hi all,
Life has taught us lot of things...we have been shocked, had our quota of fun, and also impressed and impacted from the everyday news...The panchantra stories to the chicken soup to the today's real life stories...
This is from our desk...shanvy and vysan
Life has taught us lot of things...we have been shocked, had our quota of fun, and also impressed and impacted from the everyday news...The panchantra stories to the chicken soup to the today's real life stories...
This is from our desk...shanvy and vysan
Power of a Praise
Posted 29th January 2008 at 05:20 AM by Shanvy
On sunday, my daughter tried making noodles fry, the noodles were a little salty and mushy. She felt bad. But I praised her for her efforts..she came and hugged me and said Mom, only you can say it is so nice....a simple praise put back that smile and confidence..
It showed me the power of a praise. Some people make you by encouraging you and with time , you feel they have helped making you. and there are other people w ho can make you feel ripped to pieces.
People who have been successful in their life are the ones who have mastered the art of helping making others.
Praising a employee boosts up the performance. When a teacher praises a student, the student is devoted to the teacher for life.
What about family? the moment you praise others, you have a good feel in yourself, a radiance in the person you praise and also change in equations of relationships.
Remember the times, we waited for a word of praise from dads, mums and the high that we felt when we were showered.
Let us not praise people, just because it is expected. I would go one step further and would say be on the watch out for the postive actions of your family members. And never lie to them which could harm them. Instead when they do something great and right, they deserve a pat and praise, don't be stingy then.
If you're sincere, your praise is effective. If you're insincere, the same is manipulative
By praising, you are allowing relationships to grow. Be it your friends, colleagues, family. just praise your maid once and see the effect.!!!
You get loyalty from the person,because they know that you appreciate them, care for them.
Next time your child is honest, or does something good...don't hesitate to give a hug,pat and tell him how much you appreciate it.
The same with your husband/wife..you can do the same by way of cards or small notes...
We need to keep up the confidence, happiness of our family and praise is something all of us thrive on,there are others waiting in the world to rip us apart.
There is power in praising people
. don't you agree...
It showed me the power of a praise. Some people make you by encouraging you and with time , you feel they have helped making you. and there are other people w ho can make you feel ripped to pieces.
People who have been successful in their life are the ones who have mastered the art of helping making others.
Praising a employee boosts up the performance. When a teacher praises a student, the student is devoted to the teacher for life.
What about family? the moment you praise others, you have a good feel in yourself, a radiance in the person you praise and also change in equations of relationships.
Remember the times, we waited for a word of praise from dads, mums and the high that we felt when we were showered.
Let us not praise people, just because it is expected. I would go one step further and would say be on the watch out for the postive actions of your family members. And never lie to them which could harm them. Instead when they do something great and right, they deserve a pat and praise, don't be stingy then.
If you're sincere, your praise is effective. If you're insincere, the same is manipulative
By praising, you are allowing relationships to grow. Be it your friends, colleagues, family. just praise your maid once and see the effect.!!!
You get loyalty from the person,because they know that you appreciate them, care for them.
Next time your child is honest, or does something good...don't hesitate to give a hug,pat and tell him how much you appreciate it.
The same with your husband/wife..you can do the same by way of cards or small notes...
We need to keep up the confidence, happiness of our family and praise is something all of us thrive on,there are others waiting in the world to rip us apart.
There is power in praising people
. don't you agree...
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Yes Shanti,
Very true. I never praise anyone just becos it is expected. But when it is sincere it goes a long way to make the person feel proud. In fact whenever I see someone wearing a dress new/nice at work or at home I say it is nice. There are many who ask me how did you know it was new, make the effort and you have made someone's day.
My DD , the older one, will not lie, not even for fun . This is something that I taught her at this age itself, so that she will know that truth triumphs. When she follows it to the T, i give here a hug. Her day is made.
My friends' live in maid is very fond of me, bcos I praised her effort at making the lunch, when they had called us over. No one else talks to her on the phone whereas I keep talking to her for a few mins if my friend is not around or even if she is there.
When I notice someone excel at what they are doing , I cannot but utter that word of praise. Do it when you really think it is worth it. I agree with you, it makes a huge difference.Posted 29th January 2008 at 05:49 AM by Jananikrithsan
Updated 29th January 2008 at 05:57 AM by Jananikrithsan -
dear shanthi,
i as a mother had to face my daughter giving me black sabjis as they will forget taking it out of kadai reading a archie comic, or the different geography of the various countries all over the world in the name of chapathi, a lot of salt and sometime chillies.
have savored them all, now my son in law says none is the world can cook like my wife, i only go through mentally all i went through and am happy i encouraged them to continue cooking so that they hear this after marriage..Posted 29th January 2008 at 05:54 AM by sunkan - Shanvy,
When a child begins to walk, the mother's excitement and encouragement creates more motivation for the child than its own physical energy. The pat you gave to your DD must have been such a confidence booster. These are moments that she will always cherish. Were she to be scolded for making bad noodles, she might even begin to dislike cooking.
You rightly pointed out about encouraging teachers. We tend to remember their words long after we have left school and college.
I am a fledgling sketcher and many many artists that I meet online talk of how their art took a back-seat because of art teachers who told them they were no good at art and they began to believe in it as youngsters.Posted 29th January 2008 at 08:35 AM by Nivedi - hai shanvy,
whatever u have said is true....everybody needs a pat ...it boosts us and encourage us to do more .....I always do this to my children...because i love the way they smile and hug me after hearing the praise from me...
rkalpanaPosted 29th January 2008 at 11:48 AM by rkalpana - As always, you have written well with a topic that matters. A blog that brings many happy memories to my mind. As a teenager I loved to experiment cooking. The very first dish I made was morkozhambu since it was my Dad's favourite. My initial trials were diastrous, bread bonda never stayed in one piece. But Dad and his brothers always appreciated my efforts, they ate the stuff bad as it was. And always spoke about it to tehir friends. I think that sort of indulgence, tolerence and affection blessed me to become a reasonably okay cook today. I think you have touched a chord with such topics. No words of praise will suffice to define your work in IL.Posted 29th January 2008 at 01:08 PM by Vidya24
