Multiple IVF failure support Group

Dear Friends,

I keep following this forum regularly. There is so much of information here about IUI'S, IVF, test for TTC and almost everything. But there is no support group for multiple IVF failures. So I am starting this thread.

Vasu, I request you to make this thread tricky.

Let me start with my story. I married my college sweetheart in 2005. Good spouse and supporting Inlaws. Started TTC in 2007 after our second wedding anniversary. Nothing happened for 6 months, so we visited a gynaecologist, she prescribed HSG. Rude shock that I had bilateral tubal block!! We postponed treatments for 6 months and Dec 2008, I started spotting. We went to a different gynec this time and was detected with a fibroid. She immediately referred us to fertility specialist.

She did diagnostic lap and declared that my right side tube is patent and fibroid was removed in this surgery. This happened un Feb 2009. She suggested we do to IUI, but she can do IUI'S only if I ovaluate on right side. I was on clomoid and all 6 months I ovaluated in left side, then she put me on injectibles and tried 3 IUi's with no success. So we were told go or IVF, we took one year break.

First IVF in Dec 2010, no luck. I had piles surgery too in Feb 2011. Then second IVF in July 2011, no success. All implantation failure tests came out good and my husband's parameters were good!! God was kind enough and I conceived in a natural cycle and my EDD came same as my wedding anniversary, our happiness short lived, no heart beat and D&C was done. I was literally shattered and cried and started hating god. My DH was my pillar of support, my inlaws were supportive too.

Then 3rd IVF journey started Nov 2012' but embryo quality was not too good, so doc suggested we try donor egg as we wanted nothing but success. So again took a break, we moved to a new city, met a new doctor, who suggested I take DHEA supplements for 6 months to improve egg quality as all reports were in our favour. I was about to start it this month.

During this entire journey, I am working professional, thanks to flexible timing I managed job and treatment. I thought of taking break many times, but didn't as I felt TTC thoughts will occupy my mind. If there is any good news definitely I will leave my job. Now I am placed in world's biggest product company in a very senior role so we are moving back to the original place where we were. Thinking to resume treatments shortly after we move there.

Lot of learnings in TTC, sadness but I am positive still. I will make it definitely one day. God is making a very special baby or me. My pillar of support is my spouse and this TTC journey has made our relation stronger. Please join me ladies to pray and make your iVF's successful

 

Dear Yettobemom,

Thanks for your wishes. Wishing you too sticky baby dust

 

Dear Sugan,

Firstly congrats dear twin mommy. Thanks for your input. Currently I am working for a financial giant and I am into IT infrastructure. My job is not stressful, I go on time and come back on time and do not carry any work load back to home. My timings are flexible and when ever required I can work from home. This is the whole reason I didn't switch job for alst 8 years(since my marriage I am in a same company). I took complete 4 week's off for my IVF's, very healthy food, complete rest and had no office thoughts but still no success. Also in between I took 3 months unpaid leave, just thought to see if quitting job will be of any help. But honestly sitting at home and treatments increased my TTC thoughts. That is the reason the very thought of quitting job is scaring me.

When it comes to ME time, I am quite lucky on that bit we have a cook who comes morning and evening to make food. We have a maid to take care of all house holds and even the supervision of these people is taken care by MIL. So basically I have not much pressure at home front too. I have sufficient ME time to pamper myslef, eat healthy and exercise well. I follow a very healthy life style and spend quality time with my spouse.

This time too I was not looking for a change of job, but DH was saying 'why don't you try for a new company'?
So casually I applied and I go through to my new job. I am assured of flexi timings, WFH in this one too.
My friends who work there confirmed there is no much of work pressure.

But definitely when I have my good news, my baby will come first rather than my career. Happy and healthy 9 months to you dear

 

Dear ladies,

I actually wanted to keep the title of this thread as 'Multiple IVF failure support group'. How do I change the title?

 

Thanks Twinkel. Sticky baby dust to you too