Msg to fellow Travellers- in the infertility journey

Saw this on another site and thought it appropriate for here. also quite apt for most others as well
DIFFERENT TRIPS TO THE SAME PLACE


Deciding to have a baby is like planning a trip to Australia. You've heard it is a wonderful place, you've read many guidebooks and feel certain that you're ready to go. Everyone you know has gone there by plane. They say it can be a turbulent flight with occassional rough landings, but you look forward to being pampered on the trip.

So you go to the airport and ask the ticket agent for a ticket to Australia. All around you, excited people are boarding planes for Australia. It seems that there is no seat for you; you'll have to wait for the next flight. Impatient, but anticipating a wonderful trip, you wait....and wait.......and wait.........

Flights to Australia come and go. People say silly things like. "Relax. You'll get on a flight soon. Other people actually get on a plane and then cancel the trip, to which you cry, "IT'S NOT FAIR!"

After a long time the ticket agent tells you, "I'm sorry, we're not going to be able to get you on a plane to Australia. Perhaps you should think about going by boat."

"By Boat!" you say. "Going by boat will take a very long time drifting in deep waters. I really had my heart set on going by plane." So you go home and you think about not going to Australia at all. You wonder if Australia will be as beautiful if you approach it by sea rather than by air. But you have long dreamed of this wonderful place, and finally decide to travel by boat.

It is a long trip, many months over many rough seas. No one pampers you. You wonder if you will ever see Australia. Meanwhile, your friends have flown back and forth to Australia two or three more times, marvelling about each trip.

Then one glorious day, the boat docks in Australia. It is more exquisite than you ever imagined, and the beauty is magnified by your long days at sea. You have made many wonderful friends during your voyage, and you find yourself comparing stories with others who also travelled by sea rather than by air.

People continue to fly to Australia as often as they like, but you are able to travel only once, perhaps twice. Some say things like "Oh, be glad you didn't fly. My flight was horrible; travelling by sea is so easy."

You will always wonder what it would have been like to fly to Australia. Still, you know you have been blessed with a special appreciation of Australia, after all the beauty of Australia is not in the way that you get there, but in the place itself.


With much love to my fellow travellers

 

Dear Abby: Long Journey, Wonderful Destination


The following essay was written by Diane Armitage, an adoptive mother of two, and published in a "Dear Abby" column by the Universal Press Syndicate. Date of original publication is not known, but the essay is timeless and classic. It seems to address and identify more with issues pertaining to adoption post infertility but there are parts that will resonate with all parents, no matter what route we take

thx
Prabha