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Why Elephants Don't Run

Posted 22nd April 2008 at 11:42 PM by sunkan
Updated 22nd April 2008 at 11:43 PM by sunkan


Why Elephants Don't Run?

A number of years ago, I had the rather unique experience of being backstage
in Bangalore with a Russian circus crowd . To say the least, it was a fascinating experience. I was able to walk around looking at the lions, tigers, giraffes and all the other circus animals.
As I was passing the elephants, I suddenly stopped, confused
by the fact that these huge creatures were being held by only a small rope
tied to their front leg. No chains, no cages. It was obvious that the
elephants could, at any time, break away from their bonds but for some
reason, they did not. I saw a trainer near by and asked why these beautiful,
magnificent animals just stood there and made no attempt to get away.

"Well," he said, "when they are very young and much smaller we use the same
size rope to tie them and, at that age, it's enough to hold them. As they
grow up, they are conditioned to believe they cannot break away. They think
the rope can still hold them, so they never try to break free."
I was amazed. These animals could at any time break free from their bonds
but because they believed they could not, they were stuck right where they
were.

Like the elephants, how many of us go through life hanging onto a belief
that we cannot do something, simply because we failed at it once before? How
many of us are being held back by old, outdated beliefs that no longer serve
us? Have you avoided trying something new because of a limiting belief?
Worse, how many of us are being held back by someone else's limiting
beliefs? Do you tell yourself you can't sell because you're not a
salesperson?

Particularly in starting or running a business, we are cautioned not to take
risks, usually by well intentioned friends and family. How many of us have
heard, "You can't do that?" These are the dream stealers who, due to their
own limiting beliefs, will attempt to discourage you from living your
dreams. You must ignore them at all cost! I am not suggesting that you
should not seek advice from qualified individuals and mentors, but that you
avoid like the plague, being swayed by the limiting beliefs of others,
especially people who are not in their own business.

Challenge your own limiting beliefs by questioning them. If you begin to
question a belief, you automatically weaken it. The more you question your
limiting beliefs, the more they are weakened. It's like kicking the legs out
from under a stool. Once you weaken one leg, the stool begins to lose its
balance and fall. Think back to a time when you "sold" someone on yourself.
We are selling all the time. You have to sell your ideas to your spouse,
your children, and your employees - even your banker. Maybe, as a child, you
sold Girl Scout cookies or magazine subscriptions to raise money for your
school team. That was selling too!

Once you realize you are, in fact, a capable salesperson, you have weakened
that old belief and began to replace it with a new, empowering one. Look for
references to support the new beliefs you want to cultivate. As in the
example of the stool, you want to reinforce your beliefs by adding more and
more "legs" to them. Find people who have accomplished what you want to
accomplish, discover what they did and model their behavior. Remember back
to times in your past when you were successful and use that experience to
propel yourself forward. If your challenge is in sales, read sales books and
listen to tapes or attend sales seminars. This is a critical area of your
business. One that cannot be undermined by limiting beliefs.

There is a technique called "fake it until you make it" that works well. I
am not suggesting you live in denial, just that you begin to see yourself
succeeding. Visualize your successes. See yourself vividly in your minds eye
making the sale and reaching your goals. Affirm, over and over, that you are
succeeding.

Write your affirmations daily. Of course, make sure you take the appropriate
action. As it says in the Bible, "Faith without works is dead."

Remember that your subconscious mind does not know the difference between
real and imaginary. Before you go on a sales call, take a moment and
mentally rehearse the scene, just like actors and athletes do. Tell
yourself, "I'm a great salesperson. " Do this over and over, especially just
before a sales call. See the sale being made. See and feel the success. You
will be pleasantly amazed at the result. Don't take my word for it. Give it
a try. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain.

It has been said throughout history that what ever you believe, with
conviction, you can achieve. Don't be like the poor elephant and go through
your life stuck because of a limiting belief you were given or developed
years ago. Take charge of your life and live it to the fullest. You deserve
the best!






wake up spread ur wings and think how high u should fly rather than old tied habits..sunkan
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Lalitha Shivaguru's Avatar
Dear S,

A real beautiful and thought provoking comparison. I was wondering seeing the title as to what are Elephants doing in Blogs? But going thru this blog, it has been a real eye opener. It is very true most of the time we are bound by our pre conceived notions and beliefs that some things are not possilbe by us - we just shrug our shoulders and tell "we are just not made for that". But we never tried, that is another aspect which we easily forget.

After my marriage, for 12 yrs I was a housewife, I used to think that I should go for a job, but i was not prepared to convince my family thinking that it is not possible. Lo, One day I realised that things cannot continue the same way and now after 12 yrs I have started working to people's surprise and touch wood doing good also.
Posted 23rd April 2008 at 12:25 AM by Lalitha Shivaguru Lalitha Shivaguru is offline
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mtkm's Avatar
Dear Sunkan ma'am


U are absolutely rite.Have 100% Belief in God, yr self and yr dreams.U definetely achieve them.I for one did.People were skeptical when i wanted to do Kailash Manasarovar trip sans family and before I hit 30 years.It was an amazing experience in my life.

Again when i ventured into exclusive custom made diamond jewellery business.My own family was against it as i have a MBA (U.S.) degree.Fortunately God has always been smiling upon me.Iam doing way beyond mine and my family's expectation . It is due to my hard work, beliefs, ideas , timing and of course my happy customers who always come back for more.What more can I say.........Please believe in God, yrself and yr dreams, U can't go wrong.take care.
Posted 23rd April 2008 at 12:41 AM by mtkm mtkm is offline
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sunkan's Avatar
nice to know lalitha,
u have followed ur dreams, many among us are stagnating due to this formula of setting our self a barrage but yes when u grow wings and fly high, u know what u missed actually and happy to have grown wings..sunkan
Posted 23rd April 2008 at 01:32 AM by sunkan sunkan is offline
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good mtkm,
i am very happy for you, for the simple reason when opportunity knocks better be ready to open and get that dream standing with its open arms...may god bless u and help u grow more shining wings and fly high..sunkan
Posted 23rd April 2008 at 01:33 AM by sunkan sunkan is offline
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MeenLoch's Avatar
That was a good analogy sunkan mam. Limiting beliefs, Negativity and Resistance- We are so full of it. Sometiems we let others define what we are.
Belief and confidence in oneself is a great asset for those who have it.
Conditioned mind structures lead us to wrong places many times.
Enjoyed reading this post.
Keep writing.
Posted 23rd April 2008 at 07:48 AM by MeenLoch MeenLoch is offline
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Ranganayaki's Avatar

Try, Try, Try again and you will succeed!

Dear Ma'am,

I was reminded of this proverb after reading your beautiful post!

Yes, we need to keep trying inspite of our past experiences/failures. Sometimes I am prejudiced/presume things before I move ahead, that has really created avoidable worries thus affecting my confidence.

I really need to increase my belief in myself! Thanks for writing about this topic.

Looking fwd to more posts by you.

Ranganayaki
Posted 23rd April 2008 at 11:53 AM by Ranganayaki Ranganayaki is offline
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Ria2006's Avatar
Beautiful thoughts!
So very true. That gives me exact reason to reach out to my next sales endeanour
Posted 23rd April 2008 at 12:52 PM by Ria2006 Ria2006 is offline
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sunkan's Avatar
thanku meenloch,
this is more for the lot who do not want or restrict themselves as i am this or i am not fortunate kind of personalities, it is better to grow wings and not only grow fly at the first oppurtunity..sunkan
Posted 23rd April 2008 at 10:31 PM by sunkan sunkan is offline
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just positive approach ranganayaki

will set u rolling many a time i and my daughter think abt our situations and each time her bouncers puts me to shame yes y not her ideas are so positive and why am i thinking this way...so it is a matter of flying out the moment u get it..sunkan
Posted 23rd April 2008 at 10:33 PM by sunkan sunkan is offline
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all the best ria,
hope to hear about that the next time around u r here..sunkan
Posted 23rd April 2008 at 10:33 PM by sunkan sunkan is offline
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sudhanarayanan's Avatar
Hi Sunkan..
The post is very nice. Another similar incident was told to me. There was a very big fish tank partitioned into 2 by a glass partition. On one side was a shark and the other side had small fishes. For the first few days, the shark, thinking that the small fishes are nearby would try to go and catch them, but it will go and hit the partition and return. It kept doing this for some days. Then one day they removed the partition, still the shark never used to cross that line. How much we humans can learn from animals! :)
It was nice reading the post.
Posted 24th April 2008 at 12:20 AM by sudhanarayanan sudhanarayanan is offline
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i am amazed at this story sudha, really, my god really they must be gifted then..sunkan
Posted 24th April 2008 at 06:39 AM by sunkan sunkan is offline
 
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