Friend's behavior

What amuses me in your post is that the guy got offended.

Maybe when the guy got offended, you should have asked him, if his wife knows about the rubbish he is sending you and she might want to see it.

 

Pratts,

Let us approach the problem from the perspective of how to solve it for you. No need to further judge the guy in your post since it is abundantly clear that he is a jerk.

--> Why do you still refer to him as a friend?
--> How difficult is it for you to totally cut off any communication from him?
--> Is it an unavoidable situation like, he works at the same place, lives nearby and so on?

First step would be for you to cut off all communication from this guy. He is not a friend anymore. If that is un-avoidable, then at a place of your choosing (should be a public place), firmly tell him not to talk or communicate in any manner with him. You may want to suggest that if it doesn't stop you may have to report to his wife.

I reread your post and see that you blocked all communication from him. So that is a good first step and hopefully the only step needed.

Hope this helps.

 

Had your question been "what makes him take you for granted not once but twice?", the answer might help you in future encounters.

 

I guess that depends on the rubbish he was talking. What did he say?

shoot. never mind.

 

Look, sometimes people send double meaning jokes and the person recieving these may or may not be okay with it. You are clearly not ok with this friend sending you these messages. You did the right thing by telling him so directly. The fact that he continues to do it despite knowing you are uncomfortable indicates that he does not respect your feelings. I think you should keep a distance as there is no point telling him anything about it. Maintain a distance and stop messaging him often.

 

simple ... he is taking you for granted.. he wants to share dirty jokes with you.. he is deriving pleasure out of it. may be he is scared to do that with a new woman. may be he thinks these things wont matter to you and is definitely phone abusing you this way.

Wake up girl. people tend to use others for their dirty needs. Wake up. You did a brave thing by blocking comm with him.

But, if you succumb to his messages again, no one would ever suggest you, or for that matter read your post.

 

Gud to hear that you've stopped talking to him. Forget about him and don't give him any chance to come closer. I am concerned about his wife.