Burnt toasts: A thoughtful piece. Do read ...........

Interesting read..... it's for those who are already married & those
who are to take the plunge soon and those who are hesitant to say "I
do"!!!!!!!!!!!!!

The Secret to a Lasting Marriage: Embrace Imperfection By- Deb Graham

When I was a little girl, my mom liked to make breakfast food for dinner every now and then. And I remember one night in particular when she had made breakfast after a long, hard day at work.

On that evening so long ago, my mom placed a plate of eggs, sausage,
and extremely burned toast in front of my dad. I remember waiting to see
if anyone noticed! Yet all my dad did was reach for his toast, smile at my mom, and ask me how my day was at school. I don't remember what
I told him that night, but I do remember Watching him smear butter and jelly on that toast and eat every bite!

When I got Up from the table that evening, I remember hearing my mom apologize to my dad For burning the toast. And I'll never forget what he said: 'Baby, I love burned toast.'

Later that night, I went to kiss Daddy good night and I asked him if He really liked his toast burned. He wrapped me in his arms and said, 'Debbie, your momma put in a hard day at work today and she's real tired. And besides-a little burnt toast never hurt anyone!'

In bed that night, I thought about that scene at dinner...and the kindness my daddy showed my mom. To this day, it's a cherished memory from my childhood that I'll never forget. And it's one that came to mind just
recently when Jack and I sat down to eat dinner.

I had arrived home late...as usual...and decided we would have breakfast
food for dinner. Some things never change, I suppose!

To my amazement, I found the ingredients I needed, and quickly began
To cook eggs, turkey sausage, and buttered toast. Thinking I had things
Under control, I glanced through the mail for the day. It was only a few
Minutes later that I remembered that I had forgotten to take the toast out of
The oven!

Now, had it been any other day -- and had we had more than two pieces
Of bread in the entire house -- I would have started all over. But it had been one of those days and I had just used up the last two pieces of bread.
So burnt toast it was!

As I set the plate down in front of Jack, I waited for a comment about
the toast. But all I got was a 'Thank you!' I watched as he ate bite by
bite, all the time waiting for some comment about the toast. But instead,
all Jack said was, 'Babe, this is great. Thanks for cooking tonight. I know you had a hard day.'

As I took a bite of my charred toast that night, I thought about my Mom and dad...how burnt toast hadn't been a deal-breaker for them. And I
quietly thanked God for giving me a marriage where burnt toast wasn't a
deal-breaker either!

You know, life is full of imperfect things...and imperfect people. I'm not the best housekeeper or cook. And you might be surprised to find out that Jack isn't the perfect husband! He likes to play his music too loud. He will always find a way to avoid yard work, and he watches far too many sports. Believe it or not, watching ' Golf Academy ' is not my idea of a great night at home!

But somehow in the past 37 years Jack and I have learned to accept the
imperfections in each other. Over time, we have stopped trying to make each other in our own mold and have learned to celebrate our differences.
You might say that we've learned to love each other for who we really are!

For example, I like to take my time, I'm a perfectionist, and I'm even-tempered. I tend to work too much and sleep too little. Jack, on the other hand, is disciplined, studious, an early riser, and is a marketer's dream consumer. I count pennies and Jack could care less! Where he is strong, I am weak, and vice versa.

And while you might say that Jack and I are opposites, we're also very much alike. I can look at him and tell you what he's thinking. I can predict these actions before he finalizes his plans. On the other hand, he knows
whether I'm troubled or not the moment I enter a room.

We share the same goals. We love the same things. And we are still best friends. We've traveled through many valleys and enjoyed m many mountain tops. And yet, at the same time, Jack and I must work every minute of every day to make this thing called 'marriage' work!

What I've learned over the years is that learning to accept each other's faults - and choosing to celebrate each other's differences - is the one of the most important keys to creating a healthy, growing, and lasting marriage relationship.

And that's my prayer for you today. That you will learn to take the good, the bad, and the ugly parts of your married life and lay them at the
feet of GOD. Because in the end, He's the only One who will be able to give you a marriage where burnt toast isn't a deal-breaker!

Superb...It was a lovely piece..enjoyed reading each word of it...Patience..this is really needed in every relationship...Thanks for sharing...

Hi! Aruna,

It is always a delight to read your posts.

This one is so tender and shows how consideration for the partner is of prime importance in married life.

Thanks for turning the spotlight on this facet of married life.

Love, PAULINA

Thanks Moonbeams for enjoying the post it is true that we need to have patience in order to have good relationship.


Hi Paulina
Reading your FBs is enjoyable for me this is what I missed the more .
Thanks for your sweet fbs.Your fbs are so loving and caring that shows you are so matured and can understand things so well
Good night. Thank you very much for your valuable thoughts

Hi Aruna ma'am

I know you would be very surprised to see my fb for this thread..Hahaha..couldnt resist posting what i feel after reading this..This message could be related to all relationships..When this can be implemented in marriage n find marriage life a better one, wat if we try to implement this in all facets of our life?............... This whole world will then be a loving heaven to live in for all to enjoy each n every minute..waiting very much to see a heavenly world like that.....

Love
Meena

You are right Meena
If God grants all our wishes to come true, wouldn't this world become a heavenly place to leave in. As far as possible we should try to keep our sourrounding peaceful, and cheerful, if not the whole world atleast the world around us can be a heaven.
What do you say????

Originally Posted by MEENANEELAKANTAN

Hi Aruna ma'am

I know you would be very surprised to see my fb for this thread..Hahaha..couldnt resist posting what i feel after reading this..This message could be related to all relationships..When this can be implemented in marriage n find marriage life a better one, wat if we try to implement this in all facets of our life?............... This whole world will then be a loving heaven to live in for all to enjoy each n every minute..waiting very much to see a heavenly world like that.....

Love
Meena

thanx for sharing

Thanx for sharing this wonderful peice, Aruna....


I loved the line .....

learning to accept each other's faults - and choosing to celebrate each other's differences -

Thanx.....