My TTC journey

Hi Meera....Totally understand your pain and feel for you. I had a long TTC journey and suffered a miscarriage in my first cycle of ICSI. Remember, negativity will not help solve the issue and pressure for sure will only mess things up.

I think the most important thing you should do is confide in your husband and get him to be a touch more supportive...especially while dealing with your inlaws and relatives. Based on what I see above, I guess you haven't gone a detailed sperm analysis with survival and DNA fragmentation. Through my journey...till early this year, I thought I was the problem...but on doing thhe detailed tests on my husband, we were able to identify the core of the issue. Yes, its tough on guys, but thats the reality...Society brings us up to think the problem is only the woman.

In my case, I had a tough time with my in laws..but after they got to know about my hubby issue, they have backed off on their comments etc.

Relax and keep the faith...things have its own way of working out....do whatever is within your control....the rest ...God knows how to take care of

 

Dear Op,

I am there with you.Not only me but i know several ladies here do understand what you are going through.Believe me when i say,forget about expectations from others.The society is as such that the taunts never stop.Trust me even if you have a kid,they will taunt you about the next one whether or not you want the same.
But comming to the point,you need to know that wanting a baby is your desire.Yours alone.Rest you dont need to fulfill expectations of anyone incl your inlaws.The decision to have a baby is a beautiful decision between you and your hubby.The more people are involved in this decision,the more difficult its gonna get,and lets not talk about the stress factor.
Get hold of a good docter,and check out both the parameters ,yours and your hubbys.Like winnie stated,there are new tests like sperm survival,dna fragmentation,hsg,which mite help you to reach the core problem.Never ever involve anyone else who dont really understand or care about what you are going through.
I am not very religious but i feel prayers help you learn your innermost feelings and desires .There is a right time for everything,and things will fall in its place in due time.
Good luck ahead!!!

 

Hi Meera,

I can speak about the DNA Fragmentation.The normal Sperm Analysis cannot never find this out.
DNA fragmentation is the separation or breaking of DNA strands into pieces. It can be intentional by laboratory personnel or the cells, or it can be spontaneous. Spontaneous or accidental DNA fragmentation is fragmentation that gradually accumulates in a cell. It can be measured by e.g. Comet assay.
The normal Sperm Analysis can never find it out.Your husbands sperm may have the best motility and good numbers,but it can still be defective.I would suggest to read and educate yourself regarding the same.
The good news here is that it can be still bought down with lifestyle changes,like incl fresh veggies,leafies and antioxidents.I have read a lot of posts where they have been bought down and successful pregnancies have been achieved with ivf plus icsi.

 

how much could be the cost of it .. also seems it will detect any cases of illness right