Nomads
Posted 6th October 2008 at 03:00 PM by SupriyaDinesh
I could not find a better word to describe my path of life for the past few years.Blame it on jinx , we(myself,DH and DS) have not sustained in a place,to be specific in the same residence for more than 9 months.Very frustrating indeed,either job change or project change we have been moving, shifting things ,packing,buying,settling and then whole process starts within a short period.When i look back my childhood,i had lived in the same place for 23 years,except for one change in house in the same lane.Gone to the same school from L.K.G to12th std.All my town people have seen me grown up and its a blessing to be well wished by many people.
Will my son remember his neighbour after many years?Will he ever have strong childhood friends like mine which has lasted from my 3rd std till date..?So many thoughts puts me in pensive mood.
As we try to expand our horizon for better work,more comfort, visit more new countries/places and the list continues we have become modern day Nomads.
My future blood relatives will not cherish any antics from family.They can chersih only digital photos and videos.Our life is filled in suitcases and packing cartons.
It has been 3 months we have been in this new place.Hope we will break the 9 month jinx and stay here for a longer period.
Will my son remember his neighbour after many years?Will he ever have strong childhood friends like mine which has lasted from my 3rd std till date..?So many thoughts puts me in pensive mood.
As we try to expand our horizon for better work,more comfort, visit more new countries/places and the list continues we have become modern day Nomads.
My future blood relatives will not cherish any antics from family.They can chersih only digital photos and videos.Our life is filled in suitcases and packing cartons.
It has been 3 months we have been in this new place.Hope we will break the 9 month jinx and stay here for a longer period.
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Dear Supriya,
I can completely relate to your feeling . I know how terrible it can be to keep shifting from one place to another. Yes the nomadic existence makes it difficult to form a bond anywhere. Not to mention the physical and mental stress that it ensures.
Though moving and exploring new places is often considered exciting by many , I guess it can be very detrimental to kids, as they form friendship and look forward to be with the same friends that they have bee bonding with.
I hope you break the jinx Supriya , atleast I truly hope this breaks for the sake of your little boy!
Love,
DevikaPosted 6th October 2008 at 04:07 PM by Devika Menon
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Hi Supriya,
I totally agree with you. I was on the other side of the coin growing up - kept moving till I was about 14 then my parents decided that kids should stay put while dad travelled - the reason I am mentioning is, while I agree with your point of view, it will matter more to kids when they are little older to stay put in a place and form the bonds and freindships. My husband on the other hand grew up like you and now loves to keep moving which only gets satisfied through travel, thanks to me :) You do make a valid point and yes I do hope that you will break the 9month gestation period and stay put!Posted 6th October 2008 at 07:38 PM by Srama -
Hi Supriya,
I'm new to IL .I read your blog. I totally agree with you.
When I was a kid I longer to much to live in different places but I din't get a chance but afer marriage I have got a lot of chance but dislike this now.Cant even decorate the house since we dont know when will we be shifting from here.I wanted to do some painting but thinking that I have to throw it when leaving from this place gives a sort of discouragement,but anyways have to live with it for some more years .Posted 6th October 2008 at 08:47 PM by celebrate -
hi supriya,
can relate to your feelings though i actually welcome the change..we have been around but every 5- 6 years..i agree 9 months is a bit too short...i too worry about not having permanent friends but now with IL...ur friends will be with u anywhere...all the best with your new place...
love
MindiPosted 7th October 2008 at 01:19 AM by Mindian - Supriya, I also understand your position. I moved a lot growing up and only now am settled down, but kids are very resilient and adapt easily. What Srama said is right, it's when they get older that they need more stability and are more likely to have problems. That is true of kids in general actually - I think older kids need more attention these days than the little ones sometimes as that's when they're more likely to get into trouble, LOL...
Keep in mind thought that this is just one of many chapters in your life. This will pass in time and you will settle down some day. In the meantime, no sense in letting it get you down as there isn't much that can be done about it right now - but if you view this as an adventure, your son will too. He may actually benefit from all this travel, as he will know about so many places and have so many wonderful experiences to look back on. It's hard I know, but you can make it into a positive!
Try to make it a fun thing to look forward to, look up what things to do in your new town and join a mom's group in that area - that's a great way of making friends, both for yourself and your son. If you don't see one, why not start one yourself? You will be surprised how many others will join and be happy that you did it. You might even find you already know someone already from here only. Let us know where you are headed?
Best of luck to you and be happy in your new home.
:)Posted 7th October 2008 at 09:31 AM by likemychai
