. "I told my friends that I was going to go out with my son, and they were impressed," she said, as she got into the car. "They can't wait to hear about our meeting." We went to a restaurant that, although not elegant, was very nice and cozy. My mother took my arm as if she were the First Lady. After we sat down, I had to read the menu. Her eyes could only read large print. Half way through the entries, I lifted my eyes and saw Mom sitting there staring at me. A nostalgic smile was on her lips. It was I who used to have to read the menu when you were small, she said. Then it's time that you relax and let me return the favor, I responded. During the dinner, we had an agreeable conversation - nothing extraordinary but catching up on recent events of each other's life. As we arrived at her house later, she said, "I'll go out with you again, but only if you let me invite you." I agreed. How was your dinner date? asked my wife when I got home. "Very nice! Much more so than I could have imagined," I answered. A few days later, my mother died of a massive heart attack. I could not do anything for her. Some time later, I received an envelope with a copy of a restaurant receipt from the same place mother and I had dined. An attached note said: "I paid this bill in advance. I wasn't sure that I could be there; but nevertheless, I paid for two plates one for you and the other for your wife. You will never know what that night meant for me. I love you, son." At that moment, I understood the importance of saying in time: "I LOVE YOU" and to give our loved ones the time that they deserve. Give them the time they deserve, because these things cannot be put off till. "some other time."

i was crying while reading this article.
mrs.santha

Shah Jahan built a monument for his wife because at that time, only men had the financial independence to do fancy things with money, not women !!


Today, for obvious reasons, a woman may not be able to build a Taj Mahal to prove her love, but she makes thousand other actions and sacrifices to ensure that her family is happy and secure. All these sacrifices and adjustments made by women goes totally unnoticed and are almost taken for granted.


Women are God's most soft hearted creations, with capacities & strength beyond any man's imagination. If we put together all the sacrifices, gestures, adjusments and all other troubles she undergoes for her loved ones, it would be size of 100 such Taj Mahals put together !!!

So you can forget about the 1 Taj Mahal of Shah Jahan....

Hi Jacintha,

The line - “ Shah Jahan built the Taj Mahal in memory of his wife Mumtaz, do any women have built atleast a brick for their husbands” is very untrue! That is because of the ignorance of those people who write scripts and direct them and act in the movies! The truth is this - it was a woman who first built a memorial for her spouse, even before Shah Jahan did! Yes it is true! The monument is Humayun's Tomb in Delhi. It was built to commemorate him by his wife, Hamida Banu (Haji) Begum in the 16th century. It is a "World Heritage Site". If you look at it you will see that the Taj Mahal looks like it a lot, the only difference being, the Taj Mahal is made of marble whereas Humayun's tomb is made of red sandstone with marble inlays! It may be the case a lot of other Mughals have some to be buried in Humayun's Tomb but nobody can dispel the fact that humayun's Tomb was built on instructions from a woman, much before the Taj Mahal was built! So I guess this will make you feel better.
By the way here are some links to the two mausoleums for comparison.
Humayun's Tomb :
Image:Humayuns Tomb Delhi 31-05-2005 pic2.jpg - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia
Taj Mahal :
Image:Taj Mahal in March 2004.jpg - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

Regards,
Anitha

Originally Posted by jacintha

I was watching a picture yesterday I heard the same irritating dialogues
“ Shah Jahan built the Taj Mahal in memory of his wife Mumtaz, do any women have built atleast a brick for their husbands”
which the heroes used to speak in most of the films.

If a couple face a failure in their affair for any reasons, the boy becomes a drunker and lose his career, wastes his life always thinking about his old love. He does not marry another girl and lives alone carrying the memories of his ex-lover or even commits suicide.

But the girl will cry for some time and then will marry some men arranged by her parents. Why do all of them narrate women as a stone hearted and the one who can easily forget their old love and live happily getting married to other men.

Is this right? This is what really women are?

If a man lives alone after a love failure that will create sympathy on him. Is it same in the case of women? Can a women live alone . Will it be a bed of roses for her. Will this society leave her to live in peace.

I am not saying that men are acting or doing such things just to gain sympathy, but expecting the same from a women is ridiculous.

They are keeping such dialogues and scenes just to get whistles in theatre but why don’t they realize it may hurt us.

I don’t know whether u ladies have felt like me or not. I just want to share my feelings with u ppl. If u have any replies, do post it.

Hi,

Women are not stone hearted but they are portrayed as one.

As for men behaving like devdas...check out all the serials by Ekta Kapoor and i am sure your mindset will change.

Roopa.

Let me understand this what you are saying is that men can't cope with rejection and end up, drinking, crying, generally making a fool of themselves and an annoyance to others, not least the ex girlfriends.

Women on the other hand can pick themselves up and go on to lead healthy fulfilled happy lives!

Well done women! Come on men, get a life!

hiii all...."If a couple face a failure in their affair for any reasons, the boy becomes a drunker and lose his career, wastes his life always thinking about his old love. He does not marry another girl and lives alone carrying the memories of his ex-lover or even commits suicide."..we often this see only in films n novels...in real life i hvnt seen one....but hv seen women sacrificing a lot their desires,dreams,interests,aims everything for her family....
thanks anitha for the info...
'Shah Jahan built a monument for his wife because at that time, only men had the financial independence to do fancy things with money, not women !!


Today, for obvious reasons, a woman may not be able to build a Taj Mahal to prove her love, but she makes thousand other actions and sacrifices to ensure that her family is happy and secure. All these sacrifices and adjustments made by women goes totally unnoticed and are almost taken for granted.
it was good post sumeru....
cheers all...

dear jacintha,
my point is that most of the indian movies and their heroes, dialogues are a big so dont take them seriously and definitely dont try to make sense of what they say...movies and t.v serials are the biggest curse on our soceity as their stereo typed characters seldom give us any useful entertainment...best is to avoid seeing them to keep our peace of mind...