Think before you marry-An extract from the Book by swami sukabodhananda

Hi all,
I have found this worth sharing with you all.

A Magnanimous person came to a mental hospital to celebrate his birthday.He distributes sweets among the inmates.
He sees a patient hanging from a ceiling fan and screaming ,”Laila,Laila”
On inquiry,the staff tell him”well ,it is nothing new!He was deeply in love with a girl.She left him and married some one else.Thus,he became mad!”

He moves on and goes to another side of the hospital…he spots another patient hanging from the ceiling fan upside down and shoutinng ,”Laila,Laila”
Who is this? Asks the visitor.’he is the one who married that laila”answers the staff!

This is ofcourse a joke…but is well worth looking into the reasons why the love life and married life of some remain unsatisfactory.

Particularly married life.!

There is a basic reason for this state.It is because we think that marriage would bring us joy!What a wrong assumption!
The lamp is not light.Buildings are not home.Books are not knowledge.
Only when one lives lovingly in a house,it becomes a home.Only when books are read,they provide knowledge.
So is it with married life.Happiness does not come from marrying a like minded boy or girl and being together forever.
If a husband and wife walk in different paths with diverse desires,then married life would not be successful.What is important is how they utilize each other’s strengths for the success of their married life.
Marriage is also like a lamp.only when husband and wife light it together it would bring illumination…that is joy.

Hi Bhargavi,
that was a good one....liked the last para......and a good comparison too...thx for sharing with us!!

HI,
I WOULD LIKE TO SHARE THIS EXTRACT FROM THE SAME BOOK.

'MY SISTER IS FIVE YEARS YOUNGER THAN I!SHE HAS BOUGHT NON STICK COOKWARE,VACUUM CLEANER!BUT BEING MARRIED TO YOU, WHAT HAVE I GOT?'THERE ARE MANY WIVES WHO LAMENT LIKE THIS.

NOW THE HUSBAND'S RESPONSE TO THIS IS ALSO ANOTHER LAMENT
'LOOK HOW SWEET AND CHEERFUL YOUR SISTER IS WITH HER HUSBAND!YOU ARE SUCH A GRUMBLER!'


COMPARISON IS ONE ANOTHER REASON FOR UPSETS BETWEEN HUSBAND AND WIFE.

EACH ONE OF US IS UNIQUE IN ONE'S OWN WAY.LET US REJOICE IN OUR UNIQUENESS.

Dear Bhargavi that was a wonderful explanation abt marriage, great interpretation. Thanx for sharing with us

Dear Bhargavi,

That was indeed profound knowledge from Swami Sukhabodhananda about marriage.

I've read some of his books & like the way he puts across the message through the help of stories & jokes. His books are definitely a must read & helps one in all aspects of everyday life.

Thanks for sharing with us.

Cheers!
Ragini.

Dear sudha,cheer&ragini,
It's nice that you have enjoyed .

Dear Bhargavi,
Very nice message. That is so true. comparison and suspicion is the number one killer of marriages. Trust, contentment and compromise are my mantras for a good marriage life. what do you say??

regards
pia

Well Said!!

excellent explanation,
A must know for everyone, before they get married
thanks for sharing