hi all,
Life has taught us lot of things...we have been shocked, had our quota of fun, and also impressed and impacted from the everyday news...The panchantra stories to the chicken soup to the today's real life stories...
This is from our desk...shanvy and vysan
Life has taught us lot of things...we have been shocked, had our quota of fun, and also impressed and impacted from the everyday news...The panchantra stories to the chicken soup to the today's real life stories...
This is from our desk...shanvy and vysan
Trust is a two way street...
Raji, checks her husband’s purse , emails everyday.
Sharadha, eavesdrops on her daughter’s phone calls, from the other line.
Radha wants a time table of the time her husbands spends, when not with her.
Raju, wants to know second by second info about what his wife does. He even asks his mother to keep watch on her.
In all the above examples from everyday happening, there is one thing that is absent partially or completely.
It reminds me of the quote somebody passed me sometime back. In God we trust, others we virus scan .
When I saw it, I felt, do we as human pass everybody through the scanner. When I mentioned the same to Veda, he said “Dear, we humans have come to the stage, where few of us would not mind even putting God under the scanner”.
So what is trust, according to me it is having conviction, complete faith in somebody. Trust is a very simple five letter word but it carries a lot of weightage in all relationships, self or others.
Trust starts at self. Trusting ourselves is the first step to learn to trust. Trust and confidence are two sides of the coin. When you have confidence in yourself, you learn to trust yourself. It makes you have a positive outlook of everything, everybody around you. You distrust yourselves, because of the fear of failures. If we do not trust, and accept the flaws and talents with confidence, we will never be able to unleash the power of our confidence which brings in a harmony of thoughts, actions. When self trust is built, we know our worthiness, our value.
Trust, is a emotion, that allows us to learn to share our inner most feelings with a person.
Trust is a two way street. You need to trust the other person, to allow him to trust you that is showing that you are trustworthy.
There are at times, we trust blindly. Kids trust the parents judgment blindly. As teens, the same kids try to reason out their judgment, at the same time, parents should also open up and show their trust in their wards.
Your relationship works, only if you are able to trust your partner with your past, present and future. Though trust takes time and nurturing and effort, to build, can be broken very easily and also very hard to build it back.
Trusting others poses challenges; it is not also wise to be gullible. Being naïve is equally harmful as being cynical about everything.
Some say trust what your intuition says, some say go by your previous experiences and there are others who say don’t color your judgment because of your past experiences.
Always remember when mistrust comes in, love goes out.
So what do you have to say about trust.???
Sharadha, eavesdrops on her daughter’s phone calls, from the other line.
Radha wants a time table of the time her husbands spends, when not with her.
Raju, wants to know second by second info about what his wife does. He even asks his mother to keep watch on her.
In all the above examples from everyday happening, there is one thing that is absent partially or completely.
It reminds me of the quote somebody passed me sometime back. In God we trust, others we virus scan .
When I saw it, I felt, do we as human pass everybody through the scanner. When I mentioned the same to Veda, he said “Dear, we humans have come to the stage, where few of us would not mind even putting God under the scanner”.
So what is trust, according to me it is having conviction, complete faith in somebody. Trust is a very simple five letter word but it carries a lot of weightage in all relationships, self or others.
Trust starts at self. Trusting ourselves is the first step to learn to trust. Trust and confidence are two sides of the coin. When you have confidence in yourself, you learn to trust yourself. It makes you have a positive outlook of everything, everybody around you. You distrust yourselves, because of the fear of failures. If we do not trust, and accept the flaws and talents with confidence, we will never be able to unleash the power of our confidence which brings in a harmony of thoughts, actions. When self trust is built, we know our worthiness, our value.
Trust, is a emotion, that allows us to learn to share our inner most feelings with a person.
Trust is a two way street. You need to trust the other person, to allow him to trust you that is showing that you are trustworthy.
There are at times, we trust blindly. Kids trust the parents judgment blindly. As teens, the same kids try to reason out their judgment, at the same time, parents should also open up and show their trust in their wards.
Your relationship works, only if you are able to trust your partner with your past, present and future. Though trust takes time and nurturing and effort, to build, can be broken very easily and also very hard to build it back.
Trusting others poses challenges; it is not also wise to be gullible. Being naïve is equally harmful as being cynical about everything.
Some say trust what your intuition says, some say go by your previous experiences and there are others who say don’t color your judgment because of your past experiences.
Always remember when mistrust comes in, love goes out.
So what do you have to say about trust.???
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Dear Shanthi,
In the story of Mahabharath Dronacharya sends Dharmaputhra and Duryodana to find out whether people are good or bad. To Dharmaputhra all are seems to be good and Duryodhand finds all bad.
Like wise a thief will think all are thieves and flirting men won't trust their wives.
But in the present era there are people who have two faces, one showing out and the other buried in side. So we have to be careful in choosing trustworthy people.
Love,
PSPosted 14th September 2008 at 09:23 PM by Pushpavalli Srinivasan
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Shanthi,
Trust is the need of the hour, why, because it is becoming shortage among humans..
Some trust others easily, some trust others after some time..likewise there are many categories..
The quotes you had mentioned here are absolutely true..
Trust is a two-way street...give and take...
sriniketanPosted 14th September 2008 at 10:06 PM by Sriniketan -
Dear Shanthi...I agree with your views...Trust is the basic foundation for any relationship on which the bond grows. A little crack there, would be shaky for the bond and weaken the growth of the relation and threaten to fall or break anytime.
Its the complete trust of the child in its parents that make it happier and healthy. We have noticed that its that innocent strong trust that make a baby giggle when the parents throw the kid up and play with. The kid knows that it is in safe hands.
Would not it be nice if the same trust existed between the people and the governments.As you mentioned it has to be a two way street here too.Posted 15th September 2008 at 01:41 AM by Saraswathipv 
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Shanthi dear, very interesting and very imp TOPIC FOR ALL TIME, yes, TRUST is the base for everything and anything grows and goes well only if there is TRUST ,yes, NAMIKAI DHAN VAZKAIEY but the world is changing now,we are surrounded with lot of good and bad people, ( i heard in one tamil sons these lines
PAALUKUM KALUKKUM VANNAM ONDRU DHAN
PARTHAL RENDUM ONDRU DHAN
ANAL VERU VERU DHAN )
So we have to very careful in choosing right and trustworthy persons as pushpa mam says, otherwise we end up in big trouble, for ex. there are many people like me , dont know whom to trust and not, i will trust everybody t, thatoo BLINDLY and feel for that later
And, Raji, sharadha, and radha in those three people, i find something in common, that is POSSESSIVENESS , its not that they dont TRUST / SUSPECT their close relations, but they feel possissive of them, is it not??? ofcourse, i too dont agree in checking them , then and there . like raju and i als feel that this possessiveness in one point of time will build very strong TRUST between them
and, i too feel very stronlgy that LOVE is base for all these things TURST , CONFIDENCE etc. where there is true and unconditional LOVE we automatically TRUST those people very blindly too and if we dont love that person truly atumatcially TURST will lack there ( my opinion)
I cannot agree with this words shanthi " Your relationship works, only if you are able to trust your partner with your past, present and future", i have seen lot of cases , we cannot take all everybody for granted , sometimes it will be good not to share the past and to be TRUSTFUL to them in the present and future is most important PAST IS PAST , is it not??!!!
Always remember when mistrust comes in, love goes out - yes, dear, you are right, we cant do anything to strengthen that relationship , IF TRUST IS GONE and if there is TRUST nothing can break that too
( sorry, if iam confusing u, iam trying my lelvel best to convey whatever i feel, may not right in language, pls bear with me)Posted 15th September 2008 at 02:57 AM by latamurali - Very true, Shanthi. i couldn't resist smiling at your statement, "In God we trust, others we virus scan" - What a powerful and apt statement it is! This post rewinds my mind to about 10 years ago - i had a very liberated and extremely adorable English teacher at College. He used to often say "A man mistrusts his wife mainly because in his deep down conscious, he would be looking at other women in an inappropriate manner and so he thinks the same of other men too". i don't mean to gender bias here and this point is applicable to women as well. Mistrust often creeps in when we have cracks in our own personality.Posted 15th September 2008 at 03:03 AM by soumyakans
