Does It Hurt To Be Nice Or Polite ???
Posted 24th December 2007 at 05:29 AM by sunkan
It is nice to be polite and loving:
We have learnt a lot many expressions in our life and it is never going to harm if we could have a nice word for someone who is interested in showing us their work, or chat, or simply walk along, so what if they are made of wrong stuff, still you need not fall into those habits which u detest in them.
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These words of he wakes the devil in me is a very easy one, all said and done, yes! Given the same situation it is any day better to be nice rather than give the satisfaction of being a very grumpy guy as a reaction, like what is it that you got worked up about?And you have no words, there is a relativity in all our anger and outburst and its reaction, it is better to analyze, how would the other person take it given the same situation or why is he behaving so? May be you are a few seconds late in answering the person, but better to take time rather than regret the moment.
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When you notice their work, like may be a blog that has not come up to your standard, no harm saying you are great and have a wonderful future, I am sure to see you someday holding great laurels for your contribution, now you have made their day. Inspire when you can only a human can help the other realize his own potential.
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It is wonderful to be philosophical, but deep down he may not need that, and he may think you are gone beyond and somewhere he is not aware about, so the present situation always gives you a chance to look at the person and his background, wake up! And think like him and you will find the answer to soothe him immediately. When young, the mind is too obsessed to achieve and achieve irrelevant of the fact that this achievement can be done without. But! How many of us are able to believe that. May be they would say you are not fit to preach so why bother, leave these kind alone and they may come around some day, but have a nice word, it does pay, never think it never does.
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They call you over to look at their paintings, take time to look at the colors, every artist in a man wants recognition somewhere and wants to be involved in something or the other, and excel some, failure many, which one gets to know only when you are too close for comfort. No harm with a nice word,
I had a friend Gopal da, when I was pregnant with my first child and he made it a point to drop in over at my place before he could go to the office and exchanging all the different eats which maami packed for him and took paratha and aloo sabji from me, now this act is too engraved in my mind, he is no more but, had a soft spot for me, he had only one daughter so he would say the next is you. Life sometime gives us people and they become so important with their nice words and action that nothing can replace them, one does not have to be a blood relation for this…sunkan
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We have learnt a lot many expressions in our life and it is never going to harm if we could have a nice word for someone who is interested in showing us their work, or chat, or simply walk along, so what if they are made of wrong stuff, still you need not fall into those habits which u detest in them.
<o:p> </o:p>
These words of he wakes the devil in me is a very easy one, all said and done, yes! Given the same situation it is any day better to be nice rather than give the satisfaction of being a very grumpy guy as a reaction, like what is it that you got worked up about?And you have no words, there is a relativity in all our anger and outburst and its reaction, it is better to analyze, how would the other person take it given the same situation or why is he behaving so? May be you are a few seconds late in answering the person, but better to take time rather than regret the moment.
<o:p> </o:p>
When you notice their work, like may be a blog that has not come up to your standard, no harm saying you are great and have a wonderful future, I am sure to see you someday holding great laurels for your contribution, now you have made their day. Inspire when you can only a human can help the other realize his own potential.
<o:p> </o:p>
It is wonderful to be philosophical, but deep down he may not need that, and he may think you are gone beyond and somewhere he is not aware about, so the present situation always gives you a chance to look at the person and his background, wake up! And think like him and you will find the answer to soothe him immediately. When young, the mind is too obsessed to achieve and achieve irrelevant of the fact that this achievement can be done without. But! How many of us are able to believe that. May be they would say you are not fit to preach so why bother, leave these kind alone and they may come around some day, but have a nice word, it does pay, never think it never does.
<o:p> </o:p>
They call you over to look at their paintings, take time to look at the colors, every artist in a man wants recognition somewhere and wants to be involved in something or the other, and excel some, failure many, which one gets to know only when you are too close for comfort. No harm with a nice word,
I had a friend Gopal da, when I was pregnant with my first child and he made it a point to drop in over at my place before he could go to the office and exchanging all the different eats which maami packed for him and took paratha and aloo sabji from me, now this act is too engraved in my mind, he is no more but, had a soft spot for me, he had only one daughter so he would say the next is you. Life sometime gives us people and they become so important with their nice words and action that nothing can replace them, one does not have to be a blood relation for this…sunkan
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 |  Your last sentence I feel should read one's blood relation will not do so..dear Sundari..If anyone does these its got to be friends.. For me the exception is immediate family..but some people are really nice when they stop to admire or smell the roses..Speaking of roses..I have a small rose garden and many times total strangers walk by and comment the beauty the hard work even whereas my mother wonders what work are they talking about..Esp. with painting or other art work its nice for others to take a few moments and be genuine in comment and appreciation..After so many years of experience I can seenow that these things cannot be taught but acquired individually..I have made the effort to be one such person but I think we are in the minority..keep blogin..you choose interesting topics.. |
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| |  Hello Sunkan Nice blog It never hurts to be nice and polite. It makes the other person more happy. |
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| |  Dear Sunkan, Nice blog.............yes nice words make great relationships. Whenever a person comes to your mind,its the nice words they spoke come up first.The smile these words bring in one's face is equal to none in this world. |
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| |  nice AC once upon a time even i had a wonderful rose garden now i am only into google viewing whenever i want to view roses...i know the hard work behind the blooms, and how you never want any to pluck them even to keep on the god's pictures as i see her in the flowers...sunkan |
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| | yes, shantha, and aruna, some memories will die with us, especially of people who have loved us a lot and being friends may be we remember them more and take relatives for granted..sunkan |
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| |  Dear Sunkan, It never hurts to be polite or nice, but for some it is an effort, so they rather be themselves. You should be yourself always and not let the ways of people around you affect you. Rite?? |
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| |  Dear Sundari, A very thought provoking blog. Really it boosts the morale of a person when someone appreciates his\ her work. At the same time one should not loose heart for not getting appreciation. |
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| | dear janani, we are we, and sensitivity is also there, a child in all lives always for appreciation and feels hurt for reprimanding..sunkan |
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| | dear pushpa, is not for disheartening but please do stop by and appreciate is the morale of this article, we do have lunch and we find it good but if we walk away even without appreciation what is the use of all that toil inside the kitchen, we do expect that they should say it is nice, or anything appreciative..sunkan |
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| |  Dear Sunkan, Very nice blog... I agree with you that for being nice and considerate, you need not have to be blood relative... I know, how much it will boost your morale when somebody appreciates us for some good work done.... My father used to tell us .... i should not praise my own kids, only others should.... I have never heard him ever praise or appreciate us.... But at times, being nice and polite is considered as a weakness... In the corporate world.... when you are not aggressive and be nice and polite to your junior collegues, it is not appreciated by other and even the juniors dont understand the values and take you for granted... So you are forced to the arrogant ways.... At times a pat in the back goes a long way, for the hard work done......... |
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| |  Hi sunkan, A nice blog. It is not going to hurt being nice to others.infact you win a lot of people by being nice as long it comes really from the heart rather than from the lips.... |
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| |  hello akka good one....try this story... that was a cute but small exhibition. sheela had taken pains to paint those flowers, birds and animals in natural surroundings. viewing critically it was just average. the crowd just went around with just their name and address and one letter appreciation. nice, wonderful etc etc. sheela knew that she could have done better. it was her first attempt at exhibition. perhaps she should concentrate more on colour mixing and natural surroundings she thought. she would have very much appreciated an indepth critical (positive?) comment. the weekend free nirmal rushed to the city where the paintings were on display. he went once in the morning and then again in the evening. again the next day morning and evening. he blew kisses in the air at every painting all the time. the people around him thought he was nuts. sheela didnt know what kind of reaction this is. is he making fun of my paintings? was her first reaction. but nirmal didnt care what others thought of him or comments they passed on the sly. nirmals thoughts were colourful too. it has been all along only he didnt paint it with colours or words. he had a painting in thoughts which said...``sheela every one of your paintings is just like you, natural, original and done with care. to me your paintings are you. i have always been your silent admirer. if only you would take notice of poor ordinary me....!'' sathya |
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| | dear sathya, very true only we need to notice other's appreciation...ingeye paaren there are groups who appreciate only what their friends write, illiya not all write for all..sunkan |
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| |  Hi Dear Sundari Madam, Yeah, it is always nice to be nicer with others. But as Veda Sir told that in corporate sector its taken as a negative (not in all forms) trait which is not good for a leader. But, I tell you, in USA almost everybody (mostly Americans) talks very sweetly, can say this that they speak from hearts not from mouth when they appreciate...... Don't know why many Indians feel bad to be nicer with others ......may be many of ILites will not agree to this, but its my observation during these last two years...... Regards. |
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| | dear meeta, you are very correct when u say this about indians, meeta they are ill at ease to appreciate openly where other indians are concerned may be they are different to others, dont know have to check on it to comment..sunkan |
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| |  Dear Sundari, I agree with Chitra where in she says that you cannot expect courtesy or politeness from any of the blood relatives. I have had my own experiences.. It does not hurt anyone to come out with a kind word or a smile. That is the least we can give freely. No one expects anything more than that either. I have been hurt more than anything by this attitude of others, after which I had decided not to expect anything, not even a Thank you from others. What I can, I try to do. This is a very good post, kindled the feelings in me, to come out with this. |
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| | i agree eljaype, sometimes we do carry this affection far beyond and sometime when others point it out saying i am looking at the image of that person i want to retain in my mind, then you notice your love for them has put a smoke screen to the actual image and we live on expecting and expecting...sunkan |
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| | But Sundari, expecting a smile or a kind word from our friends doesn't become expecting, isn't it? That's what friends are for.. just to give encouragement when it is needed the most and I know for sure that we cannot expect these from a blood relation. |
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| |  Dear Sunkan Ma'am You write so beautifully and rasie so many relevant topics. It loved reading this post Warm Regards Ansh |
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| | very true eljaype, that is y we seek from outsiders, who are able to understand us so well, sometime words fail..sunkan |
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