hi all,
Life has taught us lot of things...we have been shocked, had our quota of fun, and also impressed and impacted from the everyday news...The panchantra stories to the chicken soup to the today's real life stories...
This is from our desk...shanvy and vysan
Life has taught us lot of things...we have been shocked, had our quota of fun, and also impressed and impacted from the everyday news...The panchantra stories to the chicken soup to the today's real life stories...
This is from our desk...shanvy and vysan
Power of a Praise
Posted 29th January 2008 at 04:20 AM by Shanvy
On sunday, my daughter tried making noodles fry, the noodles were a little salty and mushy. She felt bad. But I praised her for her efforts..she came and hugged me and said Mom, only you can say it is so nice....a simple praise put back that smile and confidence..
It showed me the power of a praise. Some people make you by encouraging you and with time , you feel they have helped making you. and there are other people w ho can make you feel ripped to pieces.
People who have been successful in their life are the ones who have mastered the art of helping making others.
Praising a employee boosts up the performance. When a teacher praises a student, the student is devoted to the teacher for life.
What about family? the moment you praise others, you have a good feel in yourself, a radiance in the person you praise and also change in equations of relationships.
Remember the times, we waited for a word of praise from dads, mums and the high that we felt when we were showered.
Let us not praise people, just because it is expected. I would go one step further and would say be on the watch out for the postive actions of your family members. And never lie to them which could harm them. Instead when they do something great and right, they deserve a pat and praise, don't be stingy then.
If you're sincere, your praise is effective. If you're insincere, the same is manipulative
By praising, you are allowing relationships to grow. Be it your friends, colleagues, family. just praise your maid once and see the effect.!!!
You get loyalty from the person,because they know that you appreciate them, care for them.
Next time your child is honest, or does something good...don't hesitate to give a hug,pat and tell him how much you appreciate it.
The same with your husband/wife..you can do the same by way of cards or small notes...
We need to keep up the confidence, happiness of our family and praise is something all of us thrive on,there are others waiting in the world to rip us apart.
There is power in praising people
. don't you agree...
It showed me the power of a praise. Some people make you by encouraging you and with time , you feel they have helped making you. and there are other people w ho can make you feel ripped to pieces.
People who have been successful in their life are the ones who have mastered the art of helping making others.
Praising a employee boosts up the performance. When a teacher praises a student, the student is devoted to the teacher for life.
What about family? the moment you praise others, you have a good feel in yourself, a radiance in the person you praise and also change in equations of relationships.
Remember the times, we waited for a word of praise from dads, mums and the high that we felt when we were showered.
Let us not praise people, just because it is expected. I would go one step further and would say be on the watch out for the postive actions of your family members. And never lie to them which could harm them. Instead when they do something great and right, they deserve a pat and praise, don't be stingy then.
If you're sincere, your praise is effective. If you're insincere, the same is manipulative
By praising, you are allowing relationships to grow. Be it your friends, colleagues, family. just praise your maid once and see the effect.!!!
You get loyalty from the person,because they know that you appreciate them, care for them.
Next time your child is honest, or does something good...don't hesitate to give a hug,pat and tell him how much you appreciate it.
The same with your husband/wife..you can do the same by way of cards or small notes...
We need to keep up the confidence, happiness of our family and praise is something all of us thrive on,there are others waiting in the world to rip us apart.
There is power in praising people
. don't you agree...
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 |  Yes Shanti, Very true. I never praise anyone just becos it is expected. But when it is sincere it goes a long way to make the person feel proud. In fact whenever I see someone wearing a dress new/nice at work or at home I say it is nice. There are many who ask me how did you know it was new, make the effort and you have made someone's day. My DD , the older one, will not lie, not even for fun . This is something that I taught her at this age itself, so that she will know that truth triumphs. When she follows it to the T, i give here a hug. Her day is made. My friends' live in maid is very fond of me, bcos I praised her effort at making the lunch, when they had called us over. No one else talks to her on the phone whereas I keep talking to her for a few mins if my friend is not around or even if she is there. When I notice someone excel at what they are doing , I cannot but utter that word of praise. Do it when you really think it is worth it. I agree with you, it makes a huge difference. |
  Updated 29th January 2008 at 04:57 AM by Jananikrithsan |
| |  dear shanthi, i as a mother had to face my daughter giving me black sabjis as they will forget taking it out of kadai reading a archie comic, or the different geography of the various countries all over the world in the name of chapathi, a lot of salt and sometime chillies. have savored them all, now my son in law says none is the world can cook like my wife, i only go through mentally all i went through and am happy i encouraged them to continue cooking so that they hear this after marriage.. |
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| | Shanvy, When a child begins to walk, the mother's excitement and encouragement creates more motivation for the child than its own physical energy. The pat you gave to your DD must have been such a confidence booster. These are moments that she will always cherish. Were she to be scolded for making bad noodles, she might even begin to dislike cooking. You rightly pointed out about encouraging teachers. We tend to remember their words long after we have left school and college. I am a fledgling sketcher and many many artists that I meet online talk of how their art took a back-seat because of art teachers who told them they were no good at art and they began to believe in it as youngsters. |
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| | hai shanvy, whatever u have said is true....everybody needs a pat ...it boosts us and encourage us to do more .....I always do this to my children...because i love the way they smile and hug me after hearing the praise from me... rkalpana |
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| | As always, you have written well with a topic that matters. A blog that brings many happy memories to my mind. As a teenager I loved to experiment cooking. The very first dish I made was morkozhambu since it was my Dad's favourite. My initial trials were diastrous, bread bonda never stayed in one piece. But Dad and his brothers always appreciated my efforts, they ate the stuff bad as it was. And always spoke about it to tehir friends. I think that sort of indulgence, tolerence and affection blessed me to become a reasonably okay cook today. I think you have touched a chord with such topics. No words of praise will suffice to define your work in IL. |
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| |  dear Shanvy, What u have told is right.Praise when given in the right time of need can make wonders.That too when kids are praised,the blushing in their face is an open scale for the raise in their confidence level. Nice blog................. Shantha |
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| |  Very nicely written Shanthi..I know its true since i practice it everyday..fortunately for me it comes naturally..unlike some where you know its artificially done.I enjoyed the very nice narrative style that you have..KEEP it UP ! Great Job!!!!!!? |
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| |  Dearmost shanthi...i go with AC's words.....even for me it comes naturally.hope u know about this character of mine very well.i neverever fail to praise anyone ........i willl speak out whole hertedly and say my paraise to them whoever they may be..........i feel it improves our bondage with them by doing so...... and also motivate them to do that more effectively.....next time..... |
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| |  A very nice blog Shanvy. There sure is a power for praise. And it can do wonders. A right praise at the right moment makes a person to take an extra effort in what ever he/she is doing. Personally I have to go a long way in praising. I am little stingy in when it comes to praising. I know I have to change. keep blogging. Vidhi |
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| | Very true Shanthi that praise can do wonders in reaffirming ones faith in their own abilities and propelling the person to do better. Especially when it comes from someone whois genuine in showering praise. Have any of you noticed that some people praise but they append it with some sort of advice or constructive criticism. For ex. “You cooked very well. For next time may be you could also decorate the food nicely so it will add to the charm of the dish”. Now nothing wrong with this sentence per say. But I think somehow the praise is lost here. I would rather have it and give it without adding the last piece of advice. Other times advice is good but when praising I think we must praise without any dilution. SS |
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| |  Nice one Shanthi....I have always admired the ease with which U put ur thoughts in words... Yes, a pat on the back, a appreciative hug, small sweet words help one gain so much in confidence... There are times when one fails miserably. It is then that small words or gestures from parents and closed ones give that person the much needed affirmation that he is valued...That is enough for them to restart with a bang. Convey my  to ur daughter for trying noodles fry... |
| Updated 1st February 2008 at 11:15 PM by Saraswathipv |
| |  janani, A  to your daughter. My son also will not tell lies. and it is a great virtue, that i appreciate today.. i really don't know how things will be for him tomorrow...keeping my fingers crossed for kids like them...It is really making the day of your colleague..and you deserve a  . A word , here and there applauding their work really means a lot to lot of people.. |
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| | sunkan, I can really visualise priya and chitra giving you all those sabjis and you as a wonderful mom giving them your glowing feedback..look how much has come o ut of it..now chitra is making waves with her cooking...you deserve a pat for being a wonderful mom and human being... |
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| | nivedi, The problem with DD, is you can't see a new recipe, in front of her..I am scared of her enthu..but I have one rule she can not try without me being at home and informed... Regarding teachers, my son is a victim..my son and daughter both were learning keyboard. my son is 3 years younger to my daughter but they are of equal height. the master told him, look at your sister, how well she plays the keyboard, why can't you play like her (he assumed they were twins..) now he does not touch the keyboard.. Do post your pieces here in the forum. would love to have lot of people my dd can look upon to... |
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| | Kalpana, thanks for stepping in. Nothing can beat the light in their eyes and the big smile..it lights up our life...the power of a single praise to the kids and the effect is to be experienced |
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| | V24, I am happy to have brought back pleasant memories. even when i wrote this i was t hinking of my dad, who was my first victim for whatever i made then..but he used to always praise me.. My FIL loves sweets, if i make something he will relish it so much, if you ask him how is it..he will tell me "what is so great about making a sweet, you can never make mistakes with sweets..." But his relishing is the thing i take seriously.. I just write as i feel about a topic.... |
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| | kasisheela, Thanks for your comments. yes to see the kids glow from the praise is a picture to be watched and cherished.. |
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| | AC , thank you. I feel a praise which really comes from the heart touches our heart. and we can easily differentiate between t he two... |
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| | LM, With the interaction in the forum, I know praising comes spontaneously to you. It definitely bonds people sometimes... |
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| | Vidhi, Thank you. There is definitely great power in praise. Sometimes, you except a word of praise from a person, and when u receive it lifts you and if u dont it makes you droop. so better be lavish when they deserve.... |
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