My TTC journey

Hi,
I can understand your pain.I am going through the same situation.God will definitely listen to all our prayers.Can't we lead our life without having kids? Why from the day 1 of our marriage everyone runs after us for kids? Don't we have the freedom to stay happily with our husband? why we are treated bad as if we dont want kids? Why people are asking us to go through painful medical procedures before we conceive? Why do we suffer all the pain even if every organs in our body related to pregnancy are working fine and doctors name them "un-explained Fertility"..And Doctors when they learn that we are married for more than 2 years and trying to conceive without any result ask us to go for IVF in which we need to pay lots and lots of money without knowing the outcome? Sorry if i Hurt anyone here asking these questions....Have several questions in my mind but no answers to them....

 

Heyy girls .....console1
I know how frustrating the TTC journey has come to become these days...too stressful...too mechanical!!

I am sailing in the same boat.....diff issues though. We think..things are in our hands and plan our future...but as they say.."man proposes...god disposes"....he had different plans for us..(surely very good ones i hope).

All I can say is...I can totally relate to what you people are going through.....
Let us atleast not make ourselves..an enemy to our body. This is something I have been following of-late.
Disconnect yourself from negative ppl...negative thinking...negative stories. We already have enough on our minds to deal with. Be normal...act as if nothing is wrong ....if someone asks.."when is ur good news coming.."..I simply smile and say.."Hopefully soon......" (u never know....god might listen and grant ur wish as well ......
Do all that u need to do.....get urself a good doc...stick to him/her...Follow the diet and medication...PRAY (most important).....and Have Faith!!

Good things are on our way.....lets save our energy for that:thumbsup

 

Hi memeera1234,

I think we both are also sailing in the same boat. I also thought like you the same. I didn't wanted child for 1st 2 years of my marriage as we were in US for sometime and also some family drama & issue. After 2 years we started and when for 1st 6 months of try nothing happened, we thought to see one doc in Pune since we were working in pune. We started same journey all test and IUIs, my test was all normal but my hubby had some mortality prob,, which was just 1% infertile and nothing much. We did everything we could do, aryuvedic medicine, puja's and everything. In between after lot of frustration I have left IUI after 8 failures. After which my doc did laproscopy which was also normal and good. Then he suggested more IUI I think I did one and stopped visiting that doc as he was doing a lot more TP. I was really frustrated that I didn't take second opinion and asked some other doc. I know IVF and ICSI cost is more but when we are trying for so many years I think its kinda investment we are doing it. At the end of the day I do not want to feel guilty that I didn't tried this, I shud had tried and sit crying.

Also I think you shudnt had quitted your job, I think job is our stress distractor. Sitting at home doing nothing and just thinking about it whole day makes us more stressful. Luckily none of my parents, relatives or inlaws have started blaming us but I myself feel so bad that my cousin devrani already conceived soon after just 3-4 months of marriage and I am still not.

Well I think there are many women like us who are trying to conceive but in vain. I believe there is time for everything and it will happen when time is right, As it is said try try till you succeed. Our job is to try, we really do not know what is in our destiny or what god has thought for us.

All the best to you

& Keep Hopes, Keep fingers crossed...

 

Hi meera,

i totally agree with jig , as u r already 31 , its better to go for IVF , i Know it is costly but think as jig said its a investment and the fruit that u r going to get is priceless.... so think positive , believe in god , recite this sloga dialy "Om garbharakshambigai vithmahey , mangala devathaya dhimahe ,thanno devi prasothayath"

Am also going thru the same...but going for an iui next month ,if not then ivf. we are also from middle class family so started saving money from last year itself since we can face anything....

lots of baby dust
Sugu

 

Hi meera....

you can chant them as u wish... i used to chant them whenever i feel depressed, when i dont get sleep...and i never counted it... its ur wish da....but say it once daily without fail....

baby dust to you
sugu

 

hello meera,

since ur at home , try and keep urself active n distracted with sum activity like yoga, swimming or watver u like . keep urself distracted and keep trying , i have heard many stories , sply in my aunt case, she concieved aftr 15 years that too naturally

 

As your name goes meera, sooner you will be blessed with a little krishna.. This was the prime thought i got after reading your post so i told that you can get a lol sooner.

First of all, tell to yourself this will pass on and good times ahead, i must see it. All your pain will yield you result soon, all that you need is not to give up.

Always remember success consists of going from failure to failure without loss of enthusiasm. Try each time as though you do it for first time only then you will have energy and positiveness. Believe that your offspring will come to this world. Believe is the mantra for all.

You left your job, fine though out of compulsion you did, you did so don't bother or worry. Stay concentrated in one task, if at heart if you worry for leaving job and in brain for a child, you can't see success. Do even a smallest thing with fullest effort, don't look for results just do, god would bestow the fruit. Don't pray planning for a baby, pray that my prayers should bring all good and needy to me.

I can just suggest a prayer which again stirked me just now, instinct too. For 7weeks pray lord muruga, on sashti, i think you can see it from the calender, fast on that day if you can and chant sashti kavasm..

Best of luck, very soon you will be blessed with a kid.. baby dust to u...:2thumbsup: