Mother's-in-law Day!

Dear Nivedi,
Let us guess what will happen the next day!!



Mr "caught-in-between" cannot have in peace.
He will have to

& will feel drowned in samsara-sagaram!


Love,
Chithra.

Originally Posted by nivedi

Dear Cheeniya Sir,

Sure we can celebrate MIL day. It can be observed as the International Silence Day. When we have utmost respect for a person, we simple defer to all their wishes by being silent. No words spoken at all. So everything on this day will be through silence.

No MIL can issue orders to her DIL. No DIL can lash back at the MIL's insensitivity. No SIL need to gnash his teeth. There will be silence everywhere. Peace and harmony will return to all homes atleast for a day. Do'nt ask me what will happen on the next day?

Wow !

It is great to hear that mother's in law day is 10/28/07.I was not knowing that.

I wish to celebrate it.Atleast It is a day when you can win your MIL's heart.

Dear Cheeniya Sir,

The mother in law v/s Daughter in law fights in most homes can be the result of mere puppetery. Its because both sides have their preconceived notions about the other.Grossly untrue and a figment of everyone else imagination. Before the real drama unfurls there are words of caution ,deeply etched.Entering the new home is more like entering a ring for a bout of wrestling match....

We spend approx 25 years with our Mother ,and we need to spend the rest of our life maybe the next 40-50 years with MIL. The relation can be smooth sailing provided there is a lot of maturity from both sides to understand that this is not a game of tug of war where each tries to show that the poor guy solely involved in this is on their side. Many a times I have seen that though there are no problems yet to an outsider they try to feign a lot of disparity, maybe because its the so called 'in thing'

I agree that a MIL day would help. Sometimes a small gesture goes a long way in paving a road to a happy home! Mother In laws are those who have spent their lives taking care of the man you love so much and being a mother is one of the most blissful difficulty , so a little show of appreciation , a small gesture will help reinstate her faith in herself, her son and her DIL that all is not lost there is still hope for happiness!!

Love,
Your Mol

Dear Cheeniya sir,

A real eye opener post for me.

I was just thinking why we should not celebrte MIL's day.....then my thought went to my MIL whatever said & done, she is really a very nice person who is ruling our household at the age of 75 and that is the reason I can relax and work without any thought of home. As any person, she also has her weakness but try to see them also with eyes and minds full of love......they can also be the best of friends.

Dear Cheeniyaji,

Tell you the truth, I find them (dragons) very fascinating. Got myself a Dragon Ganeshji in Bangkok...

Oh yes, if a book series called "How to learn ........in 30 days" can be a best seller, I am sure your book on " How to conquer your MIL in 30 days" will become a best seller. I am sure, instead of re cycled steel plates/trays etc, your book will be the No. 1 choice for all marriages...

Overnight you will be a celebrity & a multimillionaire.....

Will you have time to talk to the small fry like me then?

Regards,

Corallux

Originally Posted by cheeniya

Dear Corralux
'Dragon of a MIL' is indeed very expressive! Spitting fire through the nostrils primarily and through other outlets in the face if needed. But when I see them in folk dances and cartoons, I find them quite endearing and cant help feeling warm towards them. My attitude towards MIL is also the same. The scarier they look, the warmer I feel towards them.
But seriously, your point is well made. When we can adjust so much with others while travelling, while in office and elsewhere, why do we find coping with one single individual so difficult? Looks like if I write a book on 'How to tame a monster of a MIL', it would sell like hot cake!
Sri

Dear Corallux,
Have a doubt about Sr's credibility?
He will give "The devil(s) its(theirs) due" without fail!!
Love,
Chithra.

Originally Posted by corallux

Dear Cheeniyaji,

Tell you the truth, I find them (dragons) very fascinating. Got myself a Dragon Ganeshji in Bangkok...

Oh yes, if a book series called "How to learn ........in 30 days" can be a best seller, I am sure your book on " How to conquer your MIL in 30 days" will become a best seller. I am sure, instead of re cycled steel plates/trays etc, your book will be the No. 1 choice for all marriages...

Overnight you will be a celebrity & a multimillionaire.....

Will you have time to talk to the small fry like me then?

Regards,

Corallux

Originally Posted by nivedi

Dear Cheeniya Sir,

Sure we can celebrate MIL day. It can be observed as the International Silence Day. When we have utmost respect for a person, we simple defer to all their wishes by being silent. No words spoken at all. So everything on this day will be through silence.

No MIL can issue orders to her DIL. No DIL can lash back at the MIL's insensitivity. No SIL need to gnash his teeth. There will be silence everywhere. Peace and harmony will return to all homes atleast for a day. Do'nt ask me what will happen on the next day?

Dear Nivedi
A wonderful idea! The more I think about it, the more I love it!
Besides, there are plenty of benefits too in observing MIL's Day as a day of Silence.
They are:
1. Mouna Vrat is good for health
2. Since eyes will have to take over the mouth's role as a communicator, there will be no profanities uttered!(assuming of course that eyes can not communicate profanities!)
3.Eyes will become more expressive and flashing
4.The mind will get some time to plan better strategies for combating the hostilities for the ensuing year
5. Body language will improve by leaps and bounds
6. Some wizkid will find a way to use the eyes as an effective weapon to subdue the opponent
There is, of course, a risk factor that the mouth suddenly rendered jobless for most part of the day might try to occpy itself in some insane eating resulting possibly in a collapse of the digestive system!

The next day can be designated as DIL's Day which will be a day of chaotic din! I have seen the elders becoming needlessly garrulous on the day following the day of Mouna Vrat!
Sri

Originally Posted by Sriniketan

Cheeniya sir,
Why not....atleast for that day....she will be happy..receiving gifts from her dils or sils....complaining and comparing gifts is a different issue...it can wait till the next day isn't it...

sriniketan

Dear Sri
From what you say, I guess that the following day will be used for settling scores for the atrocities committed on the MIL's Day!
Sri

Originally Posted by MrignayniBansal

Wow !

It is great to hear that mother's in law day is 10/28/07.I was not knowing that.

I wish to celebrate it.Atleast It is a day when you can win your MIL's heart.

Dear Mriganayni
From what Sriniketan says, you can either win MIL's heart or lose it through an iadequate gift! But seriously, I do agree that celebrating a MIL's Day might warm her heart and bring her closer to you! Just a chance but worth taking!
Sri

Originally Posted by Devika Menon

Dear Cheeniya Sir,

The mother in law v/s Daughter in law fights in most homes can be the result of mere puppetery. Its because both sides have their preconceived notions about the other.Grossly untrue and a figment of everyone else imagination. Before the real drama unfurls there are words of caution ,deeply etched.Entering the new home is more like entering a ring for a bout of wrestling match....

We spend approx 25 years with our Mother ,and we need to spend the rest of our life maybe the next 40-50 years with MIL. The relation can be smooth sailing provided there is a lot of maturity from both sides to understand that this is not a game of tug of war where each tries to show that the poor guy solely involved in this is on their side. Many a times I have seen that though there are no problems yet to an outsider they try to feign a lot of disparity, maybe because its the so called 'in thing'

I agree that a MIL day would help. Sometimes a small gesture goes a long way in paving a road to a happy home! Mother In laws are those who have spent their lives taking care of the man you love so much and being a mother is one of the most blissful difficulty , so a little show of appreciation , a small gesture will help reinstate her faith in herself, her son and her DIL that all is not lost there is still hope for happiness!!

Love,
Your Mol

Dear MOL
My DW got married to me when she was 19 and she is now 60. She has thus spent twice as much time with her MIL as she did with her mum! Both my mum and MIL are alive and have become like own sisters through sheer eflux of time. Even if my MIL has some grouse against her daughter or me, she tells only my mum and no one else! "I have grown accustomed to her face" is a famous song from "My Fair Lady"! Passage of time smoothens out all the wrinkles in relationships.

The MIL-DIL stand-offs are usually the outcome of a feeling of insecurity. This feeling of insecurity will be more in a MIL because of her perceived fear that her dil being much younger and a fresh addtion to her son's life will have greater clout with the son! To overcome this fear, she starts making her presence felt through combative methods than through friendly efforts. The DIL is driven to defend her position in the family through equally strong methods and the tug of war starts! In fact, if this problem is analysed deeply, it can be seen that there is no tangible reason for such hostilities except assumed fears.

Then there are the outside catalysts who provoke both the MIL and the DIL to develop a feeling of animosity towards each other.
Sri