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Life has taught us lot of things...we have been shocked, had our quota of fun, and also impressed and impacted from the everyday news...The panchantra stories to the chicken soup to the today's real life stories...
This is from our desk...shanvy and vysan
Is it difficult to say - I Love You ?????
Posted 9th May 2008 at 03:30 AM by shanvy
There was a gathering of all friends along with our families at a park. After the initial refreshment, we all started having few games. The children started playing badminton and the men started playing cricket. Being summer soon they were back in the shades. Then we had a game of pictionary. We had a roaring time. Even this could not keep us engaged for long. So started a questionnaire for the adults, and the kids. It was a set of questions from a bible class attended by one of our friends. The questions for the adults,
(All adults were in the 28-40 age groups)
In case of the kid’s discussion, the kids felt over stressed. Sometimes they felt that we were forcing our likes and dislikes on them. Some even felt they were not loved much.
Well it left me thinking. Why is it difficult to show that we love others? All of us live a stressed out life. It is nothing new to us. But the stress taking its effect on family and relationships is to be checked and nipped off in the beginning itself.
Everyone wants to be loved and cherished by someone. You want to know there is a loving someone out there for you. Some of us just know that they are there, and few of us want the other to tell or proclaim their being there to us.
So a simple I LOVE YOU could mean a lot to the other. When you are down, and somebody you love comes to you and says I love you, it gives you the moral strength of moving forward with a brighter smile at least for the sake of that person. There is great strength and power in these words.
In our family the ILU/143/ I miss you are very common. Even FIL does not shy from telling his grandchildren. Initially we were a laughing stock of the whole family for going around saying I love you to the other.
My DD and DS shout I love you mom before going to school. Initially it was a joke for my neighbours. Now I see many of the kids calling out to their mom’s saying bye and take care.
Well, when I bake a cake, and the kids come home from school, they see the cake, they say thanks and a hug and a love you mom makes me have achieved a great goal.
They know the effort it takes for me to do certain tasks. And a hug and a love you makes me do it again and again even if it is hard for me.
I remember when I was newly married, even to reciprocate to his ILU would be difficult in front of others. Later it became easy and others just taking it casually helped a lot.
You know that your wife/husband/kids/parents love you, but a voice to those feelings always feels great and adds more weightage when the words are professed at least once.
I for one know that the words I LOVE YOU is a miracle worker, a smile of happiness, a bright cheery I LOVE YOU TOO could make a depressing day into a day of sunshine.
I know most of you would agree. Don’t you ???
(All adults were in the 28-40 age groups)
- What do you like the most in your partner?
- what do you dislike the most in your partner
- what do you wish more from your partner
- whom do you like more between your parents
- what do you like more about your parents
- what do you dislike more about your parents
In case of the kid’s discussion, the kids felt over stressed. Sometimes they felt that we were forcing our likes and dislikes on them. Some even felt they were not loved much.
Well it left me thinking. Why is it difficult to show that we love others? All of us live a stressed out life. It is nothing new to us. But the stress taking its effect on family and relationships is to be checked and nipped off in the beginning itself.
Everyone wants to be loved and cherished by someone. You want to know there is a loving someone out there for you. Some of us just know that they are there, and few of us want the other to tell or proclaim their being there to us.
So a simple I LOVE YOU could mean a lot to the other. When you are down, and somebody you love comes to you and says I love you, it gives you the moral strength of moving forward with a brighter smile at least for the sake of that person. There is great strength and power in these words.
In our family the ILU/143/ I miss you are very common. Even FIL does not shy from telling his grandchildren. Initially we were a laughing stock of the whole family for going around saying I love you to the other.
My DD and DS shout I love you mom before going to school. Initially it was a joke for my neighbours. Now I see many of the kids calling out to their mom’s saying bye and take care.
Well, when I bake a cake, and the kids come home from school, they see the cake, they say thanks and a hug and a love you mom makes me have achieved a great goal.
They know the effort it takes for me to do certain tasks. And a hug and a love you makes me do it again and again even if it is hard for me.
I remember when I was newly married, even to reciprocate to his ILU would be difficult in front of others. Later it became easy and others just taking it casually helped a lot.
You know that your wife/husband/kids/parents love you, but a voice to those feelings always feels great and adds more weightage when the words are professed at least once.
I for one know that the words I LOVE YOU is a miracle worker, a smile of happiness, a bright cheery I LOVE YOU TOO could make a depressing day into a day of sunshine.
I know most of you would agree. Don’t you ???
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 |  hi, iam madhu i have read the blog and i agree with it 100 percent. yes by saying ILU some people get a lot of moral strength and they get ready to do anything for that person in any situation.mainly a house wife who serves all members at home according to their needs,feels very happy when her hubby and kids say ILU to her when they return home. and some dont' feel it necesary to express. mainly men feel that this is foolish way to express their feeling.they say that who really love they dont need to express it.but every one needs love and loved ones to express also. |
Posted 9th May 2008 at 05:23 AM by madhumathi1974  |
| |  Hi, Very nice and wonderful article. I feel I need to start expessing ........I used to feel the expression of Love is not by words but deeds. These days I realised words r equally imp. Ur blog has made me think more now! I sure need to start staying I LOVE YOU :p |
| Posted 9th May 2008 at 07:35 AM by cheers_sunray |
| |  It's common here and my other's place Shanthi. Some people have forgotten to use this word, which has such big healing effect. Makes me feel secured and confident when I receive and I can see the change in a person, when I say it out to them... It's not possible to use the words insincerely, because the habit fades that way with that person, but even with loved ones, we use it less unfortunately. Thanks for bringing it to light again. And the game was interesting too. |
| Posted 9th May 2008 at 11:00 AM by MeenLoch |
| |  you are right shanthi these are magical words........I get this to hear many times in a day.........from both. The whole days loneliness washes away. I feel telling atleast once in a day brings ur bondness more stronger among ur loved ones. Like an apple a day keeps the doc away ........same way ILU a day keeps ur stress away.......... |
| Posted 11th May 2008 at 07:04 AM by Arunarc |
| |  Hi Shanvy, Nice post. I completely agree with you on this. Giving compliments and word of love are the main things which makes a person feel very nice.. very nice post.. |
| Posted 11th May 2008 at 08:53 AM by sudhanarayanan |
| |  Madhu expressions are needed,Thanks for stepping in. and also agreeing that saying I love you is very much essential. |
| Posted 12th May 2008 at 11:30 PM by shanvy |
| | cheers sunrays,Thanks for coming in. there are times when the words don’t mean anything and only the deeds need to speak. And there are some times when the deeds do look dumb and the words look powerful and wiser..seems confusing., no, it is just to say that there are times when you need to just say that you love them, if possible with a hug. Start today. |
| Posted 12th May 2008 at 11:31 PM by shanvy |
| | Vidya, happy to add to the hang,Nice to know it is common at your home. Yes when you receive, you feel the most special and cherished person out there. And when giving, you make the other person feel that they are too special to you. When it is said insincerely it does not last long, because it will not get a reciprocation. But when it comes sincerely and truly, it gets multiplied. That is the power of saying I love you. Some of the answers to other questions were revealing and eye openers too. Gave a good insight into what is wrong, where we can improve. It is a good game . |
| Posted 12th May 2008 at 11:32 PM by shanvy |
| | Dear EQ,Nice to know that you also follow and agree with the power of ILU. I sure agree with you that saying ILU’s will definitely will keep you out of stress. Thanks for joining me here. |
| Posted 12th May 2008 at 11:33 PM by shanvy |
| | Dear Sudha, Thanks for agreeingGiving a compliment or saying ILU sincerely means a lot to the person who receives it. It is easy to express once we start practising. |
| Posted 12th May 2008 at 11:38 PM by shanvy Updated 12th May 2008 at 11:39 PM by shanvy |
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