Making a mountain out of a molehill!

Originally Posted by Sriniketan

Cheeniya Sir,

You are the one who is making a mountain out of a molehill--pinna 'onnum illaadha uppu chappu vishayathukku' ivvalavu build-up aa..

But what I accept from your statements is 'we are well-equipped' in those areas who had mentioned 'attended' by us, we are also well-equipped in the matters where men are 'well-equipped'. There is a proof in your reply ---that your DW accepted your idea on Dalai Lama subject.
But you guys don't want to give that position in the field of politics or what soever, outside the house matters.

Usually very minor issues creates problems than the major issues concerned. It will be like a 'busvanaam; at the end...
Yesterday, in our house we had a little 'heated discussion'-- my mil usually asks the same question to everybody in the house at all times and gives us an excuse that she forgot ( due to her old age). my eldest daughter got angry and was murmuring and I asked her to keep quiet, (by holding her arm tightly)and leave the place, for which she refused. Then the subject turned to me and she started yelling at me for grabbing her arm and so on...but all ended peacefully with the intervention of my hubby and my mom.
I think this is a perfect eg. for this head post..right?????

sriniketan

Dear Sri
Let me first clarify one point. When a wife agrees to her hubby's views on major issues like Taliban etc, it may not be necessarily due to their agreement. For instance, if my DW says 'I entirely agree with you' on Umpire Steve Bucknor's recall, she really means 'I do not know anything about it!' Lerned people say that if a woman agrees with a man's view, it will be only due to total ignorance of the subject which she will hate to admit. If she has any opinion about it, even if it agrees with her man's view, she will still have her My 2cents!

The example that you have given suits the title of my thread perfectly though in this case, it will be so difficult to say who exactly is making a mountain of a mole hill. It is a fit case study for a patti mandram to be conducted with Prof.Solomon Bapiah presiding!
Sri

Dear Nivedi
Thanks again for a classic FB!
You should seriously consider writing a full thread, if not a serial, on divorce cases filed for crazy reasons. Who knows, you may become someone like JK Rowling with your very first book. I too have a few instances of divorce granted for strange reasons like excessive snoring by husband or wife but the kitchen cupboard thingy takes the cake. You made even the grouchy chap like me laugh with that case!

It is true that when we like a person, we become very lenient towards him and wink over his idiosyncracies like US administration with General Musharraf! You have struck a nostalgic chord with your statement "when I have a fight with my husband, I begin to quote some thing that happened in the distant past" Whar are conjugal tiffs without reference to the distant past? It is an admirable way to keep our memories alive and kicking. This is the reason why an alliance is generally preferred with a family with tradition in order that the couple to be need not look elsewhere for reasons to fight!

I am supposed to be from Thanjavur and the tussle between the Thanjavur and Palghat people is an example of eternity. Left to myself, I would say that there is hardly anything to choose between the two! There is a positive side to it too. When we keep providing people with enough material to fight such territorial battles, not much harm will be done to the personal relationship. An example is when you are sitting at the Lords supporting the Indian Eleven, you dont really bother if the Indian sitting next to you is from Palghat or Thanjavur. When larger issues crop up, we sink our personal differences!
Sri

Dear AC
A big thank you for your opening words of appreciation.
I am happy to hear that there is complete harmony in your family about Kollu and Oats. They can be referred to as cereals of peace henceforth!
I do hope that your calling a 'mountain a mountain' is no innuendo about my liberal proportions!

I really admire your candidness in admitting that women are more adept in building up a molehill into an awesome mountian. I do hope that every one sees substance in this statement. Men are so absent minded that they'll bump their heads against a mountain thinking it is a molehill. In fact it is this diversity of capabilities that makes our marriages a successful institution. Life will be a bore if both are alike in their perception of molehills and mountains!

Any man's dream is to evolve ultimately into a husband who can delude his wife into thinking that she is taking all the important decisions while he remains the actual Sutradari. Our friend might add that it should be like Lord Krishna's role in Mahabharatam!
Sri

Originally Posted by Chitvish

Dear Sri,
Let me give you another example of your title. Some men whose hair is in single digit number spend a long time in front of the mirror, combing fondly the scanty remains ! I think even the no: of “teeth of the comb” will be more than the hair! Please note, I am not referring to anybody here ! I repeat it !! There cannot be a more "valid" example for a mountain & a molehill!

Yet another development in recent years is the following. We go to a doctor for an ordinary head ache or a back pain. We are immediately referred to a specialist with a “pompous” appointment. From there we march to a Pathological laboratory for blood tests, an X ray clinic, not to forget the scanning centre, very often a CT scan as well ! By the time, the original pain is much better, but money having gone down the drain, creates new tension-pains ! We end up wondering why we did not allow nature to do the healing in its own sweet time, but made the ache-molehill so big!
Maladies of medical advancement !!
Love,
Chithra.

Dear Chithra
I am pained to see the malign pleasure that you derive out of watching balding men comb their hair with love and affection. Being one such person, I have to make the records straight here. If we comb our hair with love and affection despite the scant population, it is our way of expressing our deep gratitude to the ones that remain faithful to the land whence they derive their nourishment and not desert it like rats leaving a sinking ship. Cant you see that men tend to remain loyal to those who remain loyal to them? Incidentally, I am unable to comment on that atrocious statement about the hairs being less than the number of teeth in the comb because I have in all these 65 years never counted the teeth in a comb even when I was absolutely jobless!

You may have a point there about the maladies of medical advancement but I have seen patients who are not saisfied unless and until every possible test is done on them. I recently went to see an old friend of mine who is a practising medico in a low income area. Almost every patient that visited him demanded an injection to be given instead of some pill!
Sri

Originally Posted by shanvy

Sri,

Horace would really turn in his grave for using this simile.when he used it to comment about the results......

Just say your making a mountain out of a molehill during a argument be it a wife/husband/parents/inlaws.. and you had it...because what looks molehill, is again moutain for the other person.. so you can make mountains out of the very same sentence.

Coming, to the statement, I wish you did not write this now..and also that the fairer sex's adept ness about it...because now I know veda is going to say see sri has also said.. and the argument will continue from the airport .....Big LaughBig Laugh

A pimple before a date for a teenager looks a big mountain, while the mother thinks the daughter is making a molehill.

A wife grumbling about her putting on weight looks a small molehill to the husband who is watching tv ...

A mother grumbling about her child not eating well, when the child has already had its quota of junk food..and on top feeding it regular mealsRant I see this happening everyday.

When a granny gives a GD lecture for coming late, starting at coming late, and ending at questioning the capacity of the mother's parenting is a sure example..

A ordinary leg pain, will become a mountain to a self proclaimed hypochondriac...

Today everybody craves for attention, (i sometimes feel sympathy??) that they tend to exaggerate and relay and relate things...

I have a friend who is very well off, you only have to ask her how is she...she will start at oh! i am ok..believe me you are better of not asking her anything...it will start at her husband's health and then end up with the children's mischief.

Today's parents don't have the patience to tackle kid's mischief (me included), that we end up exaggerating the simple pranks of the children .

Sometimes, we make a elephant out of a ant....And look at my fb, looks i justified moutains out of a molehill...

Dear Shanthi
Any lecturer on Perspectives would always give the example of a mustard ,if held close to the eye, obscuring the view of the entire Universe! Our molehills and mountains in family squabbles belong to the same category but mercifully these squabbles do not cause any irreparable damage to relationship!

The examples that you have given for making a mountain out of a molehill are absolutely delightful. We may do well in developing a list of minor issues for the new couples to fight about with a view to preventing any major issue cropping up between them threatening their relationship.

Of the examples that you have given, I loved the first two most! The husband failing to notice a bulging wife because he is hidden behind a newspaper most of the time or his eyes are eternally rivetted on CNN is like the classic example of an ostrich hiding its head under the ground!
Sri

Originally Posted by Chitvish

Dear Sri,
I fully go with Nivedi's statement

In my own home, when I have a fight with my husband, I begin to quote some thing that happened in the distant past -
"My MIL was from Thanjavur and she used to hate her in-laws who were from Kerala. Although all her in-laws were dead and gone, there never was a day when she did not curse them.
. Sometimes I think this is the way clan wars and territorial battles begin - all over some mole-hill issues.

I have the same issue. I come from "kizakkethu stock" - that is how Palghat people refer to us & Vish is from Pgt. So, in the initial days of my married life, my MIL would always start off
"these kizaethukara are lazy to grate & grind coconut & cook tasty foods"
"They just add arisi mavu for thickening & decorate with cashews for "jambam" "
If only I had .........
Vish should be sitting on mountain top now !!

Well, Sri, with all your soft corner for Vish, I know you will rush to defend him NOW & HERE !

Love,
Chithra.

Dear Chithra
I have seen quite a few pictures of your eatables published alongwith your recipes and wondered about the excessive sprinking of cashew nuts on them, no matter if they are a sweet or savoury! This appears to lend credence to your mil's satement about the Kizhakathukkara!! And I wont be surprised if Vish is secretly marvelling at the sagacity of his mother!
Sri

hello sri


ithuvallavo kavithai kural...

Kuzhalinidhu yaazhinidhu enbar tham manaivi
ooril illathavar!

great

sathya

Originally Posted by sathya

hello sri


ithuvallavo kavithai kural...

Kuzhalinidhu yaazhinidhu enbar tham manaivi
ooril illathavar!

great

sathya

Hi Sathya
Iduthan Vasishtar vaayal Brahmarishi ena pattam vanguvatho?
I'm so happy to be appreciated by a poet herself!
Sri

Originally Posted by Chitvish

Dear Sri,

I have the same issue. I come from "kizakkethu stock" - that is how Palghat people refer to us & Vish is from Pgt. So, in the initial days of my married life, my MIL would always start off
"these kizaethukara are lazy to grate & grind coconut & cook tasty foods"
"They just add arisi mavu for thickening & decorate with cashews for "jambam" "
If only I had .........
Vish should be sitting on mountain top now !!

Love,
Chithra.

Dear Chithra,

When I saw V maama's photo, I made a wild guess that he must be from Palakkad.

For women who enter Palakkad homes as a DIL, their tests begin and end with the coconut. Palakkad people do not get impressed with cashew-nuts, only with coco-nuts!

Their tests includes amoung others as to how well they can distinguish between a stale and a fresh coconut just be looking at it, whether they can break a coconut into perfect halves, how innovatively they can use coconut oil, how many coconuts need to be used for avial and how many for molagootal. But the test that takes them into the Hall of Fame is one of skill, valour, dexterity and agility working in synchrony with time. This is the test where they have a choice - either rip an unhusked coconut using their hands without the help of any tools or break a husked coconut using their heads. But either should happen in one shot and without any injury. If they pass in either of these, their name will be engraved on a bronze plaque that stands on the banks of the Kalpati river.

As for me, I have entered the Hall of shame by using frozen dessicated coconut. My name will never be there on the bronze plaque.

Hmmm......this is the way we make a mountain out of a coconut matter.

Dear Cheeniya Sir,

A great topic again. Well this mountain making syndrome carries itself right from tiny tots to the elderly. When a big bro of 6 even so much touches his younger sisof 5 , the entire story reaches mountaineous standards by the time they reach the ears of the parents. Whenever I accompany my sis who happens to be a divorce lawyer to court , I get to see the exact nature of mountain out of a mole hill. The lawyers themselves are very instrumental in this.
The media nowadays are very happy with this mountain making business. Any famous couple seen together are linked and how? " See how they are holding hands" "Look at their eyes ." " See how shes blushing " and so on and so forth. To increase the trp of certain programmes, these production houses go to any extent in making mountains.
Well its an essentiality when you take a leave from work . You need to make a simple fever sound almost fatal ,so as to justify your absence.
I personally experienced something that I wish to share. Once I went for a Ganpati pooja and hadnt been keeping very well. The place where the pooja was conducted was a small room and the incense sticks and camphor etc. made it very fumigative. I started feeing a bit dizzy and sat down .Later i excused myself and left early saying very innocently that I was feeling a bit giddy. The next morning what do I see. abig bouquet with a congratulatory message from my friend claiming my pregnancy. I called her up immediately and she told me that everyone was almost sure that I was pregnant and infact had planned a party at my place in the evening and had gone ahead and invited themselves. It took me a while to tell them that all this is hogwash . There is absolutely no pregnancy. Phew! such was the mountain out of a mole hill.

Regards,
Devika