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security guy staring at me..how to cut off??

Discussion in 'Friends & Neighbours' started by Bestmom, Nov 30, 2014.

  1. Bestmom

    Bestmom Silver IL'ite

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    Dear ilties,
    I always come to indusladies when I can't share with friends and family. Iam happily married with
    2 kids and a friendly person. There is one particular
    security keeps staring at me..initially
    I ignored..at one time he was always seen
    near my block and gallery. .. he used to smile
    at me..I thought its casual like in abroad.
    but he always keeps looking at me..at one point
    I called him and asked wat do u want?why are u
    looking at me always?? He was scared and said
    nothing... later it was reduced.. but nowadays
    He has again started his staring work without my
    knowledge... which i feel uncomfortable but trying
    to ignore it.. pls advice how I can cut off..
     
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  2. Chachi420

    Chachi420 Platinum IL'ite

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    How do you call him ? Bhaiya (if you are in Pune) or Anna (in TN). It does help. Give it a try.
     
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    Good advice.. but its like a soceity here..his duty is near
    the gate..so I don't talk with him at all..
     
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    Radhai Platinum IL'ite

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    Keep your immediate family informed of the discomfort.
     
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    yellowmango IL Hall of Fame

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    Inform your family.Don't look at him when you pass by him.
    If that doesn't work...ask any male member in the family to talk to the head of the security team.
     
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  6. Bestmom

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    Was waiting for ur reply yellowmango..
    Already an incident hap..a security was fired as his
    friends were passing comments on me by my husband..
    but during this time..this security guy was absent..
    actually he is good at work and was here more than 3 yrs..
    And he behaves very good n normal when I talk to him..
    but secretly he watches when am alone..which really
    irritates me ..feeling very uncomfortable. .
     
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    You should be careful with this guy. Since security guards are there most of the time, he could be watching your apt/condo/home and god forbid...hope he doesn't have any bad motives. Please inform your hubby and get him to talk to the management.

    Sometimes ignoring such person may send wrong message. He need to understand that you are not comfortable with his attitude. Make him stop staring !!
     
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    ya denni..
    he doesn't look at me when we meet separately. .waiting
    for the time to give him warning message. .
    this is secured apartment so am sure about the safety issues. .
    if its some outsiders I don't give damn..but this guy is inside itself. .
     
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    Hello Bestmom,

    I am truly concerned that you have to go through this. First of all find out if others in the Apt are also having the same guy staring at them. Then form a group and all of u go to the welfare committee in your Apts and tell them about this unbecoming behaviour of the security guard. But make sure you go in a group and this guy does not single you out for the complaint.

    Hope this helps.
     
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    Thanks madhu..
    true..so far I haven't discussed regarding this with anyone..
    may be I should do this..let me talk with my friend over here..
    good point dear..
     
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