Need Help!!!!!!

Hi there,

I went through a similar thing, but for a couple of weeks after marriage, NOT 6 years. How come you guys are not taking immediate action on this?

What worked for us when we were newly married is saliva as lubricant. I am not going into anymore details. Do research online.

Problem could be with you or your husband, you wouldn't know unless you consult a specialist. 6 Years is a very long time!!! Please take action asap.

 

Hi OP

your problem, believe me, is not uncommon though 6 years is a long time...

We have had a similar exp till 3-4 yrs of marriage where we thiought we are doing 'it' right till a doctor that we consulted for TTC examined me and made us realise that what we were doing was not completely inside. he suggested to get my v&^&# dilated.

We used some local cream like xylocaine and we literally had to do it with 'force' that time.Dr also suggested changes in posture...we are still TTC, but for different factors

Do not hesitate to do a DR asap maybe a male specialist/ andrologist

also get ur basic fertlity related tests done with specilaist for both of you to rule out any other obstacles.

my 1 colleage is 34 years now, TTC, just diagnosed a few months back as similar problem as yours...

 

Dear Ni****a,

Same is the case with me. But my doctor said it is not necessary to get in completely. You can still conceive if he has eja****** near the opening around the v***** (esp around ovulation). The sperms are quite agile and can swim upto the cervix along with the help of EWCM. So it is not a great cause of concern. This is what my doctor told me. Don't know how much this will help you but just thought of sharing this information. Sorry if I'm wrong. Lets see what others have to say on this. Good Luck!

 

the condition you have is called as vaginismus...you need to frequently use that dildo and dilate your opening..i belive you can order a set online where they have differing diametres,which will make u feel comfortable...your husband is most probably loosing his errection because of the constant problem in penetration..psychologically,he is getting suppressed...apart from psychological issue,his sperm analysis and ED should be addressed..same is the psychological case with you..some women have vaginismus either because they have had a conservative upbringing,have some vaginal infections,fear of pain during penetration or some incidents of unwanted sexual interactions which might have let an impact on the mind,and hence the psychological fear...you need to relax and loosen up your muscles and mind both..try going for some honeymoon..it will relax the atmosphere..but 6 yrs is a lot and need promp attention!

 

Hi WBM!

Dint know u were facing this prob too! We were also facing this for the first 3 mnths of marriage...but relaxation and lubrication helps, assuming hubby doesnt have impo****y or ED.
That time we were using KY, but do r;ber NEVER TO USE KY OR OTHER LUBES WHEN TTC. They kill sperms. Pls pls use baby-friendly ones such as Preseed or Conceive Plus.
Just thought should tell u (& others here) in case u didnt know.

 

Hi dear! Sorry to know that...do confirm with a doc that there is no prob wrt vaginismus...once confirmed, do sit down and hv a gentle heart-to-heart talk wid ur DH. Coz this is a v delicate issue for them and could affect their self-esteem big time! So let him know its not just 'his' problem, but something that could be tackled with some help. Take him into confidence. I think Kegel exercises help to some extent. Do google up for more info. Good luck and hope ur issue gets sorted soon !