Newly Married - Questions about Intimacy!

Originally Posted by pmahensa

Also consider using some sort of lubricant - this has helped me greatly in reducing pain. In many cases, when a woman is not aroused completely, her private areas are dry and the friction of intercourse causes pain. Here in the US you can get KY Jelly for this purpose but I have also used baby oil. Ask your husband to massage a bit of oil on your private parts few minutes prior to intercourse. The massage may also help you get in the mood

yep .. for those people who invented those lubricants.... during my initial phase.. I used to scream with pain

Also use this just during the time when you are playing around or anything initially..When you are planning on conceiving, then during that time avoid any lubricants since it might harm the sperms...

hi pmahensa

can cocunut oil be used in those areas.
i feel itchng and irritation in those regions after intercourse. wil this oil help to reduce???/

dear vanathi,

so isnt it really good to have you on IL............ nice to have you dear, for those moms-to-be, newly married couple, new mothers, breast feeding, etc, etc, etc,

great going vanathi......................

love
padma

Thanks Padma. I like it here.

Vanathi..

Hi Sarkri,

I personally have not tried coconut oil but I don't see any harm in using it. Just remember not to use if trying to conceive as it would impede the movement of the sperm.

One other thing to keep in mind is not to use lots n lots of lubricant as it causes early ejaculation in men. Max use a tablespoon or so.

Cheers,

Pooja

hi
olive oil can be used as lubricant. one of friends in IL have quoted this

hi everyone thank you very much for all suggestions.
i moved to hyd with my husband. so i am very happy now

dear lalitha

tht is gr8 news and frm now on i dun think u shud have any problems....all the best

lov
sowmi

Dear Lalitha,

Just to add onto the lubricants part, try - Xylocaine Gel. This is what my cousin's Gynec (in india) prescribed when she had the same problem. But as everyone said, this is only for the initial days. After u get comfortable and are trying for a baby, u can either stop using any kind of lubriaction or use coconut oil as others have pointed out.

All the best.. And have fun girl !!!

Hi,
I got married last year and till then I ve had regular periods. But immediately after marriage, my periods got haywire. First month i got it on 45th day and the next month it was 15 days short and again 45 days long. Now its kinda regularising but still not exact.

For the past couple of months we ve been ttc. But since my periods are not regular, its difficult to predict my ovulation date. And every month I keep wondering if I am pregnant this month or not. And I get so depressed when I get my periods. Since I am hoping I am pregnant, I get all these symptoms which I realise I am imagining. Can anyone tell me for sure what symptoms to expect??

This month I ve again missed. Not long though. Just 2 days. So waiting to see if its just a long period or am I really pregnant!!! How soon can the kit detect my pregnancy.

Advice plz and pray for me!!!