Behaviour of Indians

Hi to all IL's
I dont knw where exactly to post this thread.Its just tht i wanted to share something with u guys. I live in Switzerland, but i dont knw whether if any other indians have gone thru the same experience.

Its like whenever i come across another Indian in Geneva, its like they do all sorts of things to just avoid contact. I have noticed this several times, orelse its like they just look with some strange expression. why the hell shld they behave like tht.Not only in Geneva, i have seen people in
paris and london too, not only me even my friends have the same experience. Since then on i have never bothered to look at any of other fellow Indians, no matter wht. I just walk off without looking at them, but incase i come thru an elderly person i make sure tht i wish them, but otherwise i just walk off.

I feel really sad. When i was going thru the posts in IL ,i found some threads on "people living in europe can introduce themselves here " and so on wht is the use of all this i felt, when people dont like to just say hello to another fellow indian while walking on the street where the hell do u think tht they will meet eachother :?


regds..

Hi, Rajjo

I have lived in London for two years and in Melbourne, Australia for over a year. What you have said about the strange behavior of Indians is true to some extent. You should know that there are several Pakistanis, Bangladeshis and Srilankans and they do not respond until you open out. I have found that once you give a smile to them they reciprocate and you establish a rapport with them. Afterwards, you will find that they are as friendly as any other people. Westerners may give a smile readily and say Hi or Hello also even to totally unknown people. Beyond that they can be very rude in total contrast.

Regards,

TDU

Originally Posted by Tamildownunder

Hi, Rajjo

I have lived in London for two years and in Melbourne, Australia for over a year. What you have said about the strange behavior of Indians is true to some extent. You should know that there are several Pakistanis, Bangladeshis and Srilankans and they do not respond until you open out. I have found that once you give a smile to them they reciprocate and you establish a rapport with them. Afterwards, you will find that they are as friendly as any other people. Westerners may give a smile readily and say Hi or Hello also even to totally unknown people. Beyond that they can be very rude in total contrast.

Regards,

TDU

oh thanks for ur response, after 75 views and no response thought tht me and my friends r the only one who had such an experience.here in Geneva there r several Srilankans and they seem to be really good people, who like to get along, and i had met a person frm Pakistan in Zurich who to my surprise had so much of respect for us Indians and was sharing his views abt us and our culture. I was so taken by the way he spoke abt us.

Dear Rajjo

This happens in the U.S too.Even now,I am experiencing it.There are lots of Indians in my son's school. I get to see the parents when I go to pick up my son.I keep looking at them to just smile or say a 'Hi'.They never even bother to look,then where is the question of saying 'Hi'. The first one week,I kept looking.Now I don't bother to do that too. Sometimes,I feel the Americans are better off.

Hi Sunitha,
even I feel the french people here r more better than us indians, even i had the same experience which u had initially, later even i did not bother to mingle with them. here the public schools r only in french and they neither speak nor teach english so we have to put our kids in the international school only, so most of the english speaking or shld say the non french speaking parent's put their kids in this school only, so we get to meet so many people from all over the world. i met a very nice n humble japanese lady and also a lady frm london. we got along so well and had become really close.so i would only talk to these two ladies more, so i guess our indian ladies got a little frustrated or must say jealous tht they dont talk to them so then they started to talk to me. until then they never bothered to even look at me, now when i think of them i laugh at tht. anyway i will not be meeting them again coz i changed my son's school...

regds
Rajjo.

Hi Rajjo,

It's the same with us Desis, wherever we go. I used to live in Malaysia for sometime and I found that the Malaysian Indians were very warm and friendly. There were many Indians in my apartment community. Their lips would be sealed with fevicol :mad: - no smile, no talk! Likewise in the US, there are some unfriendly desis who try all sorts of tactics to look away. When I was new here all these things mattered but now I smile at people who smile , else just walk away .

well this may seem disheartnening, but the point is, we ourselves should never quit smiling anyways, inspite of our bad experiences. Coz it may happen so that after not getting any reciprocated smiles, we stop smiling and start behaving like these ppl u have mentioned here..
Sometimes its not intentional, the not smiling back, someone is probably preoccupied in their own thughts, and probably just hasnt noticed.. (or someones kid is bothering the hell out of them.. lol! ha.. ).. (me.. me!)
I dont know abt fellow Indians, but i have come across a lot of nice ppl, some Pakistanis esp. very helpful here in Frankfurt, Germany.
So ladies, always keep that pretty smile on... no matter what.. it may end up in a nice friendship :) . though ive personally never just made a friend here yet with a stranger... but optimistic.
In U.S That always worked, I made a couple o v good friends with strangers.

I was in Botswana for the past 6 years. There the local african people are very friendly and no matter whether you know them or not they will wish you and talk to you. I mean to say they are friendly. There are plenty of Indians and i always smile at everyone and sometimes they may smile back if they know me. When i went to south africa ,it is the same, indians who settled there long time back who doesnt know how india is, they know only thru Indian Movies, they can sing tamil songs but cannot speak in Tamil. They watch Hindi, Tamil movies but surely with english sub titles. So when they see indians they are very happy to talk to us, to talk about india. We stayed in Durban for 23 days and there was one restaurant owner whose forefathers were from India. They were looking like south indian and i was new to Africa so i always love to ask them whether they know tamil or can i get anywhere iindian food. They were so happy took us to many places for sight seeing, shopping and very friendly. They had been to India and they were commenting about "Why indians serve tea in a very small steel tumbler upside down" they ddint know how to take it out and drink from it.

Oh iam sorry let me come to the point. I feel that when indians from india meet other indians in any other foreign country feel and mumble that"array yaar you (indian) all are here too". But lets not be like these Indians. Wherever we are lets be friendly like any other foreigner(as you all have mentioned in this post incl me). So guys and ladies lets make it a point and smile and say hi to everyone. I am sure it is not a harm.

hi rajjo

i live most of my life in europe... i learn the hard way ..telugu people come to you when they need you and throw you away when don't need you anymore.

when my father was alive, our house was full of people who know they can found good food, good care and etc...... once my father died....ooouuuppss nobody was there with my mum.

and as my own experience in england.. i made friendship with a couple who were only coming to my house because i got a full of video.

so i am bitter.. why can't i found nice people with kind heart?

Originally Posted by Huma

hi rajjo

i live most of my life in europe... i learn the hard way ..telugu people come to you when they need you and throw you away when don't need you anymore.

when my father was alive, our house was full of people who know they can found good food, good care and etc...... once my father died....ooouuuppss nobody was there with my mum.

and as my own experience in england.. i made friendship with a couple who were only coming to my house because i got a full of video.

so i am bitter.. why can't i found nice people with kind heart?

Hi,

The behavior of the persons whom you experienced is totally personal to you and them.You can't say that that perticular person was speaking perticular language so all people who speak that language will be like that.This not right thing to blame total community.Every individual is different and he/she is should be made responsible for the good/bad.