IndusLadies - Miscellaneous in Parenting http://www.indusladies.com/forums en Sun, 22 Nov 2009 16:07:13 GMT vBulletin 60 http://www.IndusLadies.com/forums/images/006/misc/rss.jpg IndusLadies - Miscellaneous in Parenting http://www.indusladies.com/forums Legal age to stay home alone... http://www.indusladies.com/forums/miscellaneous-in-parenting/77893-legal-age-stay-home-alone.html Sat, 21 Nov 2009 14:01:41 GMT Hi Ladies: Can someone tell me what is the legal age to leave the kids home alone unsupervised?? Adara Hi Ladies:
Can someone tell me what is the legal age to leave the kids home alone unsupervised??
Adara ]]> Miscellaneous in Parenting adara http://www.indusladies.com/forums/miscellaneous-in-parenting/77893-legal-age-stay-home-alone.html Know your child - 12 Zodiacs http://www.indusladies.com/forums/miscellaneous-in-parenting/76908-know-your-child-12-zodiacs.html Thu, 12 Nov 2009 06:57:48 GMT I keep reading astro per se my interest. Just got something for you. Know your child. I keep reading astro per se my interest. Just got something for you. Know your child.
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]]> Miscellaneous in Parenting lee50 http://www.indusladies.com/forums/miscellaneous-in-parenting/76908-know-your-child-12-zodiacs.html another kid http://www.indusladies.com/forums/miscellaneous-in-parenting/76614-another-kid.html Mon, 09 Nov 2009 16:54:36 GMT Hi
I have suffered from panic attacks in the pastand I nmy panic atttacks I think that people are spying on me they call me to know my intentions and will tell to my hubby.My parents'my brother have been disgraced because of me.My daughter had been diagnosed with diabetes last year and I said that it has happened because of me.Now my hubby also believes that it happened becoz of me.I love my husband too much and want to have good relation with him.I said a lot to him that he did not pay much attention to my daughter.Because of my panic attacks my mom has to come to stay at my house again and again.I know I have the habit of putting blame of everything on myself but I have lost all trust of others.that I can't manage my home on my own.I want my daughter to settle in abroad becoz of her medical condition I think her life will be good here.I think becoz of me she should not loose more in life.I am soon going to have another kid too and seeing me that I don't drive or I don't do any outside work my hubby has doubts about making me settle in abroad.In past ten years he did't train me for outside work.He once said that my eyes were on his money so I didn't take much interest.I really want to stand up for my kids.Suggest me how can I win the cofidence and do the best for my kids and my daughter especially.Sometimes I think that I have lost everything.My husband and sometimes I also think that I haven't taught anything to my daughter and sometimes my husband has already started comparing her with what he is going to do with other kid which is due in december.He plans for ceremoies for other kid but nothing much was done for my daughter.Ifeel my daughter is at loss everywhere.My daughter listens to this and I am worried that she is already fighting with diabetes .W hat should I do.My husband doesn't have his mother and He had expectations from me that I will take care of everything but I have put him in trouble again and again.Behind the scenes problems with ILS has been there like SIL being jealous of my little daughter thniking her son is much smarter tha n my daughter.I think my husband didnot pay much attention to my daughter becoz of my sil and my daughter should have been better supportedby me.What ca n I do best for my daughter now. ]]> Miscellaneous in Parenting sams http://www.indusladies.com/forums/miscellaneous-in-parenting/76614-another-kid.html what kind of family are you http://www.indusladies.com/forums/miscellaneous-in-parenting/76424-what-kind-of-family-you.html Sat, 07 Nov 2009 22:07:35 GMT hey guys thought I d share this with you dh and me went to a friends house ,the couple had 4 kids,ages 8,,6,4 and3 the kids wewre so quiet,so orderly,the house was like silent you couldnt hear a pin drop,the kids were sitting so quietly it was unbelievable because we werw there for about 4... hey guys thought I d share this with you dh and me went to a friends house ,the couple had 4 kids,ages 8,,6,4 and3 the kids wewre so quiet,so orderly,the house was like silent you couldnt hear a pin drop,the kids were sitting so quietly it was unbelievable because we werw there for about 4 hours,I couldnt believe itso I asked the wife are your kids always like that,is your home always so spic and span she replied yes.
as soon as I got inthe car me and dh saiad at the same time did you see those kids wecould not believe it ,dh later told thats how they are supposed no yelling anything every one speaks with resecpt even the wife the dh is boss.I t suddenlyv got e thining what kind of family are you a quietfamaily with dh as the boss or a noisy family
asfor me mine is a ver noisy family with plenty of laughter and happiness.it is not a sterile home where you are afraid to drop something.,it always has evidence theres a child around and as I openrd my door all the happiness and colour was there.:thumbsup ]]> Miscellaneous in Parenting peaches n cream http://www.indusladies.com/forums/miscellaneous-in-parenting/76424-what-kind-of-family-you.html kids bed http://www.indusladies.com/forums/miscellaneous-in-parenting/76346-kids-bed.html Fri, 06 Nov 2009 18:14:14 GMT HI, I live in US, I am planning to buy bed for my son who is 5 year old, I googled and found little tikes car bed, thomas bed, bunk bed etc, confused what kind of bed id suitable, what to look for, no need of fancy stuff, just should be suitable for 5 year old kid. any suggestions based on... HI,

I live in US, I am planning to buy bed for my son who is 5 year old, I googled and found little tikes car bed, thomas bed, bunk bed etc, confused what kind of bed id suitable, what to look for, no need of fancy stuff, just should be suitable for 5 year old kid. any suggestions based on your experience.

thanks,
Sujatha. ]]> Miscellaneous in Parenting skalluri http://www.indusladies.com/forums/miscellaneous-in-parenting/76346-kids-bed.html suggest me for my daughter http://www.indusladies.com/forums/miscellaneous-in-parenting/76262-suggest-me-for-my-daughter.html Fri, 06 Nov 2009 05:13:37 GMT HI My daughter was diagnosed with type 1 diabetes in November 2008.SHE HAS TO CHECK HER BLOOD SUGAR 8 TO TEn TIMES A DAY and take 5 shots daily.I am very much worried about her.How can I make her emotionally strong confident and independent girl.She is 8 years old ad I am soon going to have... HI
My daughter was diagnosed with type 1 diabetes in November 2008.SHE HAS TO CHECK HER BLOOD SUGAR 8 TO TEn TIMES A DAY and take 5 shots daily.I am very much worried about her.How can I make her emotionally strong confident and independent girl.She is 8 years old ad I am soon going to have another kid also.I am worried about how she will settle in life ad live her life.Please suggest how can I make her deal with this chronic disease and alogside make her do good studies so that she is able to do something. ]]> Miscellaneous in Parenting sams http://www.indusladies.com/forums/miscellaneous-in-parenting/76262-suggest-me-for-my-daughter.html Help me....Need your advice desperately http://www.indusladies.com/forums/miscellaneous-in-parenting/76231-help-me-need-your-advice.html Thu, 05 Nov 2009 20:26:26 GMT Hi Ladies, First of all thank you very much for doing a wonderful job. I have a problem :drowning. I am a stay at home mom with a son in elementary school. Since I can do my work in the morning in a relaxed manner I usually try to go out of my way to help my neighbors/ others. One of my... Hi Ladies,

First of all thank you very much for doing a wonderful job. I have a problem :drowning. I am a stay at home mom with a son in elementary school. Since I can do my work in the morning in a relaxed manner I usually try to go out of my way to help my neighbors/ others. One of my neighbor constantly asks for help. She has a son in elementary school and another one who is 2 yrs old. She fixes Dr appts during her kid's nap time and usually asks me to stay at her house for that hr or so till she returns from her appt ( it is hard when the kid wakes up in the middle ).I do that always even rescheduling mine thinking she needs help . This started spilling into taking her son to other classes or even dropping him at classes etc. If I am dropping him she always rushes me to start from my house etc ( I think she wants to control everything and I usually go atleast 5 min before the class time). She tries to get things done from me instead of trying to co-ordinate with her husband.She always sends her kid to play with mine saying that she has to take a nap,or kid will wake up and off late the reason being that she is working from home. I do not have an issue with kids playing together but the problem here is I try to fix play dates for my son with his classmates and those kids do not like when my neighbor's kid joins them. I can only parent other kids to an extent. My son is happy playing with everybody.But bcos of the frequent fights he is neither able to play with his classmate nor with my neighbor's son. She never asks before she sends her kid and hence I am unable to say no. I always feel that I am being treated like her servant maid. When the kids were playing at her place she called me and asked me to call my son back bcos she wanted to sleep etc. I ask for help very occassionaly and only after exausting all the options.I'd like to help others since I have the time but do not want to be treated like a maid ( very true ) or taken for granted. Kindly advice me how to handle this situation.I think I allowed it :bonkin the first place and now do not know how to come out of it.Excuse me for the long post.
Thanking you all in advance,
Moonlightpath ]]> Miscellaneous in Parenting moonlightpath1 http://www.indusladies.com/forums/miscellaneous-in-parenting/76231-help-me-need-your-advice.html Story of family of 5....please comment. http://www.indusladies.com/forums/miscellaneous-in-parenting/76213-story-family-5-please-comment.html Thu, 05 Nov 2009 15:10:57 GMT This is a real life story of my close friend. I have her permission to bring it to you but will not reveal the names. Please express your thoughts after reading through. There is a family with mother,father,one son and two daughters. Father has a decent job,middle class income and mother is a... This is a real life story of my close friend. I have her permission to bring it to you but will not reveal the names. Please express your thoughts after reading through.

There is a family with mother,father,one son and two daughters.
Father has a decent job,middle class income and mother is a housewife.
Son is the eldest of the siblings and then there are 2 daughters. The father is a socially very active person involved in all kinds of social service,clubs and gatherings. Mother is a person who loves to be at home always though she does not like to do the housework. She is an excellent cook but very lazy to take good care of the 3 kids and maintain the house. She has a maid always to help her. Now, out of these kids the son is smarter in his grades because he is hard working. Elder daughter is kind of lazy and laid back person. She is a mediocre in studies while the younger one again is hard working just like her brother. They return home from school and after snacking go out to play. Once home all 3 sit to do their work but the elder daughter cannot concentrate. Her thoughts keep wandering off.
She somehow completes her HW since she has to do it. She needs help sometimes with her HW but other than her bossy brother there is no one in the house who can help her out especially with math and science. Father is always busy with his society work and club work otherwise also he is busy chatting with his friends....sometimes they are so loud the kids cannot just do their work peacefully and so dont bother to do it anyways. All the time these kids listen to their dad debating with the others in the adjoining room and sometimes even participate for which the father never stops.Father never asks them to go and do their work. He does not believe in sitting with the kids while they study....may sound absurd to parents nowadays but thats how father was. He actualy like the elder daughter debating with grown ups on politics, economy etc etc. The mom finishes her cooking for dinner and goes off for a short nap. Now, the elder daughter does not want to ask the dad to help her since the dad always assigns the work to her big brother anyway.
Time went on like this. The kids passed school though the elder daughter always a mediocre. The brother went into professional courses and became very successful in life while the younger sister too became qualified much more than the elder sister. Now, the elder sister always has the guilt that she has not concentrated on her work all through out her life otherwise she too would have been equally qualified like her bro and sis. She got her degree while bro and sis did their professional degrees and are both post graduates. Though the elder daughter is married and husband is a nice guy but she feels she has not been guided properly. Now, the father's policy of letting the kids bloom on their own did work with the other two kids but not with this daughter. She blames though not openly her dad for not guiding her enough or more so not even asking her to get good grades and identifying her weak areas and arranging some tuition to improve her grades. She blames mom for being very lazy and confining herself to the kitchen or to dad's orders always.
Even after a happy marriage and wonderful kids when she looks back she feels she has wasted all those precious days when she should have been more concentrating on her work but what can she do now. She was a pre teen and a teenager then and so got away thinking she got the best parents who do not bother about her studies and dont insist on her excelling in them.


It is too late now....she says. She takes her life as a lesson to concentrate on her kids. The guilt of not accomplishing in academics though still haunts her from time to time.


Adara ]]> Miscellaneous in Parenting adara http://www.indusladies.com/forums/miscellaneous-in-parenting/76213-story-family-5-please-comment.html Childhood memories !!! http://www.indusladies.com/forums/miscellaneous-in-parenting/76208-childhood-memories.html Thu, 05 Nov 2009 14:43:10 GMT Hi Ladies: Please share some ideas as to what you did to preserve your kids childhood memories other than photos and videos. Adara Hi Ladies:

Please share some ideas as to what you did to preserve your kids childhood memories other than photos and videos.

Adara ]]> Miscellaneous in Parenting adara http://www.indusladies.com/forums/miscellaneous-in-parenting/76208-childhood-memories.html <![CDATA[Suggest me a Good Plan for My Son's Future]]> http://www.indusladies.com/forums/miscellaneous-in-parenting/75351-suggest-me-good-plan-my.html Wed, 28 Oct 2009 09:26:29 GMT Hi Friends,

Suggest me a good plan for my son's future. Which paln can i go either Post office RD or Bank RD or any other plans. Guide me in this. My son is 7 months old. I have to paln his future now on wards.

Waiting for u'r valuable suggestions ]]> Miscellaneous in Parenting samarsundari http://www.indusladies.com/forums/miscellaneous-in-parenting/75351-suggest-me-good-plan-my.html My son with bent/curve shoulders http://www.indusladies.com/forums/miscellaneous-in-parenting/75157-my-son-bent-curve-shoulders.html Mon, 26 Oct 2009 11:58:36 GMT My 12 years old son is lean and tall, his shoulders are bent in a slight curve position, so while walking he looks like an old man . is there any remedy for this? he carriers a heavy load of books on his back to school, may be this is one reason for his curved shoulders, and he never sit... My 12 years old son is lean and tall, his shoulders are bent in a slight curve position, so while walking he looks like an old man . is there any remedy for this? he carriers a heavy load of books on his back to school, may be this is one reason for his curved shoulders, and he never sit straight, he is comfortable by sitting with bented shoulders.

As this the starting stage , may be i can rectify it.would appreciate if anybody could give me some guidance on this matter. ]]> Miscellaneous in Parenting shalinishibu http://www.indusladies.com/forums/miscellaneous-in-parenting/75157-my-son-bent-curve-shoulders.html