how to stop breasrfeeding..need to gain weight

hi
my baby is now 17mnths ,normally at this in india some kids continue to drink it seems.
but after she completed 1year, i started to stop her from bf,but i couldnt.
im trying some ideas but they r not working.

can any of u help me ,how to avoid her that,but she drinks very little from me,she wanna make time pass with that,though i give any finger food r pacifier she wont like it.

im really feeling guilty to ask like this,i wanna change that.

more over her wieght is too bad ,she is 18-5 lbs.
she is so thin,every body who sees her ,says ,ohhh she is tiny,i really feel bad on me at that time.
but i put my sinciere efforts on that,here there are so many seniors ,any body help me.

doctor said to show more interest on her weight,she is really a picky eater,she takes food only 1 time a day,some times even that also wont be there.
we try to put in mouth forcely,but its not working on her,becoz she splits rshe cries in such a way ,her voice cannot be heard,we use to get scared for her cry n stop.
the same thing we told to the doctor,he told try,try try n tryyyyyyyyy

friends i need a help in that
plz help me

hi

i am having a kid and now c is 12 months.i cam to us wen c was 7 months.at tht time i was feeding her.from april i started to stop feeding her gradually.it means i stopped by morning 9 o.clk. at tht time i gav some idli with vegetables and water her stomech gets full and c will play.then i will feed her by 11 till mor 6.then i stopped evry hour by giving some food.but my kid use to cry. what i will do is i will sit and play with her toys and then also c will cry.made her sit in the stroller and i will walk in the home.once c slept in stroller itself so i made tht practice and stopped feeding eventually .now i completely stopped feeding.from playtex i got a nipple for her.during night after 4 i use to giv her tht.to tell you something they will cry.let them cry for two days the third day they will forget tht timing.hold ur baby and walk.mak ur hubby to help.night sleeps will go off for 1 week for us.


even my baby is too thinn.if v compare our kids with this american babies they are so fat.try to formula for her it will gain weigth for her

tanks
kavi

@Kavi, what do you base formula = weightgain logic. Would like to see if you have any links/resources which helped you come to that conclusion. If you were to take one ounce of formula and breastmilk, breastmilk beats formula hands down as far as calories (22 calories for mature breastmilk per ounce to 18 cal for formula) and nutrition goes. It is a natural source of DHA, etc.
@Sanka, about your baby being petite, how are you and your husband. I did fret that DS was average for height but not for weight and our paed asked me to look at myself first. I am 5.7 and 115 pounds. Genetics will have a huge role to play in how big your child is.
If your concern is she snacks through the day, but does not eat well, then you can add healthy fat like avacado, flax seed oil, olive oil into her meal.
The WHO recommonds that breastfeeding be continued up to two years at least and after that as long as either mother or the child wants to. I would encourage you not to look at weaning only because your child is petite, but to talk to your paed about your weight gain concerns.
FWIW, DS was around 7.8 kg at 1 year and at around 18 months was 8.3 kg. But when a chronic health condition was addressed, he gained weight quickly and has been gaining well since then. Do consult your paed about your concerns.
If your child is a picky eater, the best way to get her to eat is to use snack tray that she can take everywhere with her and graze through the day. I would also suggest you read the book "My Child Won't Eat".
Good luck for your LO.

Hi Sailaja,

I hv a 22 mth daughter whom i breastfed till 15 mths, but couldn't continue because of an illness. what i did to discontinue is - i distracted her at the times i usually fed her and fed her right before her breastfeed time. i also started her on bottled milk to help her sleep during day and my hubby would help me to put her in bed at night. it took abt two weeks for her to get into that routine and stop feeds. but i did not give her any breastfeeds during those two weeks - had to stop completely. it was not easy at all - without anyone to help except for my hubby. but aft two weeks it was complete peace - though i still feel sad that i couldn't go on and feed her until she was 2 yrs as i had done for my elder daughter. every1 has to find a method 2 wean which suits them. this method worked for me, but was really stressful and painful to do.

regarding the weight gain, u hv to consult ur doc abt her weight and if the pedatrician is comfortable with it then u should not worry.

Dear Sailaja,

I'm moving your thread to 'Breastfeeding & Formula feeding' forum. We'd like to have weaning topics also under the same roof.

Thanks
Latha

thanks akila,kavi n tikka
for all ur suggestions.
here i wanna be more clear,my peditrician recommended us to concentrate more on her wieght,when we met 3 days back.

i too tried to feed her something,as she is picky eater,she wont allow me to put in her mouth a small bit also.

she cries as if some body is beating.

she likes junk food as snack,im trying healthy food.

anyhow il try ur tips,whether it work for me r not,il reply u soon

bye