Teluginti atta vs amma

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nenu strongly nammutanu premato matrame bharta mansuni jayinchavachu, inka dento kadu, taniki nuvvu neku atanu anna nammakam me madhya vunnappudu evaru me relationlo interfere kaleru, adi okkaroju lo radu, roju roju konche konchem perigedi, manam konni adjust avvali vallu konni adjust chesukovali.

Feel ayinappudu edi manasulo vunchukokandi, atani manasuku aradham ayettu meru feel ayyarani cheppandi, me way lo cheppaddu atani waylo cheppali, akkada complaint mukhyam kadu, meru feel ayyaranedi mukhyam, modata mandalinchina vallu manasulo tappaka alochistaru...manasulu vippi matladukunte ne kada bandhalu anubandhalu perigedi..valla amam lage meru anedi vallaki ardham kavali

alage amma enta mukhyamo bharya kuda ante vallu rendu ptarlu poshinchaka tappadu

hi chaitusri gaaru really a good thread andi

atta vs amma gurinchi cheppalante chaalaaa time teeukuntundhandi evarikaina.endhukante atta gurinchi negatives and amma gurinchi positives ekkuva untay kadhaaaaa.

currectgaa cheppalantee okko post pages pages untundhi.entha raasina inka edho marchipoyyam anipistuntundhi.

andhari postlu chudagaane naaku post cheyyalanipinchindhi but raayataaniki kurchunte em raayaalo artham kaavatledhu.ivvalantha alochinchi repu currect post chestaanuuu.

okna andi.

pavani garu

atta gurunchi negatives ekkuva vundalani emi ledu, positives kuda vuntayi

kakapote amma kammadanam mundu attagari chinna tappulu kuda manaki pedda vayipotayemo kada...............

hi chaitusri gaaru meeru currecte andi.

prathi attalonu ammauntundhi and prathi ammalonu atta untundhi ani nenu nammuthaanu.

entha manchi manasunna mil ayinaa endhikomari dil dhaggariki vachhesariki atta lakshanaalani baitaku theestaaru.its my personel exp andi.

maa mil kuda anthe.by heart she is very nice person(ultimate)for everyone.but maa and my co sister vishayaaniki vachhesariki appudappudu chinna chinna vishayaalani thappulugaa chustaaru.adhi malli manatho chepparu.bayata vaalla through manaki thelustay.adhe thappu thana kuthuru cheste maatram dhaanni positive konamlonchi chustaaru not only her daughter bayata vaaru evaru aa pani chesinaa vaarine samardhistaaru.mari maa iddarini endhuku alaa thappuga anukuntaaro artham kaadhu.andhuke entha manchi manasunna atta ayinaa kodali vishayam vachhesariki thedaaga untaaranipistundhi naaku.

Originally Posted by chaitusri

1)meru me atta gari gurunchi amma gurunchi cheppalanukundi anta mato panchukovachu

2)at the end varilo meku nachevi nachanivi kuda mato cheppali

3)vari nunchi meremi expect chestunnaru

4)A characterslo mundu mundu merela vundali anukuntunnaru

bhale bhale chepesaru atha and amma garlu gurinchi ikkada,interesting one chaitu...

nenu word to word express cheyalenu,but will try..

1.maa Athaiah naa marriage ayina dheggari nunchi(8yrs) amma unte chese prathi pani chesaru naakosam,naa delivery,naa 2months bed ridden sickeness like thalantu poyatam dheggari nunchi almost thanu cheyanivi yevi levu ippati varaku naa kosam.

2.nachanivi antaara she doesn't like medicines,severe sickness unna adhe pothundhi le antaru kani medicines vesukoru.umm thanaki naalo nachanivi unte bayatapadaru,adhi koncham uneasy ga untundhi.

3.okasari expect cheyatam start chesthe anni enter ayipothayi scene loki like kopam,asuya,comparisions etc etcso I am neutral.

4.Atha character lo nannu ne,want to be little away from my DIL n Son in future,wish to have them the joy of building their own sweet little family and will always be there with loads of love and support.

hi friends, nenu koncham late ga vachanu itu vipu
ok, rendu chethulu kalisthe ne shabdham vasthundhi antaru mana peddalu. ante ikkada atta-kodalu okariki okaru adjust ayithe ye sound radhu ani. adadhaniki adadhe sethruvu. atta adadhe ayina kuda inko adadhanni badha petunnadhi. sthree(adadhi) yenno pathlu poshisthundhi like amma, atta, vaadina etc. kani amma ane patra yentho vunnatha minadhi. a amme malli atta ga marinappudu yemi ayi potundhi a amma manasu?

ok, naa vishyaniki vasthe: maa attaggariki 95% varaku istanu
amma ki 95%


maa peda papa ist birthday ki nenu 2nd time pregnent. 1st birthday night nundi thanu 5 years maa attaggaru-maava gaari daggare padukunedhi. anni panulu vaalle chusu konevaalu.tharuvatha US move ayyamu.maa dh vellinaaka 6months ki US vellamu. a time antha attagaari vadhe vunnanu. maa pillala ki maa amma kanna vaalla nanamme istam. so 8years combined family with co sisters. manasulo yela vunna bayatiki anevallam kadhu. ippati varaku antha happy. nenu a 5% yendhuku ivva ledante last india trip lo oka chinna teda anipinchindhi .maybe i am wrong. atta gaaru yemina ante paurusham vasthundhi, adhe amma ante vere ardham tesukuntamu. so manam konchem adjust ayithe life antha happy. idhi naa 17years anubhavam tho cheputunnanu.

amma: health gurinchi pattinchukodhu. thana ki thana pillala bathyatha ayipoyina kuda inka maa pillala gurinchi alochisthuntundhi
thanu mamalani chala strict ga penchindhi. yentha ante e pani elage cheyali antundhi ippudu kuda. e vishayam lo maa attagaaru 100% better. we have no brothers. memu sarada ga maa ammani antamu "thanaki oka koduku vunte a vachina kodalu thana tho vega lekha petti beda sardhukoni vellipoyedhani"

ippudu naa koka doubt vachindhi : mana amma kudaa atta character lo ki veltharu kadha, manatho intha baga vuntaru, edhe amma kodali vadda yela vuntundho ani! naa ku bothers leru teliyadaniki. meeku yemina telusa?

sorry friends, chala cheppinattunnau. naaku boys leru kabatti nannu tittukune kodalu radhu. kani vache alludu amantado

thankyou

Narra garu,
Good to know your experience. May be patience comes with experience. Mee lanti valla daggara ilanti experiences vintunte, I feel so much motivated. But I can't put them into implementation mode. Yes, meeru cheppinattu Amma ante okala teeskontam and atha ante okala teeskontam......manam iddarni okela chudalanna, Amma sangathi vadileyandi. Atha manalni koothuru la chuskovali kada! Chala takkuva mandi vuntaranukonta ala chuskone vallu. Exceptional cases like you. This is an universal problem from ages.A change is required from both parties. Change alone from oneside deosn't work out and other party can take it advantageous. Kodali kante age takkuva and experience vundadu and coming from another family, obviously it takes sometime to mingle and serve them. But, Atha okappati kodale kada, She should give enough emotional support to DIL kada, enduku ala vundatledu? Pellaina taruvati roju nunchi edo oka sooti poti maatalu antuntaru. I think Athalandaru Maarali! She should clearly tell her DIL about her expectations.

Congratulations for being the winner....tc...

Originally Posted by chaitusri

Hi Vijji garu tappakunda cheptanu, nenu cheppakunda ela?

kani chala pedda story anduke roju konchem konchem cheptanu, leda week end full story cheppestanu :)

me input kosam kuda eduruchustunnanu

chaitu:
paravalede, ala koorchuni roju rojuki kotha threads start chesi manchi discussions pedtunnaru IL lo!!! nenu ee thread chala late ga choosinattlunna..

anyway, mee questions ikkada paste chesukunna for reference:
naa marriage ayyi 25 years ee samvatsaram..so response ichinavarilo andarikalla nenu seniormost...

kooturiki pelli chesthe tvaralo, nene oka alludiki attagaru ayye scene nadi
ma ammaki attagaru le, nanna chinnapude bamma swarganiki vellipoyeru..so, tana kooturiki attagarundalani, chalabaga kalisipovalani amma korika. am dream nenu fulfil cheyyalani pedda aim pettukuni, sadhinchenu...mind you, i didnt have to make any sacrifices, just went with an open mind, that is all. aavidaki nenu pelli munde cheppenu: nenu seema tapakaya, chiru kopam jasti, ayithe meeto nenu kopalu-tapalu/vadana/potlata pettukonu. emaina nachaka pothe. meeto frank ga cheptanu, positive ga teesukovali, meeru alage chesthe, mana madhya godavalundavu.. mamagaru chala mechukunnaru aa roju, if you are entering marriage with this attitude, we'll get along fine ani... 25 years touch wood....

1)meru me atta gari gurunchi amma gurunchi cheppalanukundi anta mato panchukovachu

ma amma and attagaru iddaru, vari pillalu+bharta kosam unconditional support ichi, chala cheseru, with a lot of personal sacrifice. as their children (ammaki nenu naa siblings, attaki dh and his), we owe our current position in life and its success to them

2)at the end varilo meku nachevi nachanivi kuda mato cheppali

nachevi
amma: nothing is impossible for mom. all her life housewife ayina, ye pani aina sadhinchagaladu. emaina help kavalani adigithe, aa pani poorti ayye varaku koorchodu. super personal discipline, dabu jagrata (dabbuleka chala kasta paddadi kabatti, ippudu nalugu rallu chetilo unna, chala careful in a good way) , health baga choosukuntundi. chala baaga vanta chestundi. a good role model for us kids.

atta: 3rd class paina chaduvukoka poyina, chala brathuku theruvu nerchukunnaru. pelli chesina taruvata, koduku kodali jeevitham lo interfere avakoodadu, live and let live ane philosophy. chala baaga vanta chestaru. inchu minchu 80yrs vastunna, anni panulu chesukuntaru.

nachanivi:
amma: eppudu consistently super mom ayina, oka super nag avatamvalla, pillalu na bondo ani nagging dulipesukuntaru, though she has valid reasons for her nagging, kodallu sahinchaledu, she should back off ani, this is our life ani. atta anipinchukunesariki, kodallato padaledu. tappu everidantara? , rendu chetulu kalisthekani shabdam radu annare peddalu, ikkada ade scene.atta kodallu, iddaru responsible..if she were to critique me for a situation, as a daughter, my response will be to take it in the positive spirit. but ade scene, replace me with a dil, anta reverse gear lo nadustundi. no doubt blood is thicker than water....

atta: pedda negatives emi levu, only vanta cheyyatam ante pedda hobby. ekkadunna, fridge ninda ani sizullo leftovers chala untayi.. dh and i overlook it totally, afterall, konta food fridge lo koorchunte, so what? emi waste avadukada, somebody is eating it... she has been a good mil. kooturini nannu samamga choosukunnara? who knows? it doesnt really matter to me. nenu lekhalu petukoledu. what matters is that we are all totally compatible.


3)vari nunchi meremi expect chestunnaru

first of all, both are too old to change, yet
amma: i keep hoping she will let go, reduce her expectations, since if unfulfilled, they lead to disappointments (which she has, but it is too late with her dils).
atta: cook a little less (never told her this), learn to relax and take it easy.the world wont standstill if you didnt do housework for a day (always tell her this)...

4)A characterslo mundu mundu merela vundali anukuntunnaru

naaku iddaru adapillale. so, kodalu vache scene ledu.. yet, as the senior human being in the equation, i believe it is the responsibility of the mil to make the dil welcome and adjust to life amongst new family members... similarly, the dil has to understand that the mil will feel a bit insecure about a new girl in her son's life and him being drawn to her.. neither the dil nor the mil understand that the man in their midst doesnt have to totally take only one side. they bith have very different roles in his life and can coexist in harmony... adadaniki adade shatruvu ndukante, family lo dominance and power struggles-ego-i must be in total control attitude valla...

tv serials chooso, intlo amma-nanamma relations chooso, pustakalu chadivo, amma=manchidi, atta=cheddadi ani mana indian girl child psyche lo baga mudra padipoyindi. seriously tell me, how many girls go into marriage today ready to give equal importance to mom and mil because the mil is also a mom-that is his??? 1%, 2%?? then, why do all of the newly marrieds accuse the mil of the same preference to her own daughter over the dil???? i believe there has to be a equal give and take from both women, unless they both step into their mil-dil relationship with more tolerance and acceptance, accusations/misunderstandings/heartache/altercations/separation will continue........forever.

inta strong ga anni aspects cover chesinanduku, ee thread ikkade matassh ayipovachu, but this is an interesting discussion, i am curious to see how the group will respond!

viveka,
mee answers naaku chala nachayi.

priya mommy cheppinattu atta landharu marali annadhi correct. kaani atta-kodalla generation lo teda vundhi. alochana lo teda vundhi. maa generation ki ippudu young generation ki yentho teda vundhi. maa generation vaallam atta garu layithe memu kuda ila ne alochisthamemo. manam young age lo vundaga vunna abhiprayalu age perugutunna koddi marataayi. age perigina koddi alochinche vidhanam maratundhi. appudu kodallu enter ayithe pata abhi prayala tho kotta vari(younger generation) abhi prayalu kalavavu.

e madhya kalam lo pelli chupullo ne ammyilu abbayini mee salary lo yentha % mee parents ki istharu, meeku parents ni chuse badyatha vundha ani adugutunnaru. naa opinion prakarm a ammayi ki thana parents entho abbayi parents kuda anthe anukovali. problem ikkada nunde start avutunnadhi.

ikkada okati cheppadaluchukunnanu: andharam yentho kontha padina vallame. kani konchem santhosham kanapadithe a padina kastanni marchipothamu. ye manishi abhi prayalu inkokari abhiprayalu tho kalavavu. yekkado dhaka yendhuku, mana intilo ne 4 pillalu vunte vaari opinions vere vere ga vuntayi. alanti dhi vere inti ki velli vallani ardham chesukovatam ante time tesukuntundhi. andhulo combined families ki konthina okari gurinchi okariki takkuva time lo telusukune velundhi. ippudu chala varaku jobs chesthu vere voollo vuntu atta gaari gurinchi telusukovadani ki time vundatam ledhu. elage kodalla gurinchi avidi ki teledhu.
attagaaru yemanna maname sportive ga tesukuni, vaallu chese panullo help chesthunte okari gurinchi okariki telusthundhi. suppose avida vanta chesthunte meeru velli, kurchondi nenu chesthanu ani anandi. avida mukham yentha veligi potundho. pogidithe panulavutayanu kokandi, abba naa kodalu nannu kurcho petti chestahndhi ani cheppukuntaru, vaalla ki adho rakam santhosham. cheyaga cheyaga vaalla ke oka sadhabhi prayam vasthundhi mana meedha. ivvani okka roju lo raavu , mana vipu nundi kuda patience vundali.

note:chala yekkuva sukthulu cheppinattunanu. tittukovadhandi. atta gaari ki support ichananai anukovadhu. nenu oka kodaline annadhi marchi pokandi.